and resolution of the conflict are possible in some situations. A decision to "live life forward", and to not seek the emotional validation of getting the other parties to agree about what happened in the past, helps some people build a functional, if sometimes more limited, relationship. This may involve setting boundaries collaboratively, for example, so that all parties agree that a particularly difficult subject will not be discussed. For example, parents and their adult children may set boundaries together about how often they want to communicate or what information should be considered private. Triggers for reconciliation include changes in the family situation due to death or divorce, worries about health and death, and developing a clearer perspective about the original situation through the passage of time. Substitute families Both the estranger and the estranged may use social and work relationships to create substitute families. Support groups and other highly emotional organizations also provide a conduit for emotional energy from unresolved issues with parents, siblings and other family members. Becoming passionate about a cause or hobby is another coping mechanism, termed sublimation in psychiatry. See also Dassler brothers feud Absenteeism Attachment theory Disownment Emotional detachment Parental alienation Psychological punishment Shunning Social rejection Defence mechanisms References Further reading External links Young Adult Development Project The Bowen Center Stand Alone Charity Together Estranged 501(c)(3) Nonprofit Organization Family Shunning