ENH: `styler.format` options
- [x] adds to #41395 
- [x] add options
- [x] add tests
- [x] update `Styler.format` docstring
- [x] update `options.rst`
- [x] update `Styler` init docstring
- [x] whatsnew

update user guide **will be a follow-on when all options are merged**

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