ARM64 parallel builds
- [x] closes #36719 
- [x] tests added / passed
- [x] Ensure all linting tests pass, see [here](https://pandas.pydata.org/pandas-docs/dev/development/contributing.html#code-standards) for how to run them
- [x] whatsnew entry

Seems to have gotten build from > 1 hr to ~ 38 min. 