<prompt> Human: My mom makes approximately 40k per year. My grandma no longer works. Uncle lives in the same house and makes around the same as my mom, so Im estimating combined household income is around 80k. I think they keep pulling money out of the equity to live large because they dont perceive any hope for the situation.___ Grandma loaned in good will but with no contract over 150k to my aunt, and I dont believe she makes enough money to pay that back. Aunts house is wrecked. 2 of her 3 boys 24 - 29 dont work. My mom and dad 69 are separated but still married. My dad totaled his van a few months ago and was charged with DUI 2, now living in sober living and scored a handymancarpet cleaning position with the recovery organization in exchange for housing and pay. Family unit across the board is fairly dysfunctional; its never been functional as far back as I can remember, but things are starting to get better. Everyone has grown up quite a bit, but theres no one in the family thats trying to turn over a new leaf or whatever, and I 24 am barely starting to establish myself in the educational field. My mom can barely stand being in the house with my uncle and grandma because of prevalent addictions, and I feel pretty much out of place while Im here for the holidays.Im getting a vibe that people are using my grandma for the equity still in the house, shes getting old in age, and Im getting the feeling that when she dies the whole family is gonna implode via the house.___Rent where we live OC is 1k - 2k per month for a single room, so I think saving the house is the last, best chance that my mom has to live and share ownership of a place until Im pulling in decent income. I think rent is essentially burning money just to live in a place and I feel stuck because its gonna be difficult for my family to get anywhere when over half our monthly income goes straight to rent alone. I know how to navigate food stamps and other social services out there; I think my mom and dad have avoided applying for affordable housing and food stamps out of pride, to their own detriment.___I feel like this is a big conversation because of the complexity. Im looking after myself first and foremost. Im going into the educational field; Im currently doing an internship out-of-county until June 2018. I dont have any student loan debt and my credit is great.I understand almost none of this is my responsibility and I should not take the burdens from my familys mistakes upon myself. I do recognize the dire straits we are in, Im trying to figure out my role, how I can best advise my mom moving forward, and what we I can or should do.Assistant: It sounds like none of you can afford to live in such a high cost of living area, especially if only a few of the adults are working.Human: Gentrification is a complicated thing...  <response>: In fact gentrification is probably the only thing that has kept your family above water for so long.If the house hadnt been appreciating so quickly, there would not have been nearly as much equity to pull out of it. 