<prompt> Human: Hi rpersonalfinance. You guys are my favorite sub so I wanted to share a big personal finance moment we had this year. I tried so very hard to track every actual cost. Including things like our flights to and from the shower and wedding we lived in a different state than our familywedding location.Our actual spreadsheet of the costs: We didnt want the wedding to exceed 20,000.We did not want to go into debt.The wedding ended up costing 21,205. Out of pocket we paid roughly 11,000. The rest was paid for from help we received from family. His parents offered to buy the liquor 2,000, my dad gave us 5000 as a wedding gift that went toward the wedding, my mom bought most of the decorations, my brother paid for and installed some lighting.Part of the reason we went over was because the wedding was at my moms house in a different state than where we lived so she was in charge of the decorations and ended up going a little rogue.Some things to note: I Bought a used dress from Tradesy.com I Bought used shoes from some girl on Pinterest Only real flowers were in the bouquet and a few big decorative planters around the yard Opted for no tent despite many opposing opinions Borrowed china, silverware napkins from family Used an iPod DJ Buffet style food. Sourced food from multiple restaurants, did not use a traditional caterer Limited the alcohol to only wine, beer champagneHere some photos if anyone is interested: Apparently our wedding cost a little below the national average but it felt really expensive and lavish to us. So bring on your opinions, your wedding costs stories and just general comments. It was the best day of our life so far and we are really proud.EDIT: Regarding the comments about this being a budget wedding or cheap. By no means would I ever call this a budget or cheap wedding. We bought used and saved backyard, no tent where we could so we could spend to our tastes where it would bring us the most joy, decorations, food, etc.  <response>: Jesus thats expensive. 