<prompt> Human: Heres a short description on my issue: After changing careers, my girlfriend now makes about twice what I do. Our combined income pre-tax is 100,000 USD, approximately, and its split 68,000 and 32,000. We are not married and so we split all expenses 5050.After all is said and done, Im left over with maybe 200 monthly in the budget, while she ends up with about 1000.So what happens is that she can easily spend just a 13 of her leftover income and save the rest, which spends me into a corner, and its a pain having to say no to everything because Im so broke. She buys quality items and wants to do fun stuff that costs some money and I cant afford to keep splitting with her income where it is. What do you bright redditors recommend?  <response>: I do think in general that splitting 5050 when not married is a good idea. However, if shes pushing your expenses up past what you can afford just because she can spend more, then thats a problem. Is she asking you to chip in half for things that you wouldnt otherwise buy?She has to realize that she can either cut her own spending to match yours, increase her overall contributions, or do some spending completely separate from you. You have to realize that any of those is valid options for her and not attempt to force her toward any of them.Lets say theres a concert she wants to go to that you cant afford. She can cut her spending to match yours and decide not to go. She can increase her contribution to pay for part or all of your ticket to come, too. She can buy just her ticket and go alone or with someone else other than you. Any of those options is fine. What wouldnt be okay would be to say that shes going to the concert, she wants you there, and you have to pay your own way even though you cant afford it. Youre working with a smaller budget and cannot match everything she does.I get that its a pain to say no to everything. Im sorry. You can tell her how it feels and ask that she consider that when deciding whether to do something without you. You can also decide that its too hard to be in a relationship with someone with such a different financial situation than you. I strongly suggest not attempting to spend to her level to the detriment of your own financial well-being. 