<prompt> Human: Sorry for any issues, posted from phone Edit: To address some concerns, her bank account has had overdraft removed. It was one of the first things I did when I took over. Well its been a few months, and I would say that the opinion of many of the commenters in the original post were right. I should have run for the hills, then kept running. All in all it took around 5,000 to even catch my mom up EVEN to only her high priority debts car, rent, furniture, overdraft. While Im still doing ok, this took a huge bite out of my emergency collegeessentials fund. Honestly Im down to around 3-4k my rent alone is 1kmonth which makes me nervous, due to the fact that since my grandmother passed away I literally have no safety net, help, support from familyfriends. I am the safety net for my wife and child. If I ever slip, we are cooked. My mom kept needing more and more, even though I was 100 in control of her finances she had just dug herself so deep that even with my best advice and tricks I just couldnt make 124 so I had to fork over the short money. It was like a vicious cycle, every dollar I gave her made it more important that she give it back, but with every dollar it became more crucial I keep giving to keep her afloat so I would ever see any of the money again. She is literally my version of a bank to big to fail. Every paycheck numerous cash advance places take her freshly deposited paycheck and rip it apart. They have most of her money before I can even get any, or help her. Now here is the kicker. I have made a HUGE mistake helping her...I am now more sick of my mom, and her personalitymental illness whatever you want to call it, then ever before. She is still completely immature, incompetent, hypocritical, and honestly just a shitty person. Since the initial breakdown I asked her to keep her head down, and please stop it with the new boyfriends love of her life every 2 weeks. This latest one says he want to take my obese 300lbs mom on trips, pamper her, and marry her. I dont know his name or what he looks like, probably never will cuz she will have moved on by next week. Not two weeks into her new very well payinglow stress job as a clinic nurse she calls me, I start asking about what she thinks would be a reasonable amount of each paycheck for her to pay me back, she changes subject and says she may not have a check to give out jokingly since she got reprimanded by the office manager due to some people complaining she is loud obnoxious. She decided the proper way to handle that was to leave early and go cry in her car. I had her assign me to her checking account so I could cut and run if need be and they ended up giving me a debit card. So now every paycheck I got and withdrawn 40-60 from her account regardless. Shes paying me back in full, with interest, if she likes it or not. Once I have my money back I am going to do everything in my power to remove the poisonous people from my life, and I will never lend money like that to anyone ever again. Especially my dirtbag family.  <response>: Im sorry you are going through this, but your experiences are yet another as if we needed one on this sub of why loaning money to family members is a bad idea.If they need help, and you think they are worthy of it, go ahead and give them the money. But it is a gift: its great if you ever get a cent back, but dont assume that you will get even that. I cut off communication with my father many years ago for this kind of bullshit: continually asking for money and I just couldnt take it any more. I hope it doesnt come to that with your mother. 