<prompt> Human: This is a throwaway. Im not looking for a pity party, more just trying to get the collective wisdom of reddit working towards a problem I havent been able to solve on my own.My mom has a very rough case of Bipolar with Schizophrenic tendencies. She was a stay-at-home wife for my entire childhood. She got a job a few years back when my dad was out of work, but lost it after a really bad episode where she accused her coworkers of being involved in a conspiracy against her.Even together, my parents dont really have enough for retirement for the age theyre at - My dad is 67 and she is 57. The recession affected them considerably, and my dad has been onoff actual work, supplemented by uber since 2009 or so.As noted in title, my dads had enough. Theyre getting divorced. So taking what little they do have and splitting it down the middle, but my mom is now going to be on her own. Her living with me is not really an option at this point. I dont have the patience to deal with her condition, and I usually end up making her episodes worse. Further, I think it would put too much of a strain on my wife and Is relationship - something Im not willing to accept.She has enough to put a downpayment on a small place, and enough to live very frugally for a few years, but Im desperately trying to think of ways that she can support herself on her own. Any advice is welcome.  <response>: First Her living with me is not really an option at this point. I dont have the patience to deal with her condition, and I usually end up making her episodes worseGood for you.I dare to say this simply isnt your problem. Its going to be very VERY hard for you to make your Mom get help. If she doesnt, by now think shes sick theirs nothing you can do. Watch how much money you spend helping her. At that point you can keep trying and let her pull you down or you can block her number. Im going to warn against the whole Be a good son, sacrifice everything for your mom eventually youll grow to resent her if you cant live your life the way you want to .For example, you live in Town X. A job thats right for you is in Town B. You cant move to town B since your stuck in Town X taking care of your Mom. People you tell this to will give you a Your a good son , but your still missing out on your life. Prepare to be financially drained. Ever get yelled at over not wanting to pay a 200 cable bill ?Finally no matter how much money you give , it wont be enough. I came to the conclusion I simply can not play the role of Self sacrificing good son any more.I dont think anyone can do it forever. I wasted 2 years of life before realizing its pointless. How long you want to spend depends on you. But Ill end with this. Your life belongs to you. It doesnt belong to your mother. 