<prompt> Human: A little background, I am a Finance Manager for a mid size company in Maryland making 83k per year. I was hired at this company 3 years ago for 75k as a Sr Financial Analyst and was promoted about 1.5 years ago. According to local salary survey, my salary should be over 100k. I know to take those surveys with a grain of salt, but the difference between the survey and my current salary is big enough to warrant discussion. Based on similar job postings, the lowest salary Ive seen is 90k as a starting.Today was my annual performance review. My boss gave me a great review and it was wonderful. He asked for my feedback on where I see my spot within company and how I feel about my position. I told him i would like to discuss a more structured plan for my future, and honestly I feel I am underpaid based on the publicly available information i mentioned above.He was not pleased. He did a legit double take like you see on TV, only it was real. He disagreed with the fact that my market rate is higher than what I am making. He also disagreed that my 8k salary increase over 3 years is low, in fact he thinks that is high. He said requests like these are why companies are tired of hiring young people because they will always want more without earning it. He wanted to know why I was even looking at market rates. This indicates that I am not all in, and I have to decide if I am all in or not. He said if I get a raise, then Ill just want another one.Then he started talking about the perks I get now, that it was bullshit he let me recently come in late to take my dog to the vet, I should do those things on Saturday. I dont have to work OT. I dont have to come in until 9am. I have to think about what is really important to me.This was all on the hostile side, I think he thought I was giving him an ultimatum. He kept saying how the grass is always greener but its not worth it, anyone can find a job for more money. I told him I was not personally attacking him, but money is important to me. He asked why money is suddenly so important to me. He eventually said he was going to ask HR if they have any salary data for my position, but says they will not do any market corrections for anyone. It just doesnt happen. But I should think about whats important to me and talk again next week, I guess he thinks Ill change my mind.I know if the HR data agrees with me, hell just fall back on the perks and having to earn another promotion which I havent done yet since its only 3 years he is really anti-millenials. If the data agrees with him, the conversation will be over as far as hes concerned. I never thought a salary discussion would go down like that, it was my worst nightmare. I thought it would be professional, but he took it very personally and Im afraid he will punish me if I ask for anything out of the ordinary coming in late for a vet appt for example. Not that he threatened anything, but his demeanor was clear. Any suggestions on how to proceed?EditThank you all for the feedback, it feels great to have so much support. Based on my initial thoughts and these responses, it appears the worst is true - I do not have a good boss. Perhaps his older generation approach is understandable, but he handled it in an unprofessional manner. I honestly expected him to pay me empty lip service, not lash out. This is the kind of story I read on here and think would only happen to someone else, obviously my work environment is much more professional. Oh well, live and learn.Couple things that were brought up:9am start time isnt really perk, he just wanted to illustrate that hours are traditional here 40week, no OT needed.The salary survey I referenced is a nationwide survey for all roles in finance and accounting, broken down by metropolitan region and by company size. I think Randstad puts it out annually. To best illustrate my frustration, my boss and everyone above me fit snuggly in the surveys range for their titles while I and everyone at my level am significantly lower.I realize 8k increase in 3 years on 75k starting is better than inflation, but as I said, there was a promotion halfway in there. I would have expected 8k just for that. Of course as someone said, the time to bring up my promotion raise up would have been back then, not 1.5 years later, so poor choice by me.I will not bring this up with his boss or HR.A couple more things I remembered him saying for your enjoyment:As part of his you have to earn it argument, he stated he was still an analyst at 37, and look at him, he worked his way to VP.Also regarding annual raises at a all companies, he said long gone are the days of big jumps in a year, he knows because the same thing is happening to his daughter. Ive heard him talk about his daughter. Shes like 1 year out of college I am 30.He was using anecdotal, personal and mostly irrelevant experience as a core part of his argument.And thank you for the gold! This is one of my first posts ever, this is quite an honor.Assistant: Second everyone else saying you should look for a new job. Also, not saying you should do this, but if I was in your position I would go to your bosss boss and ask if thats the kind of mentality they want to project.Human: That is one point I was curious about, thats not the normal way to react to a raise discussion right? Should I be bringing this up with his boss or HR? I dont also want to dig myself into a hole here either  <response>: You could mention it to HR as part of your exit interview after you apply for and get one of those better paying jobs 