<prompt> Human: Hey rpf, thanks for reading. Sorry for the lengh of this question but I wanted to try to give enough background info for anybody to give me some input.Im 27 years old, working a stable engineering job, and just got married 5 weeks ago. I understand manage my daily finances well, but when it comes to accounts that were set-up for me, I have just let it happen without much say in it.I have three bank accounts and one stock portfolio. Bank account A was set-up as a Savings Account when I was 12 years old and since I was a minor, my mother was put in custody of account until I was of age.Bank account B was set-up as a Checking Account, 9 years ago when I first went to college, under my mothers bank profile but under my name This made it a free checking account. Bank account C was set-up as a Savings Account for my grandparents inheritance. And the one stock portfolio was the transfer of my grandparents stock to my name.I have only used my Savings Accounts A and C when putting a downpayment on house and buying new car, so they have just sat there. Now that I am married, I want to add my wife to the accounts so her and her foster children have security if anything happens to me. Ive been transparent to my wife about all my accounts and she has told her family all about them. I went to Bank A to add my wifes name to the account and they told me that I was primary account holder but still considered a minor on the account so my mother still had full control and I could not add a member, withdraw money, or close the account. I went to Bank B to add my wife to my Checking Account but the bank told me my mother had to be there to add a member. At this point I was pretty embarrassed and knew I looked like an immature adult who had no control of his bank accounts. This is definitely self-inflicted becuase I did not take the proper steps in the past to understand my accounts. I contacted my mother and told her about it. She is closing Bank Account A and depositing the money into my Checking Account B. I am then moving my money in Checking Account B into my wifes only checkingsavings account. Then closing checking account B. This should resolve the problems with Banks accounts A and B. Now my wifes mother was told what happened and she now only refers to me as a mommys boy and has no respect for me at all. My wifes whole family was told what happened and now they all look down on me. I am embarrassed and ashamed but had no idea this would happen or it would be like this. Even after identifying the problem and proposing an easy solution, I am constantly being asked what I am currently doing to get it done. My wifes mother and my wife hound me every day while I am at work, asking me for updates on my bank accounts and when my wife will be on my accounts. I tell them everything and have been cooperating fully.Now here comes what I need input with. Savings account C is my grandparents estate and is the largest account. Their estate was divided between my mother, sister, and myself. We each have an individual bank account which holds the money. My Savings account C has me and my mothers name on it with paid on death to my sister. My wife wants on this account too and my wifes mother will not stop hounding me about it until my wife is on it. My mother does not know about all the problems I am getting from my wifes side of the family but my mother, in the past, has asked me to honor and respect my grandparents will by keeping that money in the family. I went to Bank C and was told that I can withdraw money from Saving Account C and open up a new account with me and my wife and add that money there. I want to make everyone happy. Does it seem respectable to both sides of the family if I withdraw half of the money from Savings Account C and add it to a new Savings Account to my wife? I can even make the POD still to my sister. This sounds like it would make my wife and her family happy because she is included in all my accounts while making my mother happy by honoring my grandparents will and wishes for keeping the money in the family. What do you think? I am sorry for the lengthy message. I just do not know what is the right thing to do. Thanks for any helpadvise you can share. Im already embarrassed and ashamed for not understanding things better before sht hit the fan.. so any positive and negative comments are fine.edited for better sentence structure.  <response>: You need to stand up for yourself and tell them to bug off. This is between you and your wife only. Nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about. 