<prompt> Human: Ill start by saying Im not entirely sure this is the right subreddit to post in because my dilemma is more one of ethics than practicality. I know what the practical thing to do is, but still, this is an exceedingly difficult choice for me and I really want to make the right decision. Which is why Im looking to people much more involved with finance than I am. If this isnt the right place to post, please point me in the proper direction!And, of course, if people are concerned by this type of thing, Im using a throwaway due to the nature of this post. My father died recently. Through investment and his work he accumulated a fairly massive at least, to me estate the figure I was given is 1.75M give or take a few thousand Euros; I am Canadian and he was British-Canadian dual but held his assets primarily in European banks which he left solely to me, his child. For most people the choice to take that money would be easy, but for me its really, really difficult. This isnt to say I dont feel ridiculously privileged to be able to look at this money and say that maybe, I dont want it. My father was a despicable human being, to say the least. I was not his only child by far; he had a whole other secret family while married to my mother. Soap opera bullshit like that was his specialty, I am entirely unsurprised he left his estate to me and not his current wife just for the record, no matter what I do Ill be giving her and my three year old half sister something, as soon as I figure out how to go about that... if you have ideas?.My father and I were not on good terms, to say the least, especially since he left my mother and I to drown, financially-speaking, for years before reappearing when I was a teenager. Accepting that I am the sole person listed feels like he wins, even in death, and as if I am accepting blood money. Im a person extremely concerned with doing the right thing. Im a late-year as in Im not a first year, Im trying to keep personal identifiers to a minimum law student specialising in human rights. Ive already secured the money I need to pay for the rest of my schooling I hadhave a lucrative job as a paralegal with a large firm and my school fees are quite minimal as a Canadian from the province I attend university in and I dont worry about sudden astronomical hospital fees the way many Americans do sorry, Jesus, I dont mean to sound like Im bragging about it. Not only do I not want his money, I dont feel as if I need this money, either. Im not entirely sure what happens if I reject his estate, or if thats even an option, or if I should explore something like setting aside a portion just in case I do have mental health issues that have the potential to prevent me from working in the future, to be accurate and giving the rest to a domestic abuse charity. Im just very confused. Ive been told by various people I trust my mother listen I know we like to stess not to tell people about your windfall but this woman raised me impeccably even though I was a reminder of what utter shit she had the misfortune of loving and I fuckin love my maman, alright, my boss a finance lawyer himself, my fathers lawyer, my step-mother, my boyfriend who, before you say anything about telling him I stood to inherit a fuckton of money, was the one who suggested giving it to charity sorry Im very defensive of the people I love several different things.I just want some clarity. Anything at all you can tell me is appreciated and I will do my best to answer questions Im not native English speaking so I might fuck up but Ive been around it long enough I hope I dont.Oh and Im in my early 20s too if that helps anything. Edit: Yes, Im aware for those of you who saw this intially that I fucked up my gender. It was a lot of text. I am exhausted. I am a female human but Im not sure why that matters really. Edit2: Thanks for all of your replies. I cant answer everyone as I have to go to work now but I do appreciate all of these perspectives and I appreciate this community. Thank you for not letting me feel like what I was asking was stupid.  <response>: IMO, sounds like youre letting emotion outweigh logic ie, rejecting the estate. Thats a lot of money, a life changing amount for most. You can dramatically change not only your life, but also your familys life, and the lives of strangers through charity.Personally, Id donate a pretty hefty chunk to worthy charities sounds like domestic abuse charities are close to your heart, probably 25 or so, give another 25 to the secret family or whatever, and investsave the rest.That being said, sometimes emotion has to trump logic. If youre the type of person that could not sleep at night because you live in a house paid for by money he earned, then by all means, donate it all to worthy causes. 