<prompt> Human: I need advice. I am struggling with this decision and literally change my mind every 2 hours. Here is my situation:1 I live in Orange County and currently commute 12 miles, 30 minutes each way. 2 Ive been at my current company for 8 years but have almost maxed out at my current salary.3 I currently make 80,000 per year with no annual bonus.4 I received an offer for 130,000 per year with a 10 bonus4a The benefits at both companies are virtually the same5 The commute will be from Orange to Beverly Hills every day 1.5 hour give or take each way.5a I do have a green sticker car, meaning I can travel in the carpool lane, so that MIGHT shave 15-20 minutes off the commute each way.6 Relocation is NOT an option for us. We like it in OC and live close to our parents, who help a lot with our kids. LA is just not a place we want to live.7 The job itself is actually EASIER than my current job and will be less stress while Im there. No overtime is required and the company has a great culture.8 The company is better than my current company in terms of reputation and potential to earn more money.9 I have a wife and three young children10 I do not own a house, I have 100k in student loan debt looming and my current pay isnt cutting it. We are hoping to buy a house in the next couple of years.So, should I take the job now for the immediate bump in pay, or just keep looking for jobs in OC for less money. Is commuting worth it? What would you do?EDIT: Thank you ALL for your advice so far! It has really helped me. I just responded to the recruiter and requested two things to make the experience easier for me: 1 the ability to shift my workday to leave at 4:00pm so I can at least get home at a reasonable hour, and 2 The option to telecommute AT LEAST once every other week, maybe even once per week eventually.I told her that if they can grant these two requests, I would gladly accept the job. If not, then I will keep looking around Orange County for better jobs.Assistant: If you dont see advancement at your current company, I would go for it. That much may be worth moving apartments, especially if you arent a home owner yet. In your situation, what I would ask is:1. How open are they to working remotely occasionally? You will want to do this, especially with kids, obligations between 5-7 pm? gotta work remotely to be there on time!2. How open are they to working off hours to avoid some traffic getting in and leaving early?3. Is there a gym to blow off some steam before hopping in the car?I commuted 1.5 hours each way, and hated it. But my job was very stressful, and not flexible. I have since left and at my new job with a great boss, I find I dont even bat my eyes at a 45 minute commute. I think the stress at work plays a big role.Human: 1 Ill ask if telecommuting is an option, but its a position that is sort of a face to face job2 They say they are flexible with hours, within reason obviously. So I may be able to do 8:00am to 4:30pm workdays or something.3 I plan on continuing my workouts of 3-4 times per week on the weekends and a couple evenings during the week.  <response>: So I may be able to do 8:00am to 4:30pm workdays or something.8am would be considering getting in early? I would push for even more than that, in at 7 and out at 3:30. That way you can avoid most of the rush hours as well. 