<prompt> Human: Ive known my wife for ten years and her mother for about 9 years. In the time that Ive known her mother, Ive noticed a lot of changes cognitively and socially. She was once a spry, outgoing and capable individual. Today she is very different, shes become needy and dependent. As long as Ive known her shes never had to work. She is divorced from a doctor, got a very large five bedroom house that she was forced to sell for a song as a result of the recession. Shes been living in an apartment since. In the past two years shes openly talked about having to move from where shes at because its unsustainable. Weve heard a lot about plans of moving that usually fall through. In that time shes gotten rid of many of her possessions to where shes currently living in an apartment, too big for one person, that is almost completely empty. My wife and I live 40 minutes away and have offered to help her look for apartments or places that are more affordable. Shes never taken us up on the offer.A few months ago she called when my wife was out of town and left a voice mail on MY phone saying she was hoping to stop by within the next couple minutes to look at apartments with me. She thought she hung up and began to scream about only having 60,000 dollars for the rest of her life. When my wife returned I spoke with her about possible psychological issues or stress her mother might be going over and that she needs some help. My wife has 3 other siblings. They all have bachelors degrees, but are all probably working jobs that are below their earning potential. We just recently had them removed from her phone plan, but one of her siblings lives close by and frequently uses MILs car to get to work, which he was recently laid off from. So not a lot of help from them. In the past there have been interventions among siblings discussing their promise to help mom but nothing ever happens. Theyre barely taking care of their responsibilities.A couple months ago, MIL tells us that shes moving back to her home state MT for a cheaper cost of living. Her friend from high school, who lives there, promised to move her out and help her find a place and a job etc... While I think moving to a cheaper place is ideal, I see some red flags that maybe my wifes family isnt seeing, potentially elder abuse. Do they trust this friend? I cant help shake the feeling that my MIL wants someone to just rescue her. Yesterday MIL texts my wife, stating that things in MT might not be as sunny as promised. Her friend was looking into retirement facilities 55 and older for her to move to which I originally suggested. This offends her idealistic vision of what this arrangement was. Personally, Im not sure what her options are. But they dont seem fancy. Shes 65 years old. Im assuming from that wacky voicemail has around 60,000. Im thinking that even in MT a modest apartment couldnt be more than 500 a month. Siblings could partially contribute to that. As a son-in-law, I really have little say in what she does but Id love to give my wife some advice that might help her mother.Thank you  <response>: Ive seen this a couple times, albeit with older people. IMO - this could possibly be signs of dementia or something similar. Its time for all of the kids to take care of mom and that might mean mom moves in with someone. This is a reality that a lot of Boomers and their kids are starting to realize posts like this are becoming more frequent. Yall need to get her local and get POA before the 60k vanishes. 