you give back to them that equals their gift to you?" Obedience to parents for as long as the child lives at home "when it is for his good or the good of the family", except when obedience would require the child to do something morally wrong. Support that requires grown children to offer material and moral support for their aging parents, particularly at times of "illness, loneliness, or distress". Keeping this commandment, according to the Catechism, also requires duties of parents to children which include: "Moral education, spiritual formation and evangelization" of their children. Respect for their children as children of God and human persons. Proper discipline for children while being careful not to provoke them. "Avoiding pressure to choose a certain profession or spouse", which does not preclude parents from giving "judicious advice". "Being a good example" to their children. "Acknowledging their own failings" to their children to guide and correct them. Jesus' expansion The Gospel of Matthew relates that when told his mother and brothers were waiting to see him, Jesus replied, "Who is my mother and who are my brothers?" Stretching his hand over his disciples he said, "Here are my mother and my brothers! For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother, and my sister, and mother." Pope Benedict XVI stated that this dictum of Jesus brought the fourth commandment to a new and higher level. By doing God's will, any person can become part of the universal family of Jesus. Thus, the fourth commandment's responsibilities extend to the greater society and requires respect for "legitimate social authorities". The Catechism specifies "duties of citizens and nations", which Kreeft summarizes as: "Obedience and honor" to "all who for our good have received authority in society from God". "Payment of taxes, exercising the right to vote and defending one's country". "An obligation to be vigilant and critical", which requires citizens to criticize that which harms human dignity and the community. "A duty to disobey" civil authorities and directives that are contrary to the moral order. "To practice charity", which is a "necessity for any working family or society"; it is the "greatest social commandment" and requires people to love God and neighbor. "To welcome the foreigner" who is in need of security and livelihood that cannot be found in his own country. "An obligation for rich nations to help poor nations", especially