<prompt> Human: Wife made 53k last year and I made 45k.We live in the midwest in a house that we owe 130k on. We pay 1000 per month on mortgage.2 kids. Daycare runs about 1800 per month. No car payments. I drive 2002 Ford explorer, she drives 2007 honda civic.Cook most of our meals. We go out probably once a month.I am working myself to death. I own a business that is growing so fast that I am forced to work at least 80 hours a week. I dont have the option of raising my pay either. Growth eats cash and this is our long term investment. My wife works 40 and has great benefits and insurance. When I get home from work I am a zombie. I just dont have much of anything left in the tank to help with kids, housework or cooking so she does most of the work like that.I am burning both my wife and I out. I think we live way below our means and our housing market is hot right now. I am considering selling our house for 199k and flipping that into a bigger house to reward her for all the hardwork she has put into our marriage and kids.I still owe about 45k in student loans. Paying the minimum about 273 per month.Should I be thinking about a house? I know most of you would say pay off my loan debt and then think about moving but the strain of living so frugally is taking a toll and Im afraid Im going to burn my wife out and she will leave.Anyone else been in my shoes?Edit: I showed my wife this last night and we had a great discussion. A new house is several years down the road. We need to finish paying off my student loans and save money to really figure out what kind of lifestyle we want to live. That might involve her in working in the business full or part time with more time being dedicated to house and kids.I will be raising my salary to 70k a year in the next few months and slowing down the growth of the company. I wasnt keeping my wages low for nefarious purposes it was mainly out of fear that I couldnt afford it. I will turn over operations of our company to my brother and focus on sales and admin splitting our roles and the time spent on the company. I will also be using consultants to help us get better at running a growing company.I will start to really focus on spending quality time with my family and letting work go when I get home.Some of you suggested that daycare is too high and that my wife will be running away with some stud. We both had a great laugh over that. I know you were trying to be serious!Thanks! Second Edit: Sounds like I need to prepare for the long term as well. Reducing stress and stop neglecting my body and mental health. Working hours like these over a long period are terrible for qol and I am going to make an an attempt to get out of the house as often as I can to be active with my family.Assistant: The problem isnt that youre living frugally, its that youre working 80 hours a week -- for very little take-home pay, given the effort expended -- and dont have the energy to deal with real-life stuff like kids and housework and cooking, meaning your wife is effectively working 80 hours a week too.Buying a bigger, more expensive house will only compound your problems at this point.Human: This. I bought the bigger house. It didnt help fix the 80-hour week burnout. In fact, it just made me more stressed out bc higher mortgage payment.Assistant: There is a very keeping up with the Jones all around us. Her friends splurged on the half-million dollar house and drive matching Audis. They make more than us but are drowning in debt. I wouldnt take it to that extreme. Can you tell me about your experience?  <response>: Well is your house whats stressing you out or is your job? Dont fix a fake problem in order to avoid fixing the thing thats actually a problem.Nothing about your post indicated that your house was contributing to your stressburn out. You wrote a post about how tough your job is and ended it with so should I buy a new house? This sounds silly to everyone reading it.Now if you had written a post about how there wasnt enough space for your family, or you were sick of dealing with an old house that was falling apart, or anything else that had anything at all to do with the house, the answer might be different. But its very clear from your post that the house is not the problem. Might it still be smart to buy a different house, depending on markets in your area? Maybe, we dont know because you really didnt say anything about the house. But what you did write about is pretty telling. You need jobtime management improvements, not a new house. 