<prompt> Human: Were a mid-30s couple together since June 2015. Moved in together March 1 - he quit his job to move into my paid off place several cities away. We had been together 9 months and were sick of commuting hours several times per week to see each other. I owned my place and he rented, so it made most sense to live here. My city is also a better city for jobs. I supported him quitting as he said it would be easy to find a new job in my city. I thought it would be easy for him too. However, its been 3 months since he moved in and he has yet to find a job. He applies every day, but has only been given 4 interviews and has not received any second interview callbacks after in-person interviews. Hes been taking one class this semester, which he paid for.It is highly likely we are going to marry in the next 2 years and eventually start a family. Weve discussed of kids, parenting styles, and more. We are highly compatible. We are very happy. We communicate effectively and are kind to each other. Our relationship is GREAT.Today, he comes to me saying he wants me to support him in going to school for the next 2 years, full time. He registers for his courses Sunday morning, so this is literally 2 days before the class registration that he tells me this. We would get a notarized document this part was my suggestion, but he readily agreed stating he would owe me for living and school expenses during this time, in the event of a breakup I would have it in writing that it was owed. I believe hed also be fine with an official source drawing up the loan. He wants to go back to school to take his Criminology degree. He says the starting salary in his field is 85k Criminal Forensics I believe, he wants to be an Analyst. We talked about this a few months ago, and we costed out the various options. We concluded that full time was the worst financial option, and I believed it was off the table until today.Due to a parental inheritance, Im worth a couple million dollars. Not Trump rich, but well off enough that I dont have to work if I dont want to. He did not know this when we began dating, and it hasnt really been a factor until we moved in together and somewhat combined finances. I do work - I started my own company in April and have been flogging myself since. My partner has helped a lot with this too, and he has a minority ownership stake in my business. His tuition is something I can afford to do in cash, but it makes me very nervous. My partner has debt - 2k on a credit card, a 10k car payment and another 16k in student loans from his Associates Degree. He has paid his own debts while he is living here he had a 12k emergency fund when he quit, as we had agreed I would cover house and food and home expenses until he found a new job. This choice to go full time will cost us about 85,000 - his tuition and lost wages for the two years he is full time, vs any other option. I believe this loan I would personally make would likely be in the ballpark of 25-40k over 2 years tuition and living expenses.He really wants to go full time, despite knowing its a poor choice financially. He says he feels frustrated not being able to find a job and like he wants to get started on the career he knows hes meant for. He cannot do this without my help - he hasnt applied for student loans, and he has to register for his classes Sunday morning. I feel like a dream crusher saying no, because I can do this, right now, with cash from my bank account. But its a very, very fast decision He gave me 36 hours! and I dont feel like its a financially sound move. I also worry what will happen if I turn him down - how much will I hurt him? How much will he feel I dont trust him? How much will he resent me for having to work part time and go to school part time when I dont have to do either of those things if I dont want to? I also know that this will be overall a worse quality of life for us both - his stress level will be a lot higher doing both part time vs focusing on his studies.I think about all sorts of what-ifs of this deal going sour:- What if we break up and Im stuck with an ex boyfriend that owes me 40k or worse, 20k with an incomplete degree due to breakup?- What if he cant find a job right out of school, or what if he finds a job making only what he used to?- What if he decides this isnt his passion? Hes already done an associates hes unhappy with in computer science.- What if his new crimeprofile analyst job becomes obsolete due to AI taking over the field entirely?Please, tell me what the right thing to do is! I have to give him an answer in 3 hours before he leaves for class. Im so lost right now.  <response>: You want no part of this. Never go in debt for someone youre not married to. Married people at least get a judge to divvy up debts and assets. If this relationship ends you just get an ex who owes you a lot of money youll never see again. 