<prompt> Human: This month has been a pretty expensive one for me and quite out of the ordinary, financially. Im mainly looking for advice on how, mentally, other folks deal with the when it rains it pours of unexpected expenditures. Typically, I save between 30 and 35 of my net pay, not to include my 401k contributions. This month, Ive already spent 128 of net pay. Some of it are things which I could not avoid: oil change on the car 50, yes I did it myself, spark plugs and coil packs, turbo diverter valve. I saved where I could, reasonably, by doing the work myself. Other expenses I could technically have done without, like additional equipment for my brewing hobby 130. Today, I finally decided I could no longer do without corrective lenses and went to the eye doctor. This expense, while not being able to spare entirely, I could have minimized and did in some areas but I also splurged a bit. I bought a pair a glasses that Ive been looking at for at least 7 years but were always unobtainable. Though I only paid 50 of retail due to the wonders of insurance, they were still a sizable purchase. I made the decision based on some fuzzy combination of form, fit, function and aesthetics. I feel like Im happy with the glasses purchase and outside of the context of the current month, I wouldnt be so worried. Unfortunately, I know its not stopping here. Im in need of tires on the car, as well as front and rear brakes. I guess at 84k miles it is time. Even with my hookups and friendly discounts, its still looking to cost me almost another 700 bucks. Im even going with gently worn tires to save the 150.When all it said and done, I will have probably spent 150 of this months take home pay. Oh, and my birthday is at the end of the month and Id love to be able to go out for a nice dinner and drink or to my alma mater for a football game. But right now, all I can think of is how I feel almost nauseous at the amount of money Ive spent this month.I have a decent emergency fund set aside, so Ive not technically spent myself into a problem area, but nonetheless am feeling quite anxious.Apologies, I know this is long and nearly rambling, but Id enjoy a bit of advice.Thank you.  <response>: How do you cope with a situation like yours? Change your expectations. Your expectations are out of whack, and need to be re-aligned. First off, you deserve proper praise for saving a third of your net income while investing into your retirement. This is not to be taken lightly. You are doing something right. However, when you get upset for spending money on new tires, oil change, a little bit on your hobbies, and fixing your eyes, then your expectations are out of whack. There is nothing that you can do about these expenses, and they are actually an investment into yourself. You tried to minimize them all you can, but you have to suck it. These expenses are apart of life, and you are better off, in the long term, by spending on them today. Again, if you are saving a third of your net income, while investing into your 401k, you are doing something right. Relax and enjoy your birthday. 