<prompt> Human: Im looking to propose to my SO soon and am wondering if paying off debt needs to happen before we get married. Here are the details.I have approx. 35k in student debt fixed with 5.3 average rate and 16k left on my truck 3 interest and she has 45k in student debt 4.6 and 5k in personal loan 15. Right now we bring in a combined income of about 6kmo but she has potential for some overtime.We recently bought a house I know this isnt normally advised pre-marriage and until debts are paid, but house is in my name and we looked at all factors and owning is cheaper than renting in our market. Mortgage, taxes, insurance and utilities averages at 2000mo.My truck payment is 360mo, our min. student loan payment is 780mo, her personal loan is 300mo. Food is approx. 400mo.She is putting as much extra money as she can into her personal loan and Im putting as much into my highest interest rate student loan as we can afford right now, but it still looks like 10 months before we pay those 2 loans off this frees up 400mo in cash flow.I have money saved for a ring already, and I refuse to go into debt for a wedding we will likely pay for most of it ourselves. It seems like the rate that we are going right now, it will be 3 years before we can afford a decent wedding if we pay off the loans we are currently working on, then pay minimums and save everything for the wedding. I can feel the frustration in my SO that marriagefamily plans are being pushed back due to aggressive loan payments, but she understands we just cant afford a wedding or babies right now.TLDR: Spending all our money paying down debt, can we get reddits permission to stop and save for a wedding?  <response>: Were postponing ours to take care of remaining debt to save up buy a house!Do what you both want to do! Its YOUR wedding and YOUR life! 