<prompt> Human: Hey, new here, but lurking for a while. Not sure if this is the right place to post this, but you guys seem to be the most reasonable bunch around so here goes:Late last week I got a job offer. Ive done a line by line analysis, and the short of it is that I would ultimately make at least 10 more, if not 15-20 Future bonuses at new company are standard and generous, but Im not counting on them.Between the first and second interviews, my current boss calls me to tell me Ive been promoted, and Ill get a raise and decent bonus this year. Amounts are not finalized, but it evens the financial outlook a bit between the two. I dont feel we really NEED more money, but of course we could make some things happen with it.Heres the rub, new commute would probably be at least 75-90 minutes per day. Current commute is 20 minutes per day at most. Ive assigned costs to all that, and Im not so much concerned with the financial component of commuting. Its the time. Additionally, there is about 25 expected travel with the new job. I currently do very little travel.On the other hand, the new job seems exciting, and I think its something I would enjoy. Current job is good some days, and sucks the soul out of me other days. New responsibilities with the promotion are a little bit exciting, but likely wont fundamentally change my work much.My wife and I were discussing the options, and she basically flat out said she doesnt want me to take the new job, based on the time I would be away. She is a stay-at-home mom, and we have a baby and a toddler. Most days, I get home from my 8-10 minute commute, and its a crapshoot as to how many and which members of my family will be crying. She said she cant handle me getting home any later, and being gone for an entire week out of each month. Life has been tough and stressful lately, and this change would definitely take its toll. So Im leaning toward turning this new offer down. Are we crazy? Can someone just tell me its ok to do this?  <response>: Youre going to run into problems either way. Do you want them to be at work, or at home? 