٣- مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يَحْيَى عَنْ أَحْمَدَ بْنِ مُحَمَّدٍ عَنْ عَلِيِّ بْنِ الْحَكَمِ عَنْ عَلِيِّ بْنِ أَبِي حَمْزَةَ قَالَ سَأَلْتُ أَبَا الْحَسَنِ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) عَنْ قَوْلِ اللهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ وَلكِنْ لا تُواعِدُوهُنَّ سِرًّا قَالَ يَقُولُ الرَّجُلُ أُوَاعِدُكِ بَيْتَ آلِ فُلانٍ يُعَرِّضُ لَهَا بِالرَّفَثِ وَيَرْفُثُ يَقُولُ اللهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ إِلا أَنْ تَقُولُوا قَوْلا مَعْرُوفاً وَالْقَوْلُ الْمَعْرُوفُ التَّعْرِيضُ بِالْخِطْبَةِ عَلَى وَجْهِهَا وَحِلِّهَا وَلا تَعْزِمُوا عُقْدَةَ النِّكاحِ حَتَّى يَبْلُغَ الْكِتابُ أَجَلَهُ.
3. Muhammad ibn Yahya has narrated from Ahmad ibn Muhammad from Ali ibn al-Hakam from Ali ibn abu Hamzah who has said the following: “I once asked abu al-Hassan , about the words of Allah, most Majestic, most Glorious, ‘. . . but you must not secretly date such women (during their waiting period).’ (2:235). He (the Imam) said, ‘It is his saying, “The place for your date (with me) is the house of the family of so and so where he asks her for rafath (sexual intercourse) and performs it, and Allah, most Majestic, most Glorious, says, “Unless you speak in a lawful manner.” Speaking in a lawful manner is proposing for marriage the way it should be in a lawful manner which is, “You must not decide forming the terms of marriage until the appointed time of waiting period is complete.’”” 