<prompt> Human: I think this idea of jiayong - or family expenses - is something unique to Asian culture, where once fresh grads find a full time job, they are expected to give back to their parents, usually in the form of monthly payments. I landed my first real job several months back and was basically told by my mom to start giving her this jiayong. I have been giving them 500 a month and I look at that as helping with the bills since Im still living at home for free. Since my only other obligation is 8k in student loans, I think Im still OK financially. But Ive been thinking about long term when I move out and start having my own bills to pay, what then? Besides manning up and realizing its my own money so tell them to eff off. Does anyone else have a similar experience? How do you deal with it?  <response>: My wife and I are both Chinese American. We both came from parents who never made a whole lot of money but pretty much gave the shirt off their backs, so to speak, so that their children could achieve the American dream. My parents: College educated with advanced degrees but run a restaurant due to their poor english. Sent us all to have private lessons in various instruments, sports clubs, put all their kids through college. They have no expectation of being paid back and are just happy to see their children succeed. Me and my siblings have plans to fund their entire retirement. Her parents: Never earned more than what would be considered modest salaries, extremely frugal. Paid for all of my wifes college and medical school tuition. Have no expectations to be paid back. Their retirement is secure but we cheerfully gift them cash on the order of thousands a year.Despite my wife and I both working and earning probably what would be considered higher than average salaries, we live very simply drive 10 yr old used cars, etc and save around 60 of take home pay. Oh, we also tithe 10 gross income to our church. We are very grateful and happy to be able to give back to our parents despite them never wanting or asking. 