<prompt> Human: My wife and I have always planned on paying for our childrens education. My daughter, however, recently decided that she wants to study film starting next fall. College expenses are going to fall around 60-70k over the course of 4 years. I honestly feel like Im going to be throwing my money out the window. Ive tried talking to her about how shell have an extremely hard time getting employed, but its impossible to not come off as an asshole. I also think my daughter figures that well simply take care of her if it doesnt work out. As if shes immune to not having a successful life. Its pretty clear to both my wife and my daughter that Im close to putting my foot down. I never thought I would be the parent to do something like this... but a film degree? Im not going to force her to be a scientist or engineer or something, but almost anything else would be better.Ive talked to my wife about this and shes actually disgusted with me. Shes made it clear that she would be livid if I refused to front the money for our daughters education.Not sure what to do. Although we can afford it, 60k isnt exactly pocket change to us and I dont want it to go to waste. Has anyone else been in this position before?Edit 1 - No, my wife didnt kill me. I made this post, went to bed, and now Im at work. I appreciate all the replies and Ill try to respond when I get home! Edit 3 - To clarify a few things: My wife has equal say in this decision and shes simply upset that were not on the same page. We obviously dont want to move forward without reaching an agreement. And no, were not going to have a divorce over this. Also, my wife and I have yet to discuss college expenses with our daughter, so we have never promised her anything. Its just something that wed really like to do.Edit 2 - Thank you everyone for your input. I will need a bit to digest all this information and hopefully I can reach a practical solution.  <response>: Why does she want to do a film degree? Have you spoken with her about her reasons for choosing it? Is it possible for her to win a scholarship? As others have pointed out, there are plenty of decent paying careers in Film Production, but what is her particular interest?Think of the actual alternatives are for you - are you going to force her to do a degree she doesnt want to do, for which you will pay? Whats the point in that? Or have her either work in a lower paying job or not at all?More practically, one option could be for her to take out student loans, thus transferring more of the responsibility for the decision to your daughter. They can be deferred until she earns enough, at which stage you could offer to match each payment she makes perhaps more than match?. So you are both paying for the degree, you have less risk from her not getting a job also. 