 I resented it growing up but the value of it – self discipline, focus – I can appreciate as fair trade off.At the same time Oden expressed a close attachment to her father's congregation.It is from this congregation, which she describes as being composed of every economic and physical spectrum from the "chalk-faced, blond-haired, blue-eyed black boy" to the "serpent-eyed, ebony-hued girl," that she learned to disregard color.