<prompt> Human: My wife and I have been trying to cut down spending for the last year and the stress level has risen to the point where we have made a drastic choice. I wanted to see if there was any thoughts on our budget before that goes through. Details:-We live in the greater Seattle area. Cost of living is high, please consider that when looking at these numbers.-I am self employed so the insurancemedical expenses here are me fully funding our health care. There are no serious health issues in our family-Its me, my wife and 2 kids-The big choice is to drop out of private schoolfirst world problems because its just too much of a strain on our budget-Income level is about equal to the sum of spending leaving nothing left to save etc.Is this spending reasonable for an upper income familyFirst world problems again I know? We are trying to eat organic foods and live healthily, so our grocery bill is higher then it might be otherwise. Food is more expensive here then other places we have lived though. We both work in case that is relevant.My wife is trying to understand where our spending has gone wrong such that we dont go out to movies or dinner that often in comparison to what her friends might be doingsee edit at bottom for more info. So either she has a incorrect view of what other people get to do, or were over spending in other areas, or we make a lot less then others.Edit- Auto is paying off our car, Vacation is abnormaly large last year. We lost our furry friend and thats what that large pets spending is... Sniff sniff love you buddyEdit- Just for clarification since many people seemed to inquire about this, my wife does not want to keep up with people for social reasons. She just wonders what we are doing wrong, that people , by her possibly biased perception, dont have to keep things so strict month to month with dining and entertainment etc. As pointed out by many here there is too many factors in other peoples financial situation to compare and that is a valid point.Edit: Some people have asked if we have a budgetsuggest we make one. We actually do have a budget. Here you go: This contains categories that we can make changes on, i.e. not car payments, and not medical costs etc. My kids is things like a zoo trip or toys , does not include clothing for kidsEdit: It has been pointed out that one of my problems is my categories are too inaccurate. And yes that groceries actually is not just food. Its anything bought from a store that Quicken is set to mark as groceries. This would include toilet paper, paper towels, kleenex, toothpaste, shampoo over the counter drugs etc.  <response>: Tell your wife that her friends are most likely funding their lifestyle with debt probably credit card debt. 