<prompt> Human: Im not entirely sure if this is the right sr for this kind of post but it seems to be the only good one I kind find. Currently sitting at work waiting for a ride so Im voice typing while workingOK, so Im 18 years old and I live with my mom and her boyfriend. But before I get into my own financial situation let me go ahead and give you some specific detail as to why my family is not making enough.My mom and her soon to be ex-husband who I hate because he was an abusive prick never really got along, besides of course when they got married. A few months ago my five-year-old brother was kidnapped by my moms ex-husband. my moms ex-husband lives in Chicago and we live in Oklahoma, and the deal was that he was to sign the contract that basically said Brother will be picked up in this location at this date, and brought to Chicago with dad, and at this date 3 months later mom will meet at this location to pickup brother and returned back into the hands of mom, where this visit ends. Apparently, the reason as to why he kidnapped him, was because that he thought that there was an emergency order that my mom was abusive and a druggie shes never done drugs before, at least while Ive been alive and this was his way of trying to get what he wanted, which was him having leverage against my mom for whatever reason. We have him back now but had to pay A LOT of money for an Attorney, and various Court Case related stuff.tldr; Dick stole brother amp;amp;amp;amp; we lost a lot of money.Right now Im working part-time at Damp;amp;amp;amp;B, where at first I was making 10-13 an hour working at the front desk, host, or working local events. But now Im working as a server at the same place, so my money is not always guaranteed. Right now I am the difference apparently between a roof over our heads or living out on the streets. Every time I get paid, my mom always takes out about 60 to 80 of whatever Ive earned that shift. Which usually only leaves me with about 20 to 60, but when I get paid the next day in tips, she takes 60 to 80 of whats in my wallet as a whole. And she tells me to not spend ANY of my money on anything, unless it benefits her in someway about bills or payments.tldr; Mom takes my earnings, meaning I only have about 60 at all times.Ive never been told about making a savings account from my mom, and she wont let me save any at the moment. The reason why I say that is because not only literally she wont let me, but Ive asked to get a second bank account to put some money in over time, My own card basically. I have a debit card with Chase, but its connected to hers, and she can take it out at will, and put some in at will. Which she never puts any in. Im wanting a savings account so that way I can save up for a car. A method of transportation. She says that I cant drive her car unless Im on her insurance which would cost me about 130 to add my name onto her insurance. But she wont let me pay that at all until she gets caught up with bills which has been the cycle the last 3 months. She once told me to get a second job, which I went into a Dominoes about a 5 min walk from my apartment, and asked for an app, filled it out, gave it back, and they liked my attitude so much, as soon as my background check went through, they hired me on the spot, and asked when I could train. That was awesome until my mom then said You cant get a second job anymore. Not only because I recently got a job, but your existing work schedule wont allow it. Which is true, so I told them basically how it was and was kinda down that I had to turn them away after the good first impression I made.tldr; Mom wont let me save, get my own card thats not attached to hers, OR pay for a method of transportation She says Try Lyft to get to college but that costs 17 minimum to get there, and thats not counting back homeMy work right now is about a solid 10 to 15 minute drive from where I live, and I absolutely love my job. Although I have another dream job in mind, its the best place Ive worked at compared to any other restaurant Ive worked at. I need a method of transportation to get to school, and to get to work. But my mom wont even let me save up for any of it.I just had a talk with my friend not to long ago, hes a former navy man whos 27 years old. Loves video games, YouTube videos, streams, and his girlfriend is the same way, they both work here with me. He hasnt been in the situation I have been in before but from what he understood he suggested that I secretly open a private account on the down low to start saving up money and lie about what I make to my mom so I can start saving. He mentioned that I was 18 and could do that. He also mentioned that if need me, if things dont work out between me and my mom she currently is mad with the amount of time I spend playing games, but doesnt have a problem if that time was instead reading a book, which makes me want to move out cause it makes no sense that I could move out and crash at somebody elses place for some time, although it would be a disadvantage to my mom, he mentioned I need to have a life of my own, and my mom should be taking care of me, not the other way around. Im just so lost.Im sorry if this is wayyy longer than the average post, this is my first time posting on this sub Reddit, but I dont know where else to post or look for help. If you have any advice or knowledge on what to do in this kind of situation, please let me know. And I dont need any kind of Well you dumb st, you shouldve done this this and this. Just, if you have any good insight, let me know please, I need advice and fast. Thank you.EDIT: I wanna thank you all SO MUCH for the feedback you all have given me. Ive seen stories on this thread and have thought about posting here for awhile, and wasnt sure if this wasnt the appropriate subreddit. I really didnt think I was going to get a good response, let alone a response at all. No offense lol I really do, from the bottom of my heart, appreciate the responses Ive gotten. Thank you all.EDIT 2: Good morning! I hope you all are doing well. As of right now, I can steadily say that Im going to try and talk to my mom one last time, kindly but firmly, and if it doesnt work out, my course of action is to slowly start taking whats mine out and away from her. Sendimentals, documents of mine like SSC, Birth Cert., Etc. and I just got paid a little extra last night simply being because the party I worked ended up being miscalculated regarding the final tab, so I am hiding my 80 right now in my phone case. She wont be able to tell the difference. Also, to the gentlemen who suggested getting a Ruckus, I have done some research and it looks like thats what Im going to be saving up for, for the time being, so thank you for changing that perspective specifically. And last but not least, is once I have enough saved up, my friend said that here in a few months, hell have a room open and doesnt mind me at all coming to move in. So I believe its a well thought out plan, I just have to get the ball on it moving, very slowly moving. Thank you all! Im still going through all the comments atm, but trust me, I will read em all.Also, can someone please inform me, if its normal to have over 200 comments on a post? This is my first time posting text ever, and I am not used to seeing the numbers haha.UPDATE: So I talked to my moms boyfriend about it and basically he told me that if I want a specific amount of money I need to give each month, I need to be able to meet that amount each month, otherwise Im kicked out. It seems a bit harsh but it makes sense. He said sometime tonight, hell grab my mom and me and hear both sides of the story and come up with an agreement. He did agree that not being allowed to have an account for savings is bullshit. So heres the start of either an amazing thing or an ugly thing.Also, I checked my credit score, thank you for the people who suggested it. It seems that I dont have one yet, but before I actually got to see the scores themselves, basically it told me that my name was potentially put on a mortgage about 4 years ago, as well as on an auto didnt say specifically this may. Is that a red flag? Or is that to be expected? UPDATE 2: Hey there guys! Sorry for the delayed response, me and my mom delayed the convo for tonight and it was actually just me and here talking it out. There were some misunderstandings on her part which she felt bad for and admitted she was wrong in most areas, and the issue is RESOLVED! I just wanted to say I never thought that I would get this much response and honestly thank you so much for the feedback. As of right now, Im contributing a solid 100 a week, and being able to hold onto my own money. Im saving around 20 - 50 a shift and my mom knows. She just kinda changed herself from being kind of narcissistic and is kinda chill now, its like it happened over night. Also, I know where all my documents are, regarding personal info SSC, Birth Cert., Etc. and am kinda happy now. I honestly was very afraid of moving out as a potential outcome, but Im glad it didnt come to that and I dont think it will anytime soon. Im gonna be starting a second job here this week, so thats some increased income. So everything for the most part is resolved! I cant help but say it one last time, from the bottom of my heart, I sincerely thank you, for helping out a total stranger like me, in my real life situation. Thank you. Now its time to find myself a recruiter. :3This may be a bit off topic If you found me as a kind and outgoing person, and wouldnt mind chatting a bit with a guy like me, feel free to add me on XBL That Other Bro, I dont really play PC anymore, but I do have steam. Pm me if you want that because Ill have to look it up. Just tryin to make some friends with some cool dudes. Or girlsAssistant: I feel sad this is happening to you and can only say as I lived the exact same situation when living with my parents that the best and only TBH solution is to move out. If you dont get enough money to afford living on your own remember expenses are higher living alone, not just rent but food, travel, heatingelectricity remember the difference between summer and winter as well for that then search for a place offering for students. Youre young so I can imagine theres plenty of collegeuni kids in a similar I need a roommate to survive situation. Things arent going to get better in the situation youre in, they only get worse. It took me years to realize that my dad was in fact, a deadbeat and staying there was ruining my life. You love your parents and always want to see the good from them but sometimes it blinds you on whats really happening. Human: Well my plan now after all the replies is to save up some money in my own incognito account away from my mom, and save up enough to be able to start paying some bills if I was to get a roommate, which I have literally just contacted some of my connections and see if they know people. And I can kind of see the whole deadbeat deal already starting to happen I feel.  <response>: Can you talk to anyone at school about your situation? A dean, a professor, an RA? My universitys president had open office hours where you could go talk to him about anything. The administration is a crap shoot, but the faculty and other people working directly with the students will often bend over backwards to help kids. A priest at my college helped one of my friends find a place to stay after his parents kicked him out.I agree with uthrowaway48reen: your family situation will only get worse. My concern is that this will affect your education, which is your golden ticket to freedom. You dont want your familys BS hurting your grades or forcing you to drop out or lose your scholarship. Dont be afraid to ask for help at school. There are more people waiting to help you than you might think. 