BUG: Make DTI/TDI/PI argsort match their underlying arrays
- [x] closes #37863
- [x] tests added / passed
- [x] passes `black pandas`
- [x] passes `git diff upstream/master -u -- "*.py" | flake8 --diff`
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The fix to keep resample working is a kludge I'd like to make unnecessary before merging; cc @mroeschke