<prompt> Human: So Im 38 years old, American living in a northern European country. I have a finalized job offer waiting for me to sign, right now, from a company in the US. In fact the recruiter will probably start calling me in an hour pestering me to sign it because weve just been through a couple weeks of back and forth while I tried to extract info out of them about the benefits etc, and they are really impatient to have something signed.I was going to sign the job offer this morning, which does not have a start date until mid-March, but I took a pregnancy test today its still quite early and it looks like a faint positive. To give some background about this, I have been trying for the last 4 years to get pregnant, and the entire last year my husband and I have been doing infertility treatments that resulted in 2 pregnancies that later ended in miscarriages. Now it happened naturally, which has never happened before, so this is clearly my reproductive system trolling me at this point. Ive been sticking around in this country with relatively low pay mainly because of the carrot of 1 year paid maternity leave which I would have already been on months ago if I didnt have the first miscarriage. Anyway I need to make a decision about what to do based on all of this pronto, so here are the facts:- I would not qualify for FMLA- I think I would get CA family medical leave I think I would have contributed approx 300 to the state disability insurance, which is what is required to qualify for benefits, after about 3 months. It is 16 weeks unpaid leave, of which 6 weeks would be about half-paid. The company does not have any of their own benefits for this. Allowed sick leave is 9 days per year. - Where I live now, I would get 6 months fully paid maternity leave, my husband could get another 6 months fully paid or I could get another 6 months partially paid. Plus up to 1 month medical leave before birth. I also have infinite sick leave here. - My non-US citizen husband will have to come over possibly up to a few months later than me after being granted a spousal visa takes forever. He would be unemployed at first and if it takes a long time for his visa to be granted, he would not be arriving until I would be 7.5 months pregnant- There is only Id say at best a 50 chance that this pregnancy will not result in another miscarriage. Its still WAY too early at only 3.5 weeks my last miscarriages were only detected at 12.5 and 8 weeks. I cannot wait it out and see if I miscarry before I have to sign this offer. I would at best be able to brush it aside for the rest of the weekend and ignore the recruiter harrassing me.- I currently make about 4kmo net after tax and pension contribution. My husband makes about 3.5kmo net. Our rent is only 1200mo. Other expenses are approximately equal between the two places.- The new job offer would be 7.5kmo not including 401k contributions, my husband will be unemployed at first like said, and estimated rent will be 2500mo. Once my husband could find a job and if were both working there, we would be making bank compared to where we are now.- If this sticks, I would be 4.5 months pregnant when starting there and would have to go on leave only 4 months after starting. Future boss man would probably not be thrilled, they need people desperately and it would be a project management role for a new project.- I have to give minimum 1 month notice for my job now, but wanted to inform my supervisor no later than early January. They will be quite screwed without me. - Ive already all but accepted the new job, basically saying that to the recruiter and the new boss. I just havent signed the offer letter yet, which I just received an updated final version of last night.What the hell would you do if you put yourself in this situation??tl;dr Have a job offer with shitty maternity benefits, current job offers awesome benefits, all but accepted offer except for signing the final document, and just got a very faint positive pregnancy test today that Im not even certain about, plus I have a history of recurrent miscarriage and zero kids. Have to sign job offer at latest this weekend. Help!  <response>: I think stay where you are.Tell the recruiter whats up. Say you loved the job offer, but dont think you can take it now. Would be very happy to look at the company again if circumstances change.Good luck. 