<prompt> Human: Please forgive me for the long post, I wanted to be as detailed as possible and Im overwhelmed and not sure what to do. I am using a throwaway.I am 28 years old.I was in an abusive marriage that left me crippled emotionally. I suffered from PTSD, depression and severe anxiety. I overdosed on Rxs to try to end my life when I tried to leave my ex because he had me convinced because of my mental health, I would never see my kids again. I spent just a day in ICU before getting sent to the mental health unit for 8 days. My ex during this time filed for emergency custody understandablyI wasnt stable emotionally and had me committed. Fast forward, Im in a lot better position emotionally, stable employment, and Ive since earned my MBA and am now in seminary. My ex actually treats me much better than he did when we were married, and we have just recently completed court-ordered parental counseling. After multiple custody hearings, I have been awarded 6 out of every 14 days, which still leaves me with paying 600mo in child support. I make 32,000year, he makes slightly less. I obviously want my kids more than 5050, but Id be happy with 5050I just have to convince him to give me that, which will hopefully come with time. I net about 550 biweekly. I am remarried now, and we have since had a baby. I havent been medicated in years, and am emotionally stable. When I first met my husband, he was in college, and we spent a lot of time working out, talking about history and our faith. Since our baby has arrived, my husband seemed to lack common sense to an extreme, and this caused significant issues in our marriage. We went to counseling, where he was diagnosed with Aspergers. This explains his inability to hold down a job, why our conversations were always about history, working out and Faith all stuff he is interested in. His psychologist explained that people who have aspergers are often diagnosed after the introduction of children, because responsibilities increase tremendously. He also has OCD and anxiety.We filed for him to get SSDI, but that was denied because he hasnt worked long enough to qualify ?!. He hasnt worked long enough because of his disabilityhe is defensive, combative, and lacks social skills necessary to function in a work place aside from lack of common sense...think Amelia Bedelia. We are waiting to see if he qualifies for SSI which, will pay next to nothing because of my income from what I understand?. In the mean time, my dad is on hospice in our home and my husband has been caring for him when the hospice aides and nurses arent here. My dad is alert enough to be able to tell him what to do in very little steps things like getting him his pills, some water, etc. My husband also takes care of our baby while I work who takes a good 4-5 hour nap while Im gone, so this helps him not get too overwhelmed. Im still working through the fact he will never have gainful employment.I think weve been able to make that arrangement work because my dad has been able to coach him anytime anything comes up like if he wont stop crying...and because I made a huge list he has to refer to diaper change, burp, feed, overstimulated, too hot, too cold, etc, which suggestions as to what needs to be done. Thankfully, one of my husbands passions is working out he was a competitive bodybuilder before we got married, so he is in excellent shape and has virtually zero medical expenses because of it, aside from getting regular checkups which is covered by insurance.Two years ago I had an emergency appendectomy in-between jobs no insurance. I went to my nearest hospital about 15 minutes away. I applied for state-sponsored insurance afterwards not Medicaid, which was granted, but my surgery was denied because I didnt go to my medical home. My medical home was over two hours awaynot something I could have done in an emergency situation. I appealed, but because I didnt do this within 30 days of the denial, it was denied, again. I just received a letter from the hospital saying they denied my financial assistance request despite obviously needing it because it has been sent to collections. Im now stuck with this 17,000 hospital bill I cant pay. I have other medical debt in collections, too because I cant pay.I live in a tiny town, and commute 30 minutes to work one way. I have to stay in the area because of custody arrangements, which makes things difficult because with my MBA, I really am limited in opportunities that pay well here. I am also limited for housing.Expenses: 650mo rent 180-280mo city bill sewer, garbage, water 130mo MidAmerican Energy on budget plan, but the house were in was built in 1900 so it has virtually zero insulation 120mo cell phone I could cut back here 100mo internethouse phone I need internet for school, and my dad wont give up a house phone 100mo gas 10mo miscellaneous odd things that come up, like supplies for shampoo or something These expenses I share with my dad, who draws a pension and social security. But, because hes on hospice, very soon I will not make enough to cover even our basic necessities. We make our own laundry detergent, shampoo, lotion, soap. We brew Kombucha, kefir, cottage cheese, greek yogurt, kimchi, sauerkraut. We cloth diaper, and I breastfeedpump exclusively. We line dry the majority of our clothes and the diapers unless we need something done quickly. I drive my dads car he traded in my paid off minivan for a malibu that was better gas mileage, which Ill pay for when he passes away I need to check how much is owed, but payments I think are about 300mo. I make about 100mo with a home-based business that I treat as a hobby. I have over 100,000 in student loans that arent in repayment yet. All of my other debt is medical, which are in collections about 25,000 total. I just paid off a secured loan I took out to help raise my credit in one year I went from 580 to 629, and have a Discover card with a 500 limit that has a balance of about 250. I inquired about getting a home loan so that I can purchase a farm house fixer upper that would give me a cheaper mortgage than what I pay in rent, but I dont qualify because of my medical debt. We have WIC and food stamps about 380moIm overwhelmed. This post has been a long time coming...I came to you all because you may know things I havent thought of or addressed yet.TL;DR: 2 kids from a previous marriage, 1 baby with new marriage to an Aspie, financially crippled due to medicalstudent loan debt and child support Edit: formatting  <response>: I agree with mkeadvising on the bottom line: nothing changes until the income number goes way, way north of where it is right now.What concerns me most are two things:1 the expenses you listed are ongoing expenses, meaning that in some form or another, you cant just pay them off. They keep going on. That is unfortunate, because it means that your current income is only barely enough for your basic expenses, and2 the only person currently helping you in your situation is your dad, and hes not going to be around for much longer.So, heres some advice:Your husband can work inside the house, or he can work outside the house. Regardless, hes gotta work. You cannot do this by yourself. Since child care is expensive, it makes sense for him to focus on raising the baby and helping with increasing the income from the home-based business.Also, I would STRONGLY recommend that you work with the local child support enforcement office and be explicit about your situation. In particular, you want talk about temporarily reducing your child support until you find another, more high-paying job.One more thing: talk with your dad about succession planning. Does he have life insurance? 