<prompt> Human: Hi there everyone. Im currently in a conundrum and concerned about my long term future. I grew up in an Asian family that values interdependency and thus we often help each other out, even financially. However, I found that the cause of my slowly-increasing savings is not because I spend a lot of money, but because I lived in a household where my family overspends treat your self mentalityyou worked hard for your money so why not enjoy it? mentality, and at times if I dont shout them or give them money besides my rent, I am seen as greedy and big-headed since I am a full time professional working in construction. Ever since I moved out, I feel so much more in control of my money and my spending. Even times when I feel like splurging and eating takeaway, I feel like Im still saving so much more. People say living with your family means saving more money, but heck the rent I was paying them is more expensive than where I am now, and they also expect me to chip in more at home. My parents are educated and also work full time, have a house in inner city suburb, and youd think theyd be good financially... I never understand why they always ask me for money. When I wanted a casual job at a fast food chain 7 years ago, they were so against it and saw it as not a respectable job for a future engineer, but ever since I started earning that minimum wage, they asked me to chip in at home. I dont want this to be ongoing. Yes when theyre older I will take care of them and spend money on them, but theyre still 20 years away from retirement age. Even as Im out of home 150 kms away they still ask me to chip in. Im even paying for pet insurance for a puppy they got a week before I moved out. Am I the bad guy for not actively contributing financially? What am I doing wrong? I just want to start saving money for stocks and investments while Im young, and it sucks that my counterparts at work are getting closer to that, and Im not even halfway to their current saving achievements. I am willing to give my family money but from my own decision and my own free will, and not because they ask me to and they want me to. When they ask me as well, the want the money on the same day. Wont even let me budget for it. Edit 1: All, thank you for the advice. I have responded here Edit 2: Wow. Theres so many responses. I am overwhelmed! I talked to my boyfriend and we both agreed there is a lot of good advice from everyone. Some very relatable. Some advice hard to swallow. Ive read each and everyones message. Im just on my phone at the moment as I am at work. Thank you again. I didnt think it would get this much attention. I think part of it is people who are going through the same situation as me finally had the chance to voice their concerns. For my second generation Asians, we can do it. Message me and keep in touch if you please. :  <response>: Your parents are emotionally and mentally abusing you. On purpose.I have a parent that doesdid this. It took me a long time to admit to myself that they knew what they were doing, but were lying about it to either me or themselves or maybe both, who knows.The faster you understand this is a cruel type of love, the faster you can heal and move on.Dont sacrifice your own happiness and stability because your parents want to guilt trip you for their own gains. Im not saying to cut them out of your life completely, but Im saying to set up boundaries and never let them invade them again. Protect yourself. 