<prompt> Human: I know the title isnt extremely descriptive, but here is a backstory. My father is a piece of shit, who abused me as a child through beating, verbal abuse, and dare I say psychological abuse. I have had a lot of problems facing trust and things like that due to him, and I do not even know where he is. His mother, my grandmother is the nicest person in the world to me, and I could easily get his location from her. The problem is, I really do not want to go through a huge ordeal with this. A friend told me the court takes care of it, and I wont have to see him. I have a restraining order, and I would like to keep it that way. I need my first car, and think that getting this money would help me pay for it, but not sure if I should do it. I hope he burns in hell anyways, so I dont care about his life, but I just do not want to create any type of ordeal. Introvert for life? Thanks guys. It would really be a big help.  <response>: Why do you want to be dependent on this guy? The child support would go to your mother, not you. I assume there is a judgment and that he isnt upholding his end of the judgment? If thats the case, your mother could report him to an enforcement bureau; although I wouldnt be shocked if he wasnt exactly awash with money. 