<prompt> Human: In high school, parents forced me to go to college. I was not exactly wanting to. I thought trade school might be better. Being respectful, I followed their advice under the promise they would pay back my loans.I have been out of college for nearly 4 years and found out they have been putting them in deferment. They loans are fixing to start being due monthly, and my wife and I have other financial obligations.Parents say they cannot pay loans yet are paying for my other siblings loans while they are currently in college. Their reasoning is I can afford to pay them back now.What should I do? And what am I legally required to do?Possibly options: sell house and cars for cheaper options, put investments on freeze, and break donation promises while I blitz on loanHold parents to original promiseThis is manageable and Im not freaking out. I am just really hurt by parents to force my hand on this.---EDIT: sorry for posting then leaving. I had to learn whose name the loans were in, and talk more with family.The loans are in my name, and mine alone.My wife is being a great sport about this despite it blindsiding her most of all. Her temperance and grace are my solace in these seemingly fucked moments. We are going to continue with investments scaled back to matching on 401k, and we will continue with donation obligations. We are tightening our budget and getting in touch with our frugal upbringings.I will continue to seek advice in rrelationshipsFor what is worth, I am able to be financially independent in large part because of this subreddit. I also have friends I spoke with tonight who are going through similar waters. I will be passing along this subreddits resource to them.Assistant: Pay for them yourself if they are in your name, provide your siblings a heads up so they can plan for the same possibly.Human: Not a bad idea. I will try to low-key do this soon.  <response>: Low key? Speak up and say it with your chest. Its family. 