<prompt> Human: Hi all, Im recently married and my wife has added me to her savings and checking account. She has about 80k in cash savings. We are planning to buy a house together, but already I feel we are on shaky grounds. She seems very verbally abusive. We are buying the house in California and the majority of the down payment money will be hers. We are using my VA loan and benefits. Im not poor, but Im not rich, and I am afraid of being in financial ruin if we divorce. I am concern about my investment and in the worse case scenario when we have to separate. Do you guys think Im at risk? I am active duty and must travel, and she will live there, temporarily with her parents. In the worse case scenario and I need to separate, will she take everything from me? I hate planning for the worse, but I am without family.  <response>: Id say go to counseling before you buy a house. Recently married and already shaky... this sounds like help is needed. 