<prompt> Human: So, as the title states, my BIL has broken his neck. Hes not stable enough for an MRI so there are still some unknowns regarding the extent of his injuries and possible paralysis. Either way, there is a long road of recovery ahead. Other than the obvious ways of showing support, Id like to be better informed of any services of which she may be able to take advantage, or of any organizations that may be able to counsel her through this ordeal. Basically, I want to be able to help her with more than just comfort and work. He gets six months off with full pay. They pay for a home and two cars, and have a 16 month old child.  <response>: While I dont have any experience with paralysis or dealing with that, I do know grief very well and I just want to say that it comes and goes in waves. Being supportive will make a world of difference to everyone, and sometimes trying to fix a problem too soon can feel like youre ignoring that grief. I had many friends before my little sister was killed, and afterwards I remembered what everyone said and did with crystal clarity and it ruined a lot of relationships for me- not because they were necessarily spiteful or malicious, but I simply couldnt repair the relationship and take care of myself and my grief at the same time, so they deteriorated over time. Your wife hasnt lost her sibling, but she almost did, and may go through several waves of grief over the next few years, mourning his potential lost and his livelihood- a sibling is someone youre supposed to have with you your whole life, theyre not a parent or grandparent you expect to be taken away. I hope that you guys take care of yourselves, just try and listen if she wants to talk, honestly that was the best anyone ever did for me was just sit down and listen even when I was just a broken record. Best of luck. 