CHICAGO ---Call it a reward, or just "bribery ". 

Whichever it is, many parents today readily admit to buying off their children, who getgoodies for anything from behaving in a restaurant to sleeping all night in their own beds. 

That's what worries parenting experts. 

"I think that reward systems have a time and a place and work really well in certain situations," says Marcy Safyer, director of the Adelphi University Institute for Parenting. 

"But what often gets lost for people is being able to figure out how to communicate to their kids that doing the thing is rewarding enough," Safyer says. 

Parents and experts alike agree that thedynamic is partly a reflection of the world we live in. It's unrealistic to think a parent wouldn't reward their children with material things sometimes, says Robin Lanzi, a clinical psychologist and mother of four who's the research director at the Center on Health and Education at Georgetown University. 

"But you want to make sure that they match the behavior, so it's not something huge for something small," Lanzi says. 

She recalls hearing about a father who offered his child a Nintendo Wii game system for scoring a couple goals in a soccer game. 

Elizabeth Powell, a mother of two young daughters in Austin, Texas, knows what she means. 

"You want to raise them in a way that they're respectful and appreciate things," Powell says of her children. "But sometimes, you wonder now if kids appreciate even a new pair of shoes. " QUESTIONS:

Q1:
1. What sorts of behaviors do parents admit they give positive reinforcement to?
2. What way of acting are parents saying freely that they rewards?
3. 
Q2:
1. How should rewards be distributed, according to the experts?
2. What is the best way to recognize good behavior, say the experts?
3. 
Q3:
1. What's an example that an expert has seen of giving a big reward for something small?
2. When has an expert seen a large reward given for a feeble task?
3. 
Q4:
1. Why do parents struggle with reasonable rewards?
2. What aren't parents good at doing?
3. 
Q5:
1. Is it realistic to imagine that parents give rewards from time to time?
2. Is it normal to assume that children will sometimes receive awards?
3. 
Q6:
1. What university does Robin Lanzi work for?
2. Which institution of higher learning employs Robin Lanzi?
3. 
Q7:
1. What school is the researcher that's not Robin Lanzi from?
2. What school employs Marcy Safyer?
3. 
