<prompt> Human: Her hometown is approximately 40 minutes40 miles one way from my and her job. Her primary argument is that wed save on childcare cost by utilizing her parents. Im more concerned about wear and tear on a vehicle and travel expenses associated with a daily 40 mile commute. The alternative would obviously be finding a house closer to our jobs.This is compounded by the fact that currently I can walk to my job. Its literally next door.Pros:We would be able to have essentially free childcare at any given time.Its a safe, quiet neighborhood.We have free land when we go to build.Cons:Commuting daily.Its rural to the 10th degree.What is the general cost for childcare? What are some of the other concerns that we should be looking at?Clarifying edit: this is in the plans and were just getting our options. We arent packing up and signing a mortgage tomorrow. The plan would likely be to do this in 2 to 3 years.  <response>: Sounds like many more factors go in to this than what you listed, most of them arent financial.Youre going to be spending what, 2 hours driving every day as a result of this change? Thats 10 hours lost every week. Youre going to have to get up at least an hour earlier every morning.Do you want to live in a rural town? Do you trust her parents to raise your kids? Do you trust whoever the backup is in the rural town when grandparents arent available? Did the grandparents really sign up for a full-time babysitting gig for 5 years? Or is this an assumption?I wouldnt be in a hurry to move, especially not if you dont have kids yet at all. But you may think a rural lifestyle is worth the commute. 