BUG: date_format and datetime_format arguments to ExcelWriter are currently ignored by default openpyxl engine
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### Reproducible Example

```python
import pandas as pd
with pd.ExcelWriter('TEST.xlsx', datetime_format='YYYY-MM-DD') as writer:
    test_df = pd.DataFrame([9000]*10, index=[pd.Timestamp('2021-11-02')]*10)
    test_df.to_excel(writer)
```


### Issue Description

In pandas version 0.24.2, the above example would output nicely formatted dates. In pandas version 1.3.4, it outputs YYYY-MM-DD HH:MM:SS format, ignoring the datetime_format field.
This is probably as simple as openpyxl becoming the new default engine but not being configured for date formatting.

### Expected Behavior

In written Excel sheet, YYYY-MM-DD format dates instead of YYYY-MM-DD HH:MM:SS format dates.

### Installed Versions

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INSTALLED VERSIONS
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commit           : 73c68257545b5f8530b7044f56647bd2db92e2ba
python           : 3.9.7.final.0
python-bits      : 64
OS               : Windows
OS-release       : 10
Version          : 10.0.19042
machine          : AMD64
processor        : Intel64 Family 6 Model 158 Stepping 13, GenuineIntel
byteorder        : little
LC_ALL           : None
LANG             : None
LOCALE           : English_United States.1252
pandas           : 1.3.3
numpy            : 1.20.3
pytz             : 2021.1
dateutil         : 2.8.2
pip              : 21.2.4
setuptools       : 58.0.4
Cython           : None
pytest           : 6.2.4
hypothesis       : None
sphinx           : None
blosc            : None
feather          : None
xlsxwriter       : None
lxml.etree       : None
html5lib         : None
pymysql          : None
psycopg2         : None
jinja2           : None
IPython          : None
pandas_datareader: None
bs4              : None
bottleneck       : 1.3.2
fsspec           : None
fastparquet      : None
gcsfs            : None
matplotlib       : 3.4.3
numexpr          : 2.7.3
odfpy            : None
openpyxl         : 3.0.9
pandas_gbq       : None
pyarrow          : None
pyxlsb           : None
s3fs             : None
scipy            : 1.7.1
sqlalchemy       : None
tables           : None
tabulate         : None
xarray           : None
xlrd             : None
xlwt             : None
numba            : None

</details>
