Influence People. Carnegie interprets the request for a favor as "a subtle but effective form of flattery". As Carnegie suggests, when we ask a colleague to do us a favour, we are signalling that we consider them to have something we don't, whether more intelligence, more knowledge, more skills, or whatever. This is another way of showing admiration and respect, something the other person may not have noticed from us before. This immediately raises their opinion of us and makes them more willing to help us again both because they enjoy the admiration and have genuinely started to like us. Psychologist Yu Niiya suggests that the Ben Franklin effect vindicates Takeo Doi's theory of amae (甘え), as described in The Anatomy of Dependence. It states that dependent, childlike behavior can induce a parent-child bond where one partner sees themselves as the caretaker. In effect, amae creates a relationship where one person feels responsible for the other, who is then free to act immaturely and make demands. One commentator has discussed the Ben Franklin effect in connection with dog training, thinking "more about the human side of the relationship rather than about the dogs themselves." While trainers often distinguish between the impact of positive and negative reinforcement-based training methods on the dogs, it can also be relevant to "consider the effects that these two approaches may have upon the trainer. The Ben Franklin Effect suggests that how we treat our dogs during training influences how we think about them as individuals – specifically, how much we like (or dislike) them. When we do nice things for our dogs in the form of treats, praise, petting and play to reinforce desired behaviors, such treatment may result in our liking them more. And, if we use harsh words, collar jerks or hitting in an attempt to change our dog's behavior, then...we will start to like our dog less." Converse The opposite case is also believed to be true, namely that we come to hate a person to whom we did wrong. We de-humanize them to justify the bad things we did to them. It has been suggested that if soldiers who have killed enemy servicemen in combat situations later come to hate them, it is because this psychological maneuver helps to "decrease the dissonance of killing". Such a phenomenon might also "explain long-standing grudges like Hatfield vs. McCoy" or vendetta situations in various