<prompt> Human: After living out of parents house in a relationship for over two years, Im finally graduating and received a job offer that pays well.The plan is to move out and have the girlfriend move in, but a prerequisite to that is for us to get engaged. Basically, to her its a sign of commitment, but more importantly its a sign of commitment to her parents they are super-catholic an will openly slut-shame her if she moved in with a guy she wasnt marrying.Now, we want the same things in life, and weve discussed marriage before in our plans for the future, but for reasons I wont get into Ive decided I want a prenuptial agreement. I know the laws change from state to state California, but are there any people out there with positive or negative experiences on the matter that can give me some guidance as to what bases I should have covered? Is there a standard drafted agreement or is each a custom deal?More importantly does it matter if its draftedsignedwhatever before engagement? Obviously before marriage, but Im thinking long-term. Maybe things dont work-out, was a heated fall-out, ex-wife tries to argue something about we were already engaged with no plans for a prenup and she felt pressured into it where should wouldnt have otherwise prior to engagement, etc.The goal is to keep all spent income she will also be a working professional to the discretion of the person who earns it. Probably something like, one joint account for common bills, and the rest is separate stock, inheritance, etc.. We do want children so this is another big question mark for me regarding money. One of us will most definitely have to take time off work to raise a child, so how an agreement might address realistic accommodations for this such that no single party is at a distinct disadvantage is also of concern to me.I already brought it up with her, she was a bit offended, but got over it and seems on board. I read somewhere in California that prenups dont count for example if you dont get a lawyer to consult you first on the implications of such an agreement.Who can speak to this matter and give me some helpful direction? Things are going to be moving very fast in the next couple weeks.Assistant: Remember a prenup is to ensure the marriage is about love and not money.Human: Im not sure I follow you. Where I am coming from is in California, the law is that both parties entitled to half of everything, regardless of who is working. That house youve been making payments towards? She gets half. She will be working too, but not sure who will be the breadwinner her major tends to have higher paying jobs, but being female pays less, plus were still going to have some gender roles i.e. Im a gentleman, I pay for meals, movies, groceries, etc. Things wed be sharing would be like rentmortgage, utilities. Things we would be separating would be payments for our particular vehicles of choice, and other things like not having to stress out over one person helping family members down on their luck. As long as we can both financially commit the money to agreed shared expenses, then its up to you what you do with your money, and then there is more incentive to save and not spend.We do love each other, but should I not have children just because the statistics say marriages dont last? My parents were together for almost 30 years before they separated.  <response>: her major tends to have higher paying jobs, but being female pays lessThats not really how that works...statistically overall women tend to earn less than men due to a variety of factors, but in her individual situation its not like her employers going to levy some kind of being female tax... 