<prompt> Human: Looking for any thoughts or words of wisdom on how to balance mitigating the costs of dating in an expensive city, maintaing self-imposed financial scarcity, and fueling a fun, romantic relationship. Ive found it difficult to effectively explain to those I date that why, despite having the financial means to shopgo out to eat regularlyspend money more freely ect., Id rather not.The simple answer is surely just to find someone who understands and appreciates a financially fit partner shouldnt everyone!?. But Im finding that easier said than done.Welcome any thoughts - Cheers.  <response>: I think its admirable that youre approaching dating with honesty about your priorities. But still you have to woo to win. So how? Find romantic things you can do for cheap - However these take time to plan. Hiking? Geocaching? Gardening? Volunteering? Pick your hobby and amplify it. If you cant buy roses and chocolates, surely you can make a gift ?But dont expect to get far if your answer to what do you do for fun? Is nothing. 