<prompt> Human: My dad semi retired a few years ago and quit his small labor based business to move to mexico with a girlfriend who was paying the way. After not seeing him much for ten years I got a call asking if I could pick him up at the airport because his girlfriend wants to end it. Now hes sleeping on my couch... And Im covering all his expenses. He let his house that he was upside down on get repossessed before running off to mexico so his credit has got to be awful, He has zero money in savings, and hes not claiming social security yet though it doesnt look like hell get much. I just helped him get healthcare which is good because he needs two knee replacements. Really just wondering what I should do here... my wife and I were hoping to have a kid in the future not an old man and his old dog. I make enough money to take care of myself comfortably but not another person... Anyone go through something like this? Where do I get started?  <response>: Youre going to have to set some hard and fast boundaries with your wife and father. My in-laws are fully degenerates and were in a series of catastrophic financial disasters. It was absolute hell on my marriage and we nearly divorced because my spouse continued to throw good money, time, effort, and energy at this problem. 1 get in to counseling and discuss with your wife a dollar amount, an amount of time, or an ability level where your support ends. Include what expectations you have of your father and how he should be acting in your house and what he should be doing with his time. It is infuriating to bust your ass all day and come home to a lazy bun who hasnt worked in ten years doing nothing, making messes and eating the last of your yogurt. 2 be firm with him and clear on your expectations. Dont let him manipulate the situation. If hes the kind of dude who is a-ok living on your couch, he will try. 3 get him a source of income. Disability may be an option, but possibly not. Look into call center gigs. The pay is shit, but the work is reliable and he doesnt have to stand. 4 get him out of your house. He can have a roommate, live at a boarding house. I work a second job to pay the rent of a family member of my spouse because they cant live in my house. You could do that temporarily of course. Just get him out of your house. 