<prompt> Human: Hey everyone, this is my first post on this sub and made a new account just to be extra sure my mother wouldnt find this post, so bare with me. I have copied and pasted this post from one I just made public on rraisedbynarcissits, and I am seeking some advice on my mother stealing my identity. Also, I apologize for any grammar mistakes. Backstory-I am a 20 year old junior in college, and not going to lie my tuition isnt cheap. My parents divorced in 2015, while I was a freshman in college, and I have been dealing with emotional abuse and manipulation by my mother for more than 5 years. I have two younger brothers, ages 14 and 9, who sadly still deal with the backlash of the divorce. She also has had a drug problem going back more then fifteen years, and has been fired from several positions in the medical field for her stealing problems. My mother also has an extreme issue with lying, and at this point I cant seem to believe a word that comes out of her mouth. But, me being a naive 18 year old, believed her when she said that she could pay for my tuition. However, It came to my attention that I had a poor credit score through my cable company. I thought this was very odd, since I only have a debit card and have a decent amount of money. I go to find out that she has placed 50,000 of student loans in my name, and has opened four different credit card accounts, each maxed out with 2,000 on them.I currently have around 57,000 in debt. My credit score sits at a 549. I did my research, and have come to realize that the only chance I have to restore my credit is to file a police report. She is guilt tripping me, by saying she did this all for me so I could have the best life possible. She is very good at manipulating situations so she is the victim, so I am trying my best to stay level-headed. I talked to several family members regarding her actions, and they surprisingly have taken her side, because they do not want her arrested. The only person in my entire family that has my back is my father, who I hardly speak to as it is due to the divorce .My mother is threatening to take away my car, my computer, and cell phone if I decide to go the legal route. Honestly, none of that even matters to me at this point. My mother is stating she will never have a relationship with me if I go through this, and it sounds like my aunt and possibly grandparents will have nothing to do with me either. This is making me have severe anxiety, and I am having trouble making it through the day without breaking down. Reddit, I need help. Any advice would be so appreciated, and let me know If I need to elaborate on anything. Thank youEdit: Thank you everyone for the advice, having listening ears and suggestions truly means a lot to me. Assistant: First off, take a deep breath. Knee-jerk reactions will only ramp up your anxiety.You are the victim of a crime. Of course you need to report this to the police. Then the credit folks.Then follow the other advice given to freeze your credit with the credit folks. It is actually quite easy, but perhaps call them and set a PIN that only you know. Since your egg-donor has proven adept at pretending to be you for credit purposes.She is not your mother. They are not your family. Moms and families do not do stuff like this to each other and then guilt trip you into covering it up. These...relatives...are just people you are unfortunate enough to share DNA with.Your relatives may come and retrieve their junk. It is hurtful, and petty. I agree with you. But...really...it is just stuff. Back up your data...wipe the hard drives, and make sure you have all your stuff out of the car. You may be struggling financially now, but you will fix this, and you will get better. Use the campus computers, get a bike. No, of course it is not ideal. But you can do this. You are stronger than this.If you are in college, see if the student health center can provide access to a counselor. You legitimately have suffered trauma here, and will need assistance to recover. No shame in it.I am just an internet stranger, but I am sending you as much comfort and support as I know.This is not your fault, you didnt make this mess, but you will have to clean it up.Dont let yourself get overwhelmed either. Take one step, or a few steps, each day. Just focus on taking care of yourself, and do the next right thing.Human: Thank you for the advice, all of this is very helpful. I honestly am content with taking public transportation, and getting a cheap cell. I guess its just the thought of her of taking all of these things is whats hurting. I have actually gone to the counselor to fill out some paperwork, and they should be calling me with an appointment within the next few days. Again, thank you internet stranger.  <response>: That is why she is doing it. To try and hurt you. Divorce yourself of ownership of the things, and you really begin to see her tantrum for what it is.You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders, and are responding quickly to this rather fluid situation. Also, if you get a chance, check out Dave Ramseys website. He has a radio show you can listen into, and provides excellent personal and financial advice to hundreds of folks in your very situation.I wish you the very best that life has to offer, and the wisdom to see that you also matter and are worthy.Goodbye. 