<prompt> Human: So last year my father I was living with dropped the bomb that he was getting married in July 2016 and going to live indefinitely overseas with the spouse I had never met. Cool. Immediately I was happy for him because I want to see him happy. His future wife booked an airfare as a surprise a month later, and he left on my birthday a few days before last Christmas was meant to go mid-2016I am still a teen in university, so after that I devised a financial plan this year which has included working 3 jobs soon to be 4 so that I could save enough to cover living expenses and buy a car, while having to work for free 2 months of the year on my clinical-placementsA few months into the year dad comes back to Australia, saying the wedding is off and he hates the country cant earn money because he has no visa. I tell him to stay and marry but he doesnt. So I make plans to work my ass off to make up for all the income lost on placement, and maybe a trip to SE asia because its close and flights are cheap.Then he tells me the wedding is on again, and also I have to pay for flights because theyre broke. Im torn whether to go or not as its only a months notice.I hate the country hes living in last time I went there in childhood my dad told me to kill myself, sounds a bit extreme but it wasnt a great time in life... things have improved dramatically since Ive gained autonomyindependence, dont really want to lose income from not working and spend 2k for a week over there... but if I dont go now Ill have to go at X-mas... I dont know what to do... all this sounds selfish but I think theres a lot of frustration at dad for abandoning me, then expecting me to pay to see him have a partnership that doesnt seem greatly viable and put my life on pause.tl:dr; parent unexpectedly marrying overseas, left me 18yo student and wants me to take time off work self-fund a trip to wedding which has been canceled once already  <response>: Step away from the parent. Do not under any circumstances succumb to the emotional manipulation of this person who is actually supposed to be looking out for your best interests . Do not pay for anything. Keep your cash out if his clutches and start building your own life. You are under no obligation to fix the stupid mistakes of someone who is so obviously thinking with his dick. 