<prompt> Human: Hey All. Looking for some perspective, so I am just going to lay out my situation:Credit Cards:Capital One - 500 Limit - 0 BalanceBig CC Co - No Limit - 0 Balance - This is a charge card I keep in case of emergency and will consider cancelling before the yearly fees startBig Bank 1 - 6000 Limit 0 4000 Balance - Paying off 500mo, but I keep needing to use it for big purchases vet,wedding,etc so not making the progress I wantBig Bank 2 - 6000 Limit - Fluctuating Balance - My fiancee and I use this for our daily needs and usually run it close to the max by the end of the month and pay it down to about 2000 4000 payment and do it all over againBig Bank 3 - 1000 Limit - 900 balance I just inherited this from my fiancee we combined finances and am paying off 100 a month. I am trying like hell to not let her use it but she fucking loves shoes.Consolidated Loan - 8000 - have it down to 5000 it covered my engagement ring and some other big purchases. Bills:Cell - 115CableInternet - 200 Want to cancel but I love sports and movies a lotLoan - 300Car 1 - 300Car 2 - 300Insurance - 130Utilities - 80-125 depending on seasonRent - 1315CCs - 500-600Overall - about 3400Savings: 1,250 IRA400 Betterment, adding 200moTake Home Income:Me - 4000mo hoping for that to jump to 4,250 or 4,500 in the next two months. I am confident it will be at least the prior.Fiancee - 3500mo but it varies, she is not on salary and self employedOverall - About 7500We are also getting married coming up so expenses are high. Thankfully we do have some help, but our normal needs are amplified at the moment. I cant help but feel like we are moving backwards, but I am paying off the CCs and loans at a pretty good rate and live pretty damn comfortably. The fiancee has very little interest in working with me and I feel like her cost is pretty set at a high level. She doesnt know about the betterment account I started, because she is so anti-saving and loves to live in the momentThe way I see it, I have a lot of debt and very little savings. Is there anything else I can do right now to make progress? I am going to start a new 401k in the next month or so.The CC we use for daily expenses scares the shit out of me because it feels like we are doing things in the reverse order we should, but on the other hand it has gone well and we are racking up points. Im not sure if I am asking for advice or perspective, but thought I would see if the situation triggered any comments. Thanks all!  <response>: Defer your wedding.Alternately, rename your betterment account. I would suggest divorce expenses. Keep growing it.You are living beyond your means. I believe you have already ascertained this and that you recognize it as a problem. You also have ascertained that your spouse is not only not interested in helping you solve the problem; she is interested in continuing it.About 50 of marriages end in divorce and money incompatibility is probably the 1 reason. Reconsider whether you want to invest in a wedding and a divorce, investments with 0 return and 100 capital loss; a couples counselor and a few sessions with a joint financial counselor first would help you both ascertain whether or not you ought to get married when your views about money are so divergent.No one ever takes this advice, by the way, so if you choose not to, dont feel bad. 