<prompt> Human: My dad has had multiple strokes. He is able to walk, but is in a diaper, and is not in his senses any more. Medicare was willing to pay for him to stay in a rehabretirement home for a few months, and he has come home now. At home its only my mom and my brother. My mom is in her 60s and brother works, so basically my mom is home with my dad. It was super stressful for my mom, because dad is crazy and like she has to change his diapers and stuff. However, for the past month my dad has started to play with the stove, and lights it on fire when everyone is a sleep. Fortunately the 4 times he did it, someone was either awake, or woke up to the sound of the flame clicking bedrooms are near kitchen. My brother pulled off the knobs, thinking my dad wont be able to turn on the flames. But my dad still turned on a flame. I advised to lock my dad in his room before everyone goes to bed, but my brother said what if dad sticks a pen into an outlet or something?My mom is a housewife, and they have one home that both mom and dad have name on. our understanding is that if we send him to a retirement home, the retirement home or government will try to take the home in order to pay for it. The house is all my mom has, like without it she would only have my dads social security and some pension. Its not enough to live, but it helps a lot with all expenses. My question is what do we do? I am scared that if we tell the doctor, they will force my dad to a mental asylum and take the house to pay for it, and we will have no say in it. My mom was thinking if their was maybe a medicine the doctor could prescribe so that my dad doesnt play with fire? But I am scared that it would be a time that he tricks my mom, doesnt take the medicine and lights a fire.Can anyone give some guidance? He doesnt qualify for medicade as he has his own house. Medicare only covered 3 months. I dont want a shady retirement home to take my moms house, God forbid. My mom wanted to keep him home, but now its really dangerous. Yesterday he turned on the stove at 4 am while everyone was in deep sleep. MY mom woke up to go to the bathroom and saw that the fire is on. When she asked my dad what are you trying to hurt yourself and hurt us? he said so what.What about a senior daycare center? My main issue is I know he cant stay home. I just dont know if we put him in a mental asylum or retirement home or senior daycare, will the government or daycare try to take my parents home? Or take all of his Social securitypension? My mom is a house wife, all she has is the house and sspension. I want to make sure that her house is safe.  <response>: It may depend on the laws in your state. I work for Medicaid where I live and they wont try to take the home as long as the spouse is still living there.I find it odd that he doesnt qualify for Medicaid just because he owns a house. In my state, the home a person lives in is an excluded asset, and if they go to a nursing home we create what we call a spousal impoverishment case for them. You should check to see if there is anything like that in your state.You can always set up a meeting with a social worker in the retirement home you are looking at, or the social worker at the hospital. They usually deal with situations like yours a lot and may have some referrals or resources you can use for help. 