<prompt> Human: Hey guys. Here is the story.5 month old child. Wife is currently working as an engineer making about 75k a year. Hates her job, stressed, and generally depressed. I make about 85k 4k a month take home.. 401k is maxed We both want her to quit but are hesitating because we just bought a house. Expenses: 1500 mortgage with taxes and insurance 500 in utilities 1000 food and entertainment. 250 in misc. kids toys, clothes, general discretionary spending Total 3300 no other debt These are not exact numbers, we have not even made our first payment on the house. lender is estimating it at 1200, but I know the taxes are low Assets: 2 paid off cars. 2014 truck and 2011 Audi. Both with under 30k miles Savings: 70k Combined 401ks: 100k Couple of random taxable accounts with less than 5k in them. Both age 29. With additional driving, in the wrong direction, and adding about an hour to my day in the morning and an hour to my wifes day in the evening, her parents are willing to take car of our son during the week. no cost They are being helpful and nice about it, but I know it is physically taking a toll on them. The kid is also mostly sitting in the front of the TV all day watching alien conspiracies and random, not age appropriate, youtube clips with my father in law telling him he is a republican and how Obama ruined the country. Safe to tell her to leave her job? I am hoping her management approves a leave of absence for 1 year. But this does not guarantee employment when she wants to go back. Just makes it easier to transition if there is work available. What does PF think?Assistant: Disclaimer: I have no idea if you can financially support that lifestyle. But there are other options; maybe she should try and find something a little closer to home that she actually enjoys doing; even if that means making less money. Or even working part-time from home. Something like babysitting, selling stuff online, etc. The added income wont hurt anyone and shell still be able to be with the kid. Human: I have considered this. Tutoring baby sitting, whatever. Unfortunately she doesnt seem to be very driven to look at other options.I feel like we wouldnt even consider this if we could find an extra 1000 a monthAssistant: It sounds like its more than her not liking her job. She doesnt want to work.Human: He said she was depressed. We dont know the extent of that depression.Assistant: I guess I didnt feel it necessary to discuss her being down because this being PF. You guys are right, she does not want to work. It is very possible that the depression could be more serious than I am realizing.  <response>: One big warning: being rather depressed and quitting your job can go both ways - she might enjoy being at home with the baby, but she could also fall deep down into the pits of despair, with insufficient social connections, feelings of not using her potential, and all the deep-depression related symptoms. Being unemployed can exacerbate depression personal experience, in fact for me simply finding a language class and then a job got me back out of the worst part of it. So it would be best if you learn more about it, as she might lack the willpower to do that another usual symptom. 