<prompt> Human: Hi! Im going to try to shorten this up...my dad died 2 years ago and he left my mom 52 and I 23with 50k of savings which I have been working my ass off to protect. A big part of keeping my mom and I financially afloat is for her to keep working. Long story short she is an addict and has not made any efforts to start working after losing her job. I had a job but resigned I know this was a stupid decision but I am living with it and applying to new jobs now. I have been unemployed for two months and am hoping to get a new job soon. Basically she is going real downhill DUI,refusing AA so I am deciding to give her 40k and I keep 10k and we go our separate ways. Our total monthly budget right now is 3k but I am planning to live with a friend for 200month until I find a job also my extended family is willing to house me if I am broke. Basically I am wondering if there is anyone out there who has had to financially separate from an addict...or do I sound completely idiotic and immature for doing this? Thanks...  <response>: She needs to hit rock bottom before getting help, and unfortunately youre enabling her out of love. My mom died of her addiction and my sisters and I all struggles with substances in one extent or out not going to enable her any longer. If she tries to complain to you shut her down and repeat what you said. Dont let her manipulate you, addicts tend to be good at manipulation. Let her know youll be there when she wants help. If she says I need money for rehab and you decide to help, dont just give her money, pay the rehab directly if shes serious.Take HALF the money at least, no less. Youre entitled to this money and she is just going to waste it, whereas you need it for your living. You may be accustomed to letting her have her way or trying to comfort her, but this is the first step you need to take to stop enabling her. Remember, at LEAST HALF. I really recommend Al-Anon for you, itll really help you learn and talk about dealing with your mom. Im sorry, good luck 