that charm and delight women". Despite this he says "Whatever your wife does, do not damage your marriage" and he goes on to say "if you are jealous, do not whisper a word about it... when you are jealous, learn to look up at the ceiling." The message is clearly in the same theme of holding inward and avoiding any embarrassments at all cost. Daniel's advice comes to a climax in what is perhaps the most difficult situation of all: the wife of one's lord makes a sexual proposition. It is a combination of the three problems: hierarchical relationships, control of bodily emissions, and sexual morality. Daniel's solution is to pretend to be ill. See also Medieval literature References Urbanus Magnus Danielis Becclesiensis, ed. J. Gilbart Smyly (Dublin, 1939). Whelan, Fiona, The Making of Manners and Morals in Twelfth-Century England: The Book of the Civilised Man (Routledge, 2017). Whelan, Fiona, 'Administering the Medieval Household 1180–1250: From Daniel of Beccles to Robert Grosseteste', in The Great Household, 1000-1500: Proceedings of the 2016 Harlaxton Symposium (Harlaxton, 2018) Danziger, Danny & Gillingham, John, 1215 - The Year of the Magna Carta (Coronet Books: Hodder and Stoughton, c2003), sub verbum Daniel of Beccles, p. 313. Gillingham, John, "From Civilitas to Civility: Codes of Manners in Medieval and Early Modern England", Transactions of the Royal Historical Society (2002), 6:267-289 Cambridge University Press. Kerr, Julie "The Open Door: Hospitality and Honour in Twelfth/Early Thirteenth-Century England.", History 87 (287), 322-335. (2002) Robert Bartlett. England Under the Norman and Angevin Kings, 1075-1225. Chapter 11.4: "Manners." Oxford: Oxford University Press, 2002. Daniel of Beccles, pub A D Frith 13th-century Latin books British poems Etiquette