validate ='m:m' in dataframe.merge should have a meaningful purpose 
#### Code Sample, a copy-pastable example if possible
Currently, in https://github.com/pandas-dev/pandas/blob/master/pandas/core/reshape/merge.py
```python
elif validate in ["many_to_many", "m:m"]:
            pass

```
#### Problem description

I was expecting m:m to give me a warning/error if either the left or right merge keys are unique.
Isn't that the purpose of specifying m:m? That is to ensure it is really a many to many merge.

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#### Expected Output

Expected an Error that keys are unique in either left/right/both and it is not a many-to-many merge when validate=m:m is specified.

#### Output of ``pd.show_versions()``

<details>

INSTALLED VERSIONS
------------------
commit: None
python: 3.7.3.final.0
python-bits: 64
OS: Windows
OS-release: 10
machine: AMD64
processor: Intel64 Family 6 Model 158 Stepping 10, GenuineIntel
byteorder: little
LC_ALL: None
LANG: None
LOCALE: None.None

pandas: 0.24.2
pytest: 4.3.1
pip: 19.0.3
setuptools: 40.8.0
Cython: 0.29.6
numpy: 1.16.2
scipy: 1.2.1
pyarrow: None
xarray: None
IPython: 7.4.0
sphinx: 1.8.5
patsy: 0.5.1
dateutil: 2.8.0
pytz: 2018.9
blosc: None
bottleneck: 1.2.1
tables: 3.5.1
numexpr: 2.6.9
feather: None
matplotlib: 3.0.3
openpyxl: 2.6.1
xlrd: 1.2.0
xlwt: 1.3.0
xlsxwriter: 1.1.5
lxml.etree: 4.3.2
bs4: 4.7.1
html5lib: 1.0.1
sqlalchemy: 1.3.1
pymysql: None
psycopg2: 2.8.3 (dt dec pq3 ext lo64)
jinja2: 2.10
s3fs: None
fastparquet: None
pandas_gbq: None
pandas_datareader: None
gcsfs: None

</details>
