<prompt> Human: I am a financially responsible person, and would like to propose to my girlfriend, but I have no idea what a reasonable but still significantly impressive engagement ring should cost someone in my position.I know what the diamond cartels have said 3-5 months salary, and Im going to ignore that shit completely because fuck De Beers.My yearly take home pay is about 35,000. My major monthly expenses are roughly as follows;660 Mortgage150 Car payment115 Car insurance200 Gas car300 UtilitiesPhoneInternet100 Student Loans600 General Stuff clothesmusicbeergolf ballsflowerseating outcrap etc.This leaves me with roughly 400month in potential savings, barring some kind of unforeseen expenses. Over the past several years I have managed to save;3,500 in savings account5,000 in checking account2,000 in fun stocks stocks I play with for funIm thinking of spending roughly 57 of my total non-retirement savings on the ring 5,500 - 6,500Is this too little? will I be filled with shame when her friends look at her ring and say awe, isnt that cuteIs this too much? will I regret not having enough money for a nice wedding and honeymoon.Any advice would be much appreciated. I promise to immediately answer questions to further clarify my financial status if that would help with advice.Thanks!P.S. first post on rpersonalfinanceEDIT: It seems my original price range was definitely NOT financially reasonable given my income. This is welcome news as I think a weddinghoneymoon and stable future together is more important and I think she does too. Going to take the advice of 50 of you and talk with her, look at rings together, go try them on together etc.. Bottom line is that she will get what she wants. I just hope that what she wants doesnt put us in the poor house. Full disclosure; she doesnt really know how money works.Thanks again!Assistant: Im thinking of spending roughly 57 of my total non-retirement savings on the ring 5,500 - 6,500This is an enormous amount of money to spend on a ring, in my opinion. Is this too little? will I be filled with shame when her friends look at her ring and say awe, isnt that cuteAre you trying to impress your peers or are you trying to find a ring that appropriately expresses your affection for your SO?Is your SO only impressed by extremely expensive jewelry? If so, are you OK with that?Human: I guess I should clarifyedit. I would not feel shame at spending that much, but I have an irrational fear that she would. Its irrational because she has said that she doesnt really like diamonds or care about money value, just wants to get married.  <response>: she has said that she doesnt really like diamonds or care about money value, just wants to get married. If I said this to my boyfriend I would be upset he spent 5k potential honeymoonwedding money HALF your savings on a ring. 