<prompt> Human: Essentially the title. Im not planning on proposing to her any time soon, but weve been together for a fair while and this has crossed my mind occasionally. What is the best course of action here? What do I need to be aware of, and what might influence my decision or make it easier?Also, do you have any advice for her or me, I suppose to pay off her absurdly huge loans?Thanks...  <response>: To echo another comment made, my wife has a public sector job in what is deemed a distressed area, after something like two years you can apply for loan forgiveness along the lines of 20,000 a year. Its a complicated process and you have to reapply every year. It also doesnt constitute a plan per se since you are not guaranteed to get approved and they could stop funding the program at any time. Bottom line that is a lot of debt to marry into. The old love or money question. Choose wisely. 