<prompt> Human: Someone from rrelationships suggested I posted here for help. Any advice is much appreciated!My mother has been living with me for 9 years. I got the apartment when I was 21 because it was my last year of college and my dad no longer wanted to pay for campus housing. At the time, my mom was renting a room with some roommates and I thought it would be a good idea for her to move in. I figured shed pay half the rent which was only 825 a month and in a few years Id just move out. Obviously that wasnt the case as I am still living with her, paying almost all the rent and doing most things around and outside the house. It is taking a toll on my health, causing me anxiety, and taking away from my livelihood.My mother has rhemeutoid arthritis. It is getting worse and she isnt doing much to make it better besides go to all her doctor appointments. She doesnt go to physical therapy as prescribed and she sits in chair on the computer from the time she wakes up until she goes to bed. I also thinks she could eat more anti-inflammatory foods, but she eats pretty healthy for the most part. She gets around okay. She can go to the grocery store, Laundromat, cook and light cleaning, but after doing one of those things her joints ache for the rest of the day and then it seems like she can hardly walk well.She also has uterine fibroids. Shes had them since I was a child but by the time she moved in with me they grew to the size of an eight month baby in the womb. Because of her fibroids she went to the ER twice within the first year of living with me from blood loss, as the fibroids suck all the nutrients from your body. We went to countless doctors and they all obviously recommended that the fibroids be removed but they would take her uterus along with it because they were so big. That was the deal breaker for her. She claimed that she didnt want to take out any organs or body parts but she would def have the fibroids removed if she could keep her uterus. Ive learned that wasnt the case at all and she has every excuse as to why she wont get those fibroids removed. I cannot wrap my head around her logic. I know she is scared of surgery but it would take pounds and pounds of pressure off of her joints and drastically improve her health. When I was 18 she sold my deceased grandmothers house that we were living in and put everything from the house in a storage unit. She has two large storage units that cost around 600 a month and the money she got from the sale which was only 60,000.00 she spent in a year from not working. She has been paying for the storage unit up until this day. She has also fought with me tooth and nail to not touch the unit or sell anything until the past three years. Then after I explained how much she spent she became more lenient and didnt give me much of a hard time with it. I downsized one of the storage units two years ago and currently in the process of getting everything out within the next few months. She has no financial education or responsibility whatsoever, she has no goals or plans with her life and it is stressing me out. She has put so much emotional and physical responsibility on me these past years and now that I want to move I feel responsible for her well being once Im gone. Me being 21 at the time, I had no idea of what type of person she really was. How financially irresponsible she was or that she spent all the money from the house sale or that she truly never intended to get the fibroids removed and she was lying to me.Also, I didnt spend a lot of time home the first few years we moved in together since I was at a bfs house. I pay for mostly everything. I make her give me 160-200 a month for the rent rent is now 850. I also make her pay the electric bill which is around 30-50 a month depending on the time of year. toiletries, house hold items, washing clothes, and whatever else Is all me. She does get food stamp money which is 200 a month and she cooks for the both of us about twice a week. This past October I decided to move and will be moving in the next month or two. Ive been making it perfectly clear to her so she is fully aware. She also acts like she doesnt care and she will be fine on her own. I feel crazy, angry, guilty and I just want to get away from her. I feel trapped and confused because I feel responsible for her. I want to live my life. I love her and we do have nice times together but I have no privacy, no personal boundaries, no space and nothing that is truly my own in the house. She says things like Im fine on my own knowing damn well she isnt. If I left tomorrow she would have not place to go. and maybe have enough money for one months rent. This is an unhealthy codependent relationships. I feel taken advantage of and feel like if I leave I will leave her out to dry and she thinks she can just live carelessly and carefree since Im around. I am getting rid of the storage units so it will free up her monthly SSI and Im guessing I will make around 1k from selling the large pieces of furniture and antiques in there. I will give her the money. Here is a little more background of my mom:In 2007 when she moved in half of her income from the government was stopped so she only received 800 a month. She refuses to work until this past month in Feb. She started looking for online jobs. She normally says she will but, just stays on the computer all day.She has 800 savings in a money market account and that is it.She tries to boss me around which has gotten better since therapy and setting boundaries. She has no contact with anyone except me. She does talk to one of her cousins on the phone like twice a week. She insists that she is not depressed. She has told me that she wakes up in a good mood and usually stays that way all day. Up until recently she refused therapy. She has Medicaid insurance and I cannot find a therapist with good reviews that accepts insurance. She wont look for a therapist herself. I am moving. Ive made up my mind and this is something that me and my therapist have talked about. I have 3000 saved and make about 36k a year. I am extremely concerned about her financially when I move. I dont know how she is going to pay to live on her own without a job. I feel like this is her problem and at the same time I think its my problem. I want to live my life and make a life of my own without being responsible for her. tl;dr: My mom has been living with me for 9 years and has refused to work the entire time. She has rheumatoid arthritis and uterine fibroids which she doesnt want to remove. She just started looking for online work since I said I was moving in a few months. I am worried about how she will take care of her self and her financial independence. Please help!  <response>: You cant save her, but she can sink you. 