<prompt> Human: We bought our house almost 2 years ago, cheapest in upscale neighborhood. Zillow shows the value has grown from the 300k we paid to 355k. Yes, I know this is NOT accurate, but its a number my husband has seen and cant get out of his head. He got a flyer this week he says would lower or mortgage payment about 60mo AND let us pull out 35k cash. He wants, desperately, to get his fingers on that money to buy a 40 year old airplane!!! He is just now near the end of training for his pilots license, has never owned a plane before. I am dead-set against doing this for multiple reasons, biggest one being that he insisted we pull out all our equity twice before, with two other houses, BOTH of which we ended up losing because we couldnt keep up with the payments. Its not like were kids... Hes pushing 70 and Im in my 50s, and I have stage 4 cancer, so honestly I just want to know my home that I love is secure for the likely very short rest of my life.Were on a fixed income-- me on disability hes on Soc Sec and a pension, and we are NOT wealthy! We have NO retirement savings and NO investments I have a couple grand salted away, thats it. Last year was the first year he has had consistent monthly earnings in over a decade; I had a six-figure job until I started getting sick, and Ill never be able to work at that level again.Anybody got any logical reasons I can give him why raiding our only source of savings is a very bad idea? Hes actually a kind and wonderful man, has taken such good care of me with my cancer, but a he has NEVER been money-smart goes back to money weirdness with his dad, when he was a kid and b he is so hot about wanting to own an airplane immediately, hes just consumed with this burning desire, which is blinding him to reality.I dont have anything against him Wanting or even Getting an airplane, but I KNOW its possible to do this by forming an LLC and splitting with partners, or some other way. Right now, hes mad at me because I said theres no way Id be OK with pulling out all our equity. He has to find another way to make it happen.Id really appreciate any ammo you can offer re: why raiding our equity is a bad idea... I need to win this battle. Thanks so much À!!!  <response>: how about: were not rich and I have cancer 