daunting idea of getting older, outlooks on life, and the moment she discovered she might be gay and how her life changed for the better. Her second book, How to Succeed in Business Without Really Crying was published in 2014. Considered a "part memoir, part guide to life", Leifer tells the public her journey as a comic and entertainer. She gives tips and guides for working in the entertainment industry. Leifer also talks about her personal work experiences, such as her time writing for Saturday Night Live, working with Jerry Seinfeld, and her career as a stand-up comic. Accolades Frank Sinatra praised Leifer as "one funny broad!" and "I wish my mother had been that funny – I wouldn't have had to work so hard." In 1998, Leifer was named by the New York Times as "the only comic among six 'fast-rising artists…to watch' this season" Leifer was nominated for the second annual American Comedy Awards as "Funniest Female Comedy Club Stand-Up Comic." Personal life Previous relationships In 1981, Leifer married comic Ritch Shydner, whose gentile status troubled Leifer's father. They divorced in 1987 and have remained friends. Leifer also briefly dated Jerry Seinfeld before working with him on Seinfeld, on which show the character of Elaine is inspired by her. The two only dated for less than a year and have remained close friends, with Leifer having only positive things to say about him. Coming out Though she had relationships with men and had been married to a man in the past, Carol Leifer identifies as a lesbian. After her divorce from Ritch Shydner, Leifer wanted to explore her sexuality. At age 40, Leifer met her current wife, Lori Wolf, and realized she was gay, not "just looking for a fling" as she originally intended. When coming out, Leifer's family and friends were very supportive, especially her parents. She recalls her father being happy that Lori Wolf was Jewish. When Leifer came out, her comedy and material changed to fit her life, often making jokes about coming out so late in her life and humor based on her and Wolf's relationship. Leifer has faced some negative reception and homophobic hate due to her sexuality. After receiving a homophobic letter, Leifer recalls feeling "I thought I was prepared for something like that, but even 13 years in, it's still a kick in the face." Marriage to Lori Wolf In 1996,