<prompt> Human: Original postEven though I made this post about 2 months ago, I have noticed a huge change in my life when I began to consider some of the suggestions that people gave me. I talked to my mom about it, and she praised me on the ability to save my earnings, just in case I lost my job or my car would break down. She told me it is a great trait to have, but I do need to enjoy life as well.The other week I got my nails done, I didnt even think twice about the money spent. I didnt waste time regretting letting go of that 20, I was instead... happy. I found joy in spoiling myself, not saving that money Ive gotten compliments on them, I feel pretty.I bought a new speaker for music, I went out for drinks, I bought that iced coffee, I went to a football game and asked off fall break from work. I feel like I am living the dream, while not even spending more than 200.A recent eye opener was my recent car purchase. A cute orange Honda, a big upgrade from my current car. I had enough to buy it in cash, upfront, no issues. The previous owner was shocked I didnt need a loan. I was damn proud of myself that I had saved up enough to do that. I am finding the happy medium of saving money, and spending money. I feel more free than I ever have before. I take out 50 for a weekend, and I make sure I spend it. If i hesitate on buying that soda for 2 at the movies, I have to take a moment, and remember what would make me happier: That 2 saved or that soda I really want??Thank you guys for your help, its a learning process, and Ill always be aware of how much I am spending, and saving to live a more comfortable stress free life with what I have. Everyone has their own issues with money, and I really appreciate how people gave me suggestions instead of bashing on how this isnt a real issue. Edit: I am still struggling with wanting to control everything, but I am feeling the benefit of letting some go, and that is a huge first step!  <response>: Agree about the need for balance. My wife and I have saved a nice little nest egg, and so I finally feel comfortable with our spending. We each spend about 400 a month on discretionary stuff and it feels good to do so and not worry about the bigger picture. 