<prompt> Human: Ive worked for the same and only company as a software developer for 2 years. I started at 43k and now make 62k after a salary restructuring when we were acquired by a much larger company. I expect to move quickly through the pay brackets for my title, as Ive gotten good annual reviews and a general sense of Im doing good from management. I have a good reputation for getting people what they need quickly It sounds like a shameless brag, but really I just do my job unlike a lot of people I work with. Weve lost a lot of good IT staff over the time Ive been there, and have only added one person who I would consider talented.My old director left before the acquisition, and my old manager left shortly after it. They both work at the same place now, in the IT dept. They are creating a new tech push within the company and were looking to fill their team. They had experience with me and know about what Im capable of, so my director called me and basically told me wants me on his team, and the jobs mine if Im interested. He told me the starting pay was 70k plus a 5k bonus an incentive program that they regularly clear for the full amount, with comparable benefits to my current place. I came in and met the team, no complaints, without a doubt would be a perfect job for me if I was looking.The only thing is, Im pretty content with my position now. Ive gotten everyone trained to where as long as I stay on top of my work, I pretty much get left alone - which I love. Im confident that over the next year I can negotiate a higher salary at my company, especially if any more key people leave in my dept and Im left absorbing their responsibilities and assisting in training their successors. I am happy with the amount of freedom I have at my current position, and without a doubt I will not have that freedom at the new place, at least for a long time. I work well independently, and this would be more of a team-based role. Career-wise, I think the job Im being offered is slightly more career ev, but my current position has a large amount of personal growth available to me as well. Its very close.Another thing to consider is my anxietystress level. When I started my first position I suffered from social anxiety pretty badly. Nothing like debilitating, but it got to the point where Id find myself barely talking out of fear of what my new coworkers would think of me. Im sure everyone goes through that uncomfortable-ness of starting at a new place, but it would definitely negatively affect my life to leave a team and group of people that Im actually good friends with, and start re-living the anxiety with a new group. I just remember when I would get up and feel anxious coming to work... Now I almost look forward to getting there in the morning, having my coffee and starting solving problems - something I did not think I would ever feel about a 8-5.Im pretty new to having a big boy job, and could use some advice. I know the obvious answer would be to use this offer as leverage and ask for what theyre offering me at my current job. However, it seems somewhat unethical to do that because my old director had reached out to me personally, and it would feel like Im just using his outreach to benefit me, and leave him after he tried to do something to help the both of us. Also its borderline poaching old director left 18 months ago, old manager 6 months ago, so I havent said anything to anyone I work with about the details - I honestly dont know what the standard protocol is for this.TL;DR: Got unsolicited job offer from former boss, happy with current job but hes offering more money and less freedom.  <response>: Dont use it as leverage with your employer if you dont want to do it.It sounds like you dont want this job, so politely decline. 