<prompt> Human: A cautionary tale for all those who read that getting a new offer is a good way of leveraging a raise at your current job - if you do this be prepared that you may have to walk away. I have been bored, mildly stressed, and grossly underpaid at my current job. I had been looking around at other jobs and submitting resumes, and recently was asked to interview at a position that paid 15-20 more than I currently make. As I went along the interview process I realized this new job would be more hours, less flexibility, and more stress. I figured worst case scenario they would make me an offer, I could use it at my then upcoming employee review to try and get a raise.Welp, I went into my review and told them of the offer, and they didnt attempt to counter. Boss basically said okay, when is your last day going to be?. Now I am suffering from job buyers remorse, and dont think the extra money from the new job will be worth everything else that goes along with it. Also totally screwed myself out of a hefty bonus. Maybe I should x-post to TIFU.Edit: obligatory this got way more attention than I thought it would. I just want to add some context. One - I did not go to my employer demanding a raise BECAUSE OFFER like many assume, I was very brief in my original post and the actual conversation was far more civil than I implied, and a lot of the acceptance regret came after I agreed that leaving was best. Change is terrifying amirite?Two - I am getting replaced by a outsourcing company in India which will cost my employer probably half of what they currently pay me in salary and other benefits. My boss ultimately looked at their bottom line and realized they had an opportunity to get someone to do my job at half the cost of my salary and benefits, without having to lay me off and pay unemployment. The more I think about this the more I realize this is exactly why I wanted to leave because its indicative of how they view their employees, I was just reallyyy dumb in how I went about it and jumped the gun. TLDR Summary - Dont give your notice and reference a new job offer unless youre 100 willing to take new job. Duhhh.THIRD EDIT: I want to add that I have never not been a model and hardworking employee, and had a good relationship with my boss. I am an international account coordinator, part of my job is sales and another part is coordinating projects around the globe to ensure my clients get what they want when they want it. I was naive and thought that this was un-outsourceable. In hindsight, the signs were there. Other people who left were never replaced, or new projects were sent to 3rd party companies etc... I thought I was that employee that would be indispensable, but I failed to consider how penny wise pound foolish my employer could be, and that they ultimately would always put their bottom line ahead of relationships. Again this is a legitimate reason to leave a business as well as a good thing for me to get out ahead of it. I just should have not jumped on the opportunity with a new offer I wasnt sure about.Assistant: At least you have a new job and a little more money.Human: yeah, but totally dreading it  <response>: If it helps any, I took a new job mid October. Anxiety attacks, and constant questioning of whether I made the right decision quickly gave way to being thankful I left.Youll get through it and be better off for it. 