<prompt> Human: Hi all,I think growing up my family was always struggling, poor, and as a result, frugal. I just learned to be frugal without really even knowing I was until I experienced some friends lifestyles who were more well off. Ive had many relatives live paycheck to paycheck, struggle with credit card abuse, etc. and my parents always drove it in to never spend as much as you make. As soon as I graduated I started working fulltime, so within the 18-25 bracket, I max out my 401k per paycheck, I max out my 5500 contribution to my own Roth IRA every year, I save my money, and I do a weekly excel sheet update to make sure I know where my money is going. I saved money by going to a public school so I have no student loans. I manage my car, rent, groceries within my monthly income and Im still saving money at a decent rate. I manage an emergency fund, bank savings to go along with my roth 401, and then whatever leftover is for spending freely. While I try to be financially smart, I know Im not doing everything I can to maximize my income investing in stocks, real estate, etc.Dont get me wrong, if friends want to go out to a fancy 100 dinner for a birthday, Im more than happy to go. But for spending money on myself, Id rather have the 1.00 sandwich made of ingredients that gives me 40g protein, 300-500 calories for dinner than that 20 steak that has equal nutritional value. Groceries are pretty much just a costco trip once a month and maybe splurging a little at Walmart for cheese or chips or something. If I can fit my macros with cheap food and be healthy, why spend money on being fancy? My motto has always been, cheap on yourself but never cheap with others. How do you guys justify big purchases? Examples include: I moved across the country to be at my job with no friends. My friends are having a surprise birthday party for a close friend of mine and I contemplated flying out for the weekend to surprise them all. Id spend 400 on a roundtrip.. for maybe 3 days. I can afford it, but it feels like a waste of money since I can always come back around holiday season to hang out.I also started thinking about upgrading my 7 year old computer and building a new one. Nothing wrong with it, just would love to start playing newer games that it cant handle. I feel awful thinking about building a new 1000 computer - but I can afford it. It wont hurt my finances.. but it just feels like a terrible decision. Do I really need this? and my answer is, no, I really dont. But itd be nice...Not being a lil bitch is definitely on my list after re-reading this though. Sorry if I sound incredibly privileged now.  <response>: I really enjoy that motto my man.Ive tried to embodied the same thing , if someone wants to go out for dinner or do some event ? Ya Ill throw money at it. But when it comes to doing something for myself, Ill nickel and dime the shit out of it within reason of course Ya sometimes you gotta treat yourself , but when you do, it means more imo 