API: query / boolean selection with nullable dtypes with NAs
#### Code Sample

Create a dataframe with nullable integer, string, and float data types.

```python
>>> df = df = pd.DataFrame({'a': [1, 3, np.nan], 'b': ['rain', 'shine', None], 
                                                    'a_float': [1.1, 3.3, np.nan]})
>>> df = df.convert_dtypes()
>>> df
```

|    | a    | b     |   a_float |
|---:|:-----|:------|----------:|
|  0 | 1    | rain  |       1.1 |
|  1 | 3    | shine |       3.3 |
|  2 | `<NA>` | `<NA>`  |     nan   |

Verify data types and attempt to use `query`

```python
>>> df.dtypes
a            Int64
b            string
a_float      float64

>>> df.query('a > 2') # same as df[df['a'] > 2]
---------------------------------------------------------------------------
ValueError                                Traceback (most recent call last)
~/Documents/Code Practice/pandas-dev/pandas/pandas/core/frame.py in query(self, expr, inplace, **kwargs)
   3227         try:
-> 3228             new_data = self.loc[res]
   3229         except ValueError:

~/Documents/Code Practice/pandas-dev/pandas/pandas/core/indexing.py in __getitem__(self, key)
   1683             maybe_callable = com.apply_if_callable(key, self.obj)
-> 1684             return self._getitem_axis(maybe_callable, axis=axis)
   1685 

~/Documents/Code Practice/pandas-dev/pandas/pandas/core/indexing.py in _getitem_axis(self, key, axis)
   1798             return self._get_slice_axis(key, axis=axis)
-> 1799         elif com.is_bool_indexer(key):
   1800             return self._getbool_axis(key, axis=axis)

~/Documents/Code Practice/pandas-dev/pandas/pandas/core/common.py in is_bool_indexer(key)
    133                 if np.any(key.isna()):
--> 134                     raise ValueError(na_msg)
    135             return True

ValueError: cannot mask with array containing NA / NaN values

During handling of the above exception, another exception occurred:

ValueError                                Traceback (most recent call last)
<ipython-input-52-e5d239635d7b> in <module>
----> 1 df.query('a > 2')

~/Documents/Code Practice/pandas-dev/pandas/pandas/core/frame.py in query(self, expr, inplace, **kwargs)
   3230             # when res is multi-dimensional loc raises, but this is sometimes a
   3231             # valid query
-> 3232             new_data = self[res]
   3233 
   3234         if inplace:

~/Documents/Code Practice/pandas-dev/pandas/pandas/core/frame.py in __getitem__(self, key)
   2784 
   2785         # Do we have a (boolean) 1d indexer?
-> 2786         if com.is_bool_indexer(key):
   2787             return self._getitem_bool_array(key)
   2788 

~/Documents/Code Practice/pandas-dev/pandas/pandas/core/common.py in is_bool_indexer(key)
    132             if is_extension_array_dtype(key.dtype):
    133                 if np.any(key.isna()):
--> 134                     raise ValueError(na_msg)
    135             return True
    136     elif isinstance(key, list):

ValueError: cannot mask with array containing NA / NaN values

>>> df.query('a_float > 2')
```
|    |   a | b     |   a_float |
|---:|----:|:------|----------:|
|  1 |   3 | shine |       3.3 |

Using `query` with strings works...

```python
>>> df.query('b == "rain"')
```
|    |   a | b    |   a_float |
|---:|----:|:-----|----------:|
|  0 |   1 | rain |       1.1 |


...but fails for boolean selection
```python
>>> df[df['b'] == 'rain']
ValueError: cannot mask with array containing NA / NaN values
```

strings also fail for inequalities
```
>>> df.query('b >= "rain"') # also df.query('b > "rain"')
ValueError: cannot mask with array containing NA / NaN values
```

#### Problem description

The `query` method  behaves differently for nullable integers, strings, and floats. Here's my summary of how I think they work with the `query method` assuming there are missing values in the columns.

* nullable integers - fails
* strings - works with equality, fails with inequality
* float - works for all

I find it extremely difficult to use if the behavior for all of these types are different for query and boolean selection.

#### Expected Output

I think I would prefer to have both query and boolean selection working like they do with floats, where missing values evaluate as False in a condition. And even if there are missing values in the boolen mask itself, treat those as False. This would harmonize the behavior for all data types. 

This would leave it up to the user to check for missing values. I believe SQL where clauses work in such a manner (missing values in conditions evaluate as False).

#### Output of ``pd.show_versions()``

<details>

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pyarrow          : None
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pytest           : None
pyxlsb           : None
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scipy            : 1.3.1
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xarray           : None
xlrd             : None
xlwt             : None
xlsxwriter       : None
numba            : None

</details>
