where it is known as triangulation. List of other dysfunctional styles "Using" (destructively narcissistic parents who rule by fear and conditional love.) Abusing (parents who use physical violence, or emotionally, or sexually abuse their children.) Perfectionist (fixating on order, prestige, power, or perfect appearances, while preventing their child from failing at anything.) Dogmatic or cult-like (harsh and inflexible discipline, with children not allowed, within reason, to dissent, question authority, or develop their own value system.) Inequitable parenting (going to extremes for one child while continually ignoring the needs of another.) Deprivation (control or neglect by withholding love, support, necessities, sympathy, praise, attention, encouragement, supervision, or otherwise putting their children's well-being at risk.) Abuse among siblings (parents fail to intervene when a sibling physically or sexually abuses another sibling.) Abandonment (a parent who willfully separates from their children, not wishing any further contact, and in some cases without locating alternative, long-term parenting arrangements, leaving them as orphans.) Appeasement (parents who reward bad behavior—even by their own standards—and inevitably punish another child's good behavior in order to maintain the peace and avoid temper tantrums. "Peace at any price.") Loyalty manipulation (giving unearned rewards and lavish attention trying to ensure a favored, yet rebellious child will be the one most loyal and well-behaved, while subtly ignoring the wants and needs of their most loyal child currently.) "Helicopter parenting" (parents who micro-manage their children's lives or relationships among siblings—especially minor conflicts.) "The deceivers" (well-regarded parents in the community, likely to be involved in some charitable/non-profit works, who abuse or mistreat one or more of their children.) "Public image manager" (sometimes related to above, children warned to not disclose what fights, abuse, or damage happens at home, or face severe punishment "Don't tell anyone what goes on in this family".) "The paranoid parent" (a parent having persistent and irrational fear accompanied by anger and false accusations that their child is up to no good or others are plotting harm.) "No friends allowed" (parents discourage, prohibit, or interfere with their child from making friends of the same age and gender.) Role reversal (parents who expect their minor children to take care of them instead.) "Not your business" (children continuously told that a particular brother or sister who is often causing problems is none of their concern.) Ultra-egalitarianism (either a much younger child is permitted to do whatever an older child may, or an older child must