<prompt> Human: I have a friend who has a history of drug abuse. Hes done pretty much every drug you can think of. He almost odd on heroine, did meth to try to lose weight, a bunch of prescription drugs, and I know he actively does coke and LSD. Im a weed smoker myself, but thats as far as I go. Ive talked to him many times about getting rid of this shit and getting completely clean for a while until he feels better. He keeps excusing himself from getting completely clean and its a vicious cycle of stopping coke, and getting back on it, along with a bunch of other drugs. I really cant say anything to make him change his mind. His brother doesnt really know the extent of it all. His parents are pressuring him into focusing on school even though hes emotionally unstable which is probably why he feels the need to do all this stuff. If he was my kid I would send him to rehab for a term, but it is what it is. A while ago, both of us being young and stupid, decided to try to do an online business thing where we ended up getting scammed. Before I had a chance to get paypal to fix everything, he freaked out and pulled out and paid the excess amount on paypal, and since I got him to get into it and we used his paypal account, it was basically my fault. I decided to pay him, which was a total of 400. I paid 200 to him pretty soon afterward, but being low on money, I didnt pay him for a while, and then I found out about all this drug shit. I want to pay him back, because its just my character to pay back asap, but I dont want to enable his drug habits. I know some people can control their coke habits, but tbh with his past, he shouldnt touch the stuff ever again. Not to mention I think coke in general is terrible. What should I do? If i tell him that i wont pay him back until he proves that hes off it, hell just hide it and pretend that he stops. Or hell just act like its not a big deal and want me to pay him anyway. We also live far away from each other so I cant really keep track of him. Should I just pay him and let him make his own decisions? tldr - friend has problems with drugs, cant control himself. family doesnt know. tried talking to him multiple times, but he wont listen anymore. should i pay him and let him make his own decisions or should i keep money until i know that he wont keep doing this shit?  <response>: You owe him money. Get off your high horse. Its the same as owing a credit card company. Pay the debt and move on. 