<prompt> Human: So, I dont know whether to post this in rrelationships or not, but I think I need more practical advice. Backstory: my mom has always been bad with money. My dad, her ex, is super wealthy, and when they divorced she got a new house and all the alimony and child support she could ever want. But she would blow it all on mink coats and luxury cars, and partying with whatever loser guys she was supporting, then come crying to him when she didnt have money to keep the lights on. Eventually, when I went away to college, she sold the house so she could follow her loser boyfriend at the time, and ended up getting NO MONEY, due to the fact that she never paid any taxes in 15 years. The IRS took it all. She ended up remarrying another super wealthy guy, my stepdad. They were together for 2 decades, then he died suddenly. Her plan to screw his kids over for any inheritance by her own admission, to me failed, because she didnt research our states inheritance laws very well. Regardless, she is still a super wealthy woman now, due to his passing, and now lives in her multi-million dollar house with her current boyfriend, who is a full-on gigolo, and she supports. End of backstory! Current story: Im middle age, with a spouse, kid, OK job, and very middle class. We cant afford to take trips, or anything. We have a nice older home, and do OK. Moms given occasional financial help down payment of house, bought grandchild clothes. Mom has one sibling, a brother, and theyve NEVER gotten along. My uncle never approved of her choiceslifestyle frankly neither did I, but I had to live with it growing up. My grandmother is in her 80s and very good health, but made the decision to sign over all of her propertyassets to each of her children 5050. This is a slightly shady, but perfectly legal workaround to avoid having to pay for eventual nursing home care. If you are destitute, Medicaid pays it all. She did this about 5 years ago, so I think it will be all good for the lookback period. The problem is, it occurred before my stepdad passed away. My mom wanted to keep the wealth in the family I guess, so in the event she passed away before he did, she wanted me to have it. So she comes up with the idea of signing over the property to me. I stupidly agreed. But I have no money for taxes or upkeep, so she still pays all that, even though I am half owner with my uncle. My uncle tried to buy her out for 250,000 for the house and land, but mom argued that it was worth double, so she would never sell for that. Meanwhile, she is stupidly still paying taxes and upkeep on it, while my uncle and his whole family get to use it, for hunting, fishing, staying at the house, the whole works. Uncle still resides in our home state while mom moved away years ago. Grandma is a snowbird and stays in a small condo in the state where mom and I live for half the year.Added to the headache, part of the land is pasture, so uncle decides to rent it out to ranchers, for a yearly profit, split between he and my mom. I dont care that my mom is taking in all the profit even though the land is in my name, and I had to sign the lease. But, grandma tells me the amount of profit she is getting is much, much more than what she is paying for upkeep and taxes. Grandma even thinks I should be getting some. But the fact is, I had to argue with my my mom about signing over the check to her, since I have to PAY TAXES on the extra income. I finally convinced her to fork over 2 grand to me, which is the amount of income tax I would have to pay on it next year. But she acted all huffy, and questioned it, like I was trying to pull one over on her!So, currently, all I keep thinking about is the 250,000, and how much that would help me and my family. We could pay off our house. We could pay off my husbands student loans. We could afford to go on an occasional trip, or get the water heater or air conditioning replaced and not have to take out loans for it. I really want to go behind moms back, approach my uncle, cut a deal with him, and get rid of this albatross around my neck. My mom doesnt really need the money, shes wealthy. She is hanging onto the land because she thinks she is sticking it to her brother. But really she is paying for him and his family to have a vacation house that she doesnt use! The problem is, if I do this, my mom will be super-duper pissed, like to the point of cutting me out of her life, will, what have you. But what if she squanders her money, and needs that landincome later on? She is mid 60s now. Advice? Go!UPDATE Mom texted me about more drama with my uncle regarding the work he is putting into the place sounds like hes wanting compensation for his labor, Grandma just went back for the Summer, and he had to get the well water working, AC tuned up, etc. I brought up that I think selling to my uncle would be worth more than the land might appreciate in 20 years her argument for keeping it. She agreed... but brought up the land lease again! She said the land is rented for the next 4 years, for a big chunk of change, and so she would hate to give that up. So whoever said she wants to keep it for the profit shes getting for doing zilch besides paying half the expenses was right on the money! So, it looks like Im staying in for 4 years, then Im out! According to Grandma, the profit shes getting is way more than what shes paying in. Again, I dont care, I just want to be free from all this hassle and drama. And who knows, maybe the land will appreciate more by then!  <response>: Ooops forgot this one... Moms given occasional financial helpThats nice bought grandchild clothesVery thoughtful down payment of houseId say that counts as occasional financial help, sure. 