<prompt> Human: Sorry for the long post and using a throw away because I am embarrassed. I did not know where to post this but I needed to vent. I lost my job over a month ago. I have not been able to find a job since then and am now broke and I dont know what to do. I do not have enough money to make my rent on November 1st. How do I tell my wife we will lose our house soon and barely have enough to pay the bills on her income. We have 2 kids and I am afraid what this is going to do to them. We also have 50k in debt and are already behind on payments to those bills. Anyone have any advice on how to get through this. we are really struggling and my wife does not know how bad it really is. Also if anyone is in the Tacoma area just north of Tacoma I am looking for a job. I have been applying at every place I see the last 2 weeks. no one has called me. I feel I may have been looking to desperate or something. Assistant: First step: TALK TO YOUR WIFE!!!Seriously, she is your wife. She needs to know what is going on. About a week ago there was a thread on askreddit, I think about what secrets people kept that had a negative impact on their relationships. Most of them were about people keeping money problems a secret from their spouse. It was not the money problems that affected the relationships; it was the SECRET. Dont keep it from her!!! Sit down and explain exactly what your situation is. Come up with a solution together. Of course, there will be many suggestions here that you should discuss with her.Human: I know I have had to talk to her for a while and read some posts about it but I just dont know how to take up the courage to actually talk to her. Plus this weekend is both our kids birthday party. I dont want to ruin the weekend for her when its already hard to throw a birthday party when there is no money to buy anything.  <response>: Stop putting it off. It sucks, but putting it off is only going to steal that many more days away from the two of you making a plan. 