<prompt> Human: My girlfriend had a really serious side affect to being on Prozac and now she is mentally impaired in a hospital room. She is fluctuating in and out of sanity and is not really in the best state of mind to be making financial decisions.My girlfriend and I both have access to her account because I budget her money for her at the beginning of the month to pay the rent and her bills.My girlfriend has 750k in her savings account that was just checked as a final distribution from her inheritance from her deceased grandfathers trust. We have been in contact with financial advisors and trust attorneys, and all of this was going to be sorted out in the next couple weeks but now due to her mental condition the money is just sitting in her account and I have her wallet with her ids and her accounts.My problem is that we have lived together for the last 3 years and we act as if we are married, but we havent actually gotten married because it has never been a problem. If you ask her even in the state that she is in she says Dillon is my soul mate and we are going to be together forever etc etc Now comes the problem:Her father who the inheritance didnt come from wants me to hand over her banking details so he can withdraw the money and put it into his account and manage the money for her. He called me while I was in the hospital and said sort of aggressively that he was going to handle everything and that I need to give him the passwords to her bank account so he can withdraw the money and manage it himself. I believe him to be a trustworthy guy for the most part, but the fact that he wants to take the money from her account is a red flag to me. Another thing is that he has drug induced schizophrenia and sometimes is a little off. My point is that the money is already in the account with automatic bill pay that pays for all of the rentutilities I can withdraw money to buy her food and bring it to her daily seeing as Im going to be at the hospital with her everyday while she recovers.Another thing that makes this difficult is that she has multiple sclerosis and since weve been going out Ive known that basically one of these days something will happen and Im going to have to be her care taker and Ive accepted and taken it on as my mission that my girlfriend will be taken care of no matter what happens to her because I have so much love for her as a person and want to do the best by her always. So weve both discussed the realities of what that entails and never has she said that if she where to become mentally disabled that I should give the money to her father to let him do with it as he will. If anything she has discussed setting up a living trust with her as a trustee and if she where to be disabled that I would be the trustee to distribute her funds..But he basically told me on the phone that my girlfriend agreed to have him take over her accounts which is not a lie, but its not all the information. I had a discussion with my girlfriend in front of her mother and aunt about who should take care of her assets and she started listing off everyone she knows. And I asked her If i should have her money managed by me and she said yes only me. And then I asked if the money should be managed by her dad and she said yes only him. and so on and so forth. So obviously she isnt in the right mental state to make this type of decision. Ultimately I want to just leave the money in her account and have all of her bills auto paid and just pull out the money for her food when needed while Im with her at the hospital while she recovers and then when she recovers she can remain in control of her assets. I just know that its going to be a huge fucking problem and her dad is going to make a fucking scene.I just need advice. This whole thing has been an emotional roller coaster watching my girlfriend go from normal and happy to delusional psychotic state she is in now as if she has schizophrenia or some kind of mental disorder. I feel like Im losing her and Im so scared. She is 21 and Im 23.Edit:This is what I sent to him:Ive had a lot of thinking about Aprils accounts and Ive asked around to a lot of people and this is the decision Ive made. April doesnt have the capacity to make legal or financial decisions at the moment, and so I am not going to make the decision for her to give out her personal banking information to you or anyone else just because Im being asked for it. I talked with April about what to do with her money and she is not capable of giving a sane answer. When I asked April If you should pay her bills and take care of her money she said yes. Which is true and what you told me, however. When I asked her If i should take care of the bills she said yes only me. Then When I asked her exactly who should take care of her finances she listed everyone she knows and she did this in front of Ruth and Debbie They where both witness to the fact that she is not mentally competent to give out her banking information. I know you are her father, but I do not feel comfortable with the fact that you want to withdraw funds from her account. Here is what Im going to do the money will auto pay her bills and I will be buying her food that she wants as I stay with her in the hospital. If it makes you feel better I have setup a access view only account from her wells fargo so that you can view all the transactions. You can see that all of her bills are being paid for and the only thing happening to her account is that the money is being used for her food and that I will not be touching any of it. The username and password for this account is and the password is . You can monitor the account that way and make sure everything is okay. But I can not in good conscious give out and allow for someone to withdraw all of her funds from her account. We have talked extensively since we have been talking about setting up a trust and she has said over and over that she would setup a living trust with mandy and jacob as heirs to her fortune and that if she where to ever become mentally disabled that she would have me as the trustee to pay for her living expenses and to be her care taker and that whenever she passed all of the money would go to her neice and nephew. She never once said to give you all the money and let you take care of everything. I know you are her father and Im not trying to step on your shoes, but I feel like having the money auto pay her bills and having her food taken out is the best way to go about this and I will not be giving out her banking information to anyone.I dont know how he will react to this, but this is the decision I have made.  <response>: You sound reasonable. However, you have to imagine it from their side. They are obviously worried about you taking the money and running or screwing up somehow. Also, do these bills include the rentutilities for the place you are living in while she is in the hospital? If this is the case, you need to be realistic about her chance of recovery. If she is unlikely to recover and move back in that place, I guess the family will feel a little annoyed that her money is used to pay for your bills. If she is likely to recover, I think youll just need to sit it out and you seem to be doing fine. You have to imagine that different people deal with these situations in different ways. Be prepared to take some pressure and be careful not to blame anyone even though they are unreasonable. 