<prompt> Human: As the title says, we are hoping to move to the TacomaSeattle area soon from California, but the plan originally had him transferring unions up there so we could continue to rely on his much higher pay. He makes upwards of 40 an hour and Im barely making 18 with my bachelors as an admin assistant. I need to go back to get a masters but if we stay in California, we need both our salaries to pay for rent, which means 40 hour weekdays which means no time or money for school.We figured moving to a cheaper state would be a great new start for us, recently married couple, but now Im having anxiety. One of us has to move up there and work in order to get an HOA loan for a house. Now his union is telling him he can transfer but cannot solicit work for at least 6 months unless hes called in by a company. He wants to do this in two weeks and just get a whatever job in the mean time that pays 50 less while he stays in a rented room and I stay down here, at my current job, move out of our apartment and back with my parents until I find employment up there or he is hired back onto his union.I fear we will not get jobs and we will be broke and our whole new start will be a bad mistake. What are our choices?Assistant: Youll be just as broke in Seattle. What area are you in currently? Posting a full budget may help us to help you live more comfortably. Hes making a ton of money so you have a bleed somewhere.As a side note, tons of people go to school while working full time. Im not saying its pleasant, but its not impossible.Human: We were pre-approved for around 300k which is what we were looking around for, in the Tacoma area. We have about 40k in savings, a few grand in other accounts. Our monthly rent here is 1800 plus utilities and food, so we spend around 2500 every damn month.Assistant: If youre husband is really making upwards of 40 an hour I dont see how 2500 a month should be at all a problem in monthly spending. Youre not taking into account several thousand dollars of income just from your husband, not at all including your own income. Human: He covers our car insurance, as we as hi moms, union dues, some bills, most of the rent and gas for the 6 hours of driving a day that he does.Assistant: What Im saying is that you have a combined pre-tax income of almost 12k dollars a month if youre both working full time. Where is all that money going? 2500 a month plus all those things would barely bring your spending to 4 or 5 grand. You need to post an actual budget because youre either not being honest about your situation or dont actually know what your situation is. Human: My situation is exactly that. I make roughly 1050 biweekly, which goes to savings and bills. Hes told me his bills but if hes saving or spending more or less, Im not aware of if. Should we budget better? Most definitely, especially on buying food.  <response>: Wait...youre married and youre not sure what your husbands bills are? You two need to have a serious conversation and put everything on the table. You cannot expect this move idea to end well if neither of you are willing to communicate fully. 