<prompt> Human: My wife doesnt get along with her parents. For the last 4 years, theyve been complaining that we dont visit; but we have a kid, and dont get time for the 1.5-hour drive. Anyways: last weekend we did manage to meet them midway. The mother-in-law put out a subtle threat: you know, I could spend all my money, and then youll have to take care of me. This shocked me, as I was unaware of such a possibility. She is a spendthrift and a hoarder, so it wouldnt surprise me if she managed to empty out her bank account in a week. But should we be on the dock for her spendy ways? Can she really ruin us financially if she wanted to? We live in California.I am really worried for my child if the MiL manages to screw us over. Ive worked hard to provide for my family, and we just bought a house last year so the kid can play around in a yard nothing fancy. Ive been worried about this all week, and then someone suggested asking here.Added later: some people are suggesting I should just man up and visit them more often. You know, if these were your typical doting grandparents, heck Id just leave my kid with them for a week at a time! OK, not really, but some couple time would be great. But they are not. As evidenced by this threat, they are not stable. They still think that they can boss my wife around. My wifes mother was not kind to her growing up. She even ruined my wifes credit by abusing a credit card my wife gave to her for emergency, racking up 1000s of dollars in CC bills. Because of several such incidents, my wife made the decision that she didnt want the grandparents too involved with our kid, and I fully support her. The fact that theyre making such threats which could harm our kid financially too should be example enough that they are not your typical grandparents.  <response>: Seconding rraisedbynarcissists, If she really is nutty, you dont need to force your wife and child to deal with this shit, especially the child. nGrandmas are a thing. 