<prompt> Human: I am fresh out of college and going into a well paying job over 100kyr. I have a good relationship with my mom, but over the last decade shes gambled away hundreds of thousands of dollars, including my college savings, and has gone into substantial debt including a second mortgage and maxed credit cards to finance gambling. Shes lied to and effectively stolen from close family members, and I cant trust her with money whatsoever. Shes also fairly secretive about what has happened and her current financial situation, so I dont have the full picture there. Generally speaking the more I find out, the worse it actually is.Shes currently unemployed, fairly deep in debt and AFAIK shes not gambling. Ill have the ability and desire to help her, but I dont know how to do so without jeopardizing my own financial security, enabling her to relapse, or harming my relationship with her.Let me know if more information would be helpful, but respectfully please keep advice on the personal finance side of things.  <response>: Just want to add, check your credit reports regularly to make sure she hasnt opened any accounts in your name. 