<prompt> Human: I just got married last week. One of my cousins gave me a check for a pretty decent size of money. This cousin has been having bad money problems for the last year or so.My aunt approached me a few days after the wedding and asked me not to cash the check my cousin gave for a few weeks. Apparently my cousin doesnt have the money for it right now but was too embarrassed to tell me directly so he asked my aunt to talk to me about it.Now I guess this is more of a relationship question that a PF question, but has anyone else been in a situation like this? I really dont want to cash the check me and my wife make a pretty decent income and dont need the money, but I dont want to insult him and hurt his pride. I know I shouldnt cash the check, but how do I follow up with not doing that?  <response>: Tear it up and send a thank you card 