<prompt> Human: Please dont be too harsh, this has been very difficult, and I am reaching out for help.I am a professional in my mid 40s. Depending on the year, I earn approximately 250,000 to 300,000 per year. My wife is also a professional and she earns approximately 90,000. We live in a very expensive area, with a mortgage of about 3,500 and my student loans are about 1,000month, car loan is about 250month, but that is it for significant debt. We are pretty well off financially.My dad is in his low 70s and has not worked for a long time. He was a professional, but in the mid 1990s quit and went into sales. He has some undiagnosed psychological issues. He had some health problems about 9 years ago, and has not worked since. He has no savings and only collects social security. My dad lived with a woman, but about three years ago, they broke up. He has been homeless ever since. By homeless, I mean, he lives in a disgusting hotel; the place is frequented by prostitutes and drug dealers. It was in the news a short while ago due to a murder. I speak to my father on the phone about 3-4 times a month, and we have him over for dinner every 4-6 weeks. I feel we have a decent relationship, but his financial situation and living situation are very touchy subjects. I do not want to be disrespectful, but he needs help.For the past few years I have been essentially giving him an allowance of about 150 week. I want him to move out of the hotel, and I found a very nice and safe senior community run by a charitable organization where he could live. The waiting list is just over a year. I pitched this over two years ago. This place has a sliding scale and would cost less than the hotel. I told him that if he would apply, I would continue with the 150month, but I would also rent him an apartment in a nicer place during the time he is on the wait list. He has not taken me up on it. I offered again recently, and he said he would think about it. I looked into purchasing a condo and inviting him to live there, but it was not practicable. I cannot let him move in with my family; his presence and his psychological issues would wreak havoc on my family. No matter how much I love him or how guilty I feel, I cannot have him living in my home. The question really comes down to assuming he receives 1,500 to 1,700month in social security that is an assumption based his collecting at 62, but I have no idea, how much does he need monthly? What amount is reasonable? If I give him a larger monthly stipend, am I hurting him by dissuading him from moving to the senior facility? What am I missing? What should I do? This is my first time ever asking advice on a forum, please be nice. I want to help, but I dont know how. Just asking him may not really be an option, he really does not like talking about this.  <response>: 1. You need a geriatric social worker or geriatric care manager to get involved for your fathers clinical and basic living needs. You can find one locally by reaching out to your local AARP. They can assess his living situation and make the determination if he ought to be in a different location.2. I would hold off on the official financial support as it can effect his ability to become dual eligible for medicaid AND medicare. If dad is classified as SMI Seriously Mentally Ill and indigent and hes medicare eligible, he may be eligible for more mental health services than youre currently aware of - however your financial contribution can actually reduce the services than can be available to him.Work in the system, and do a deep dive on Dads true eligibility for care. Then give him and allowance, only in cash, that works in your budget. 