<prompt> Human: Backstory: My grandmother is a fully competent adult. She is not going senile and other than simply not taking care of herself, is in decent health for an 80yr old woman. My grandmother lives month to month on social security. I feel as shes one of the lucky ones who in my mind actually gets a decent livable amount of money each month - Just over 2k. She lives in a single bedroom apartment in NJ and her rent is roughly 950. She has a supplementary insurance as well as Medicare A-D. However, she is a heavy smoker who refuses to quit. She squanders nearly all of her money every month on cigarettes and saves no money for food. After her medicare and insurance is taken out as well as her cable, and utilities, she has roughly 500month for food and discretionary spending. We have been doing our best to help her, but she goes through her cash nearly instantly each month and I am forced to buy her groceries when I personally should not be spending my money on other people. On top of this, she isnt taking care of herself well at all. She claims that she is fine and doesnt need help, but is starting to come around to the point where she realizes she cant take care of herself. She doesnt do laundry, she barely cleans, and she only eats TV dinners and junk food. She has no interest in taking care of herself. No one in the family is close enough to her to take her in. She smokes like a chimney and no one wants her around their children or in their homes. On top of this, she is a very manipulative and mean person and has driven her own children to move 1000s of miles away from her. She has a son and daughter who havent spoken to her in years. Both try and keep us from helping her because of how much strife she has caused the family. I personally do not want any financial ties to this woman nor power of attorney. I would like to keep my name off of everything because I do not want to be responsible for her. I only want her committed to a home for her own well being and for the responsibility to be taken off of my and my family. Too much of my energy and resources are being taken away to support her. I do not feel appreciated nor do I feel as though my efforts are actually making a difference.Does anyone have any experience working with getting their grandparent into an assisted living facility? We are at our wits end as she has now overdrawn her bank account for the 4th month in a row. Shes behind on rent, and every time anyone helps her financially, she just gets right back in the hole in no time. There is no rationale to keep giving her money as its immediately spent and gone and does not improve her quality of life at all. Any tips or thoughts on the matter will be greatly appreciated.  <response>: She is a fully competent adult who is enabled by you. step away from her. Let the chips fall where they may. Any approach to you from her should be met with, you need to go into assisted living, want me to call around a find a place for you? and by the way, I have no more money for you. Shell do what she has to do once no one is helping her. 