<prompt> Human: My dad has cancer and Ive been handling his meds and feedings all through his g-tube, and pretty much being a 247 caregiver for him the past few days since he cant do much himself. Its not looking like hes getting any better anytime soon and Im not sure if living in his studio for the next few months is what I want to doIm 20 and live 2 hours away so Im willing to drive back and forth and stay for a few days at a time if theres a way I can split the days with a caretakerIf Im in the wrong sub please point me in the right directionP.s. cancer sux  <response>: Im really sorry. what you have been and will continue to go through is really hard.x200B;I have not much financial advice for you, but some general things from when I lost my parents. Hopefully youve already thought through or done all of this.1. Separate the emotional from the practical as much as you can. Dont short-change either side -- dont get so overcome by emotions that you can deal with the issues at hand, and dont push all the feelings aside and not deal with them. Talk with people close to you, dont shut them out while things are crazy.2. Try to keep the conversation open with your dad about his condition, his wishes, his affairs, etc. Does he have a will? A living will? Do you have power of attorney? Is his mortagetaxeswhatever current? Where is important paperwork? Do his doctors know who you are and are ok talking with you? Its hard to deal with this stupid stuff, but it gets harder and harder if his condition is worse and he cant speak for himself later.3. Along the same lines, have you talked with him about a caretaker and getting help? There is the rpersonalfinance practical question of how to do it, but also the fuzzy awkward issue... Most aging adults resist the idea of a stranger having to come do things, and most dont like the idea of their 20yo kids suddenly being in control of their affairs. Its a hard conversation, but almost every family has some version of it.4. Please dont short-change your own future by acting rash. Dont feel guilty considering your needs too. You said you live 2hrs away, is your career or school be at risk with whats going on? Is there any help from school or work? Lots of jobs now have benefits that can help with family members like this not just dependents. PTO, assistance or even just referrals. Other family members, close friends and neighbors? Does he belong to a church? Reach out to boy scouts! There may be some people willing to volunteer. Maybe not the hardest stuff, but cleaning, cooking for you, doing shopping, looking in on your dad days you arent there, or helping make things easier for you on the days you did just add 2hrs commute -- small things can help too.5. Do not mingle your finances. You can agree to help take care of things on his behalf, but dont sign any medical form that says you are the responsible party. If you have money and are contributing great, but it is a gift to your dad, not an agreement with the hospital. Even if today you dont have much for them to sue you for, in a few years you could and they could wait and sue you then. 