<prompt> Human: I have a sister in her mid-30s who is something of the runt of the litter. She has a good heart, but years of focusing on all her failures has solidified an internal belief that the best she can do is superstore retail type jobs because thats where all her experience is, and there has been no budging on that. Shes at a point of comfortable acceptance and will not allow herself to try for anything else. She wont even try to move up retail because its not in her confidence zone.The rest of the siblings arent that well off themselves, nor the parents, and whether it was the military that benefited me in some way, I somehow ended up being the only financially stable one of the bunch. Because of this, Im looked to first when anything goes financially wrong in not only the lives of my siblings, but my parents as well. There are moments when I feel so trapped by an assumption of familial obligation both sides of that coin that I just want to leave the country and find a forest to live in where all I have to offer is a sharp stick.Anyway, here are some details that may help for any recommendations you may have: She just found out shes pregnant. She never liked or wanted kids, but now shes all about it. The mom juice is a hell of a drug. Ive been helping her get on her feet for the last 6 years in my apartment. She can barely afford 375 dollars of her cut for rent and utilities per month without scraping by until her next paycheck, which is about 11 dollars an hour before taxes and slightly under 40 hours a week. I asked if she considered that when either her or her boyfriend will have to take care of the child while the other is at work, there wouldnt really be a dual income there, and her answer was Well just get day care... She is perpetually in credit card debt. Her boyfriend, the father, is in his late 30s and he just got his first job in a long time. In fast food. Our parents are past retirement age. They live on SS. Theyre not able to be a resource for her, nor should they be, outside of being gracious enough to rent out a room and maximize government assistance programs in probably not legal ways.Im going to close on a house soon and Im sorry, but I just cant stomach the idea of an inevitable support implication for the next 18 years. I dont even have kids myself. I spent the last 6 years in a mutual agreement that wed basically help one another achieve our own goals, with it being mostly about helping her but I didnt mind the extra money - although I nowhere near needed it, and now that period has ended.This decision is best for me, and it is devastating for her if she decides to go through with the pregnancy. Which she seems to be intent on. The only further help Im willing to give is being asked for in this thread.If you know of any resources that can make obvious and apparent just how expensive it would be to raise a child even only to the point beyond diaper age, that might be a good resource. But Im not trying to tell her to abort her child. Im just hoping she understands what shes in for so she can make whatever decision is best for her.Alternatively, assuming human nature overrules all logic, any information on programs and things of that sort are also a resource Id like to be able to let her know exists if she has any chance of creating a new life in a little less misery.Thank you.  <response>: Best thing you can do is make your housing plans very explicit to her as early as possible. She should know shell need to find her our place and should make her decision accordingly.As far as resources, state programs exist for low income folks with children. Overall though- those receive help who help themselves, and it doesnt sound like that really is happening. 