"Playing the pronoun game" is the act of concealing sexual orientation in conversation by not using a gender-specific pronoun for a partner or a lover, which would reveal the sexual orientation of the person speaking. Someone may employ the pronoun game when conversing with people to whom they have not "come out". In a situation in which revealing one's sexual orientation would have adverse consequences (such as the loss of a job), playing the pronoun game is seen to be a necessary act of concealment. The pronoun game involves avoiding reference to one's sexual orientation and allowing the listener's assumptions on the matter to prevail. It also involves not drawing the listener's attention to the fact that the sex of a pronoun's antecedent is not being specified. As such, playing the pronoun game involves re-phrasing sentences such that they avoid the need for third-person singular sex-specific pronouns (e.g. "We decided to eat out," rather than "She and I decided to eat out."), often using amphilogism, a form of circumlocution (e.g. "The person I was with and I decided to go to the play"); using gender-neutral language such as "firefighter" rather than "fireman", phrases such as "my partner", "the better half" or "my significant other", or the person's name where it isn't gender-specific; and using gender-neutral pronouns that have long-since entered common usage, such as singular they, without employing uncommonly used (and thus attention-calling) neopronouns such as "thon", "hu", "xe", "sie" and "hir" or the Spivak pronoun construction. See also Circumlocution Closeted Feminist language reform (also known as Feminist Language Planning) Gender neutrality in languages with grammatical gender Gender-neutral language Gender-neutral pronoun He never married Open secret Lavender linguistics References (Gives an example of how people often don't notice someone is playing the pronoun game) External links "The pronoun game" at Everything2 LGBT linguistics Pronouns