<prompt> Human: Im going to be posting this to rlegaladvice as well considering my situation involves running for the hills and divorcing an emotionally abusive spouse. Anyway, onward to my situation . . . I got married in 2011. About six months after getting married I found out my husband was a drug addict heroin, and had most likely been an addict since the day I met him and well before. We had partied during the time we were dating, but he never let on that he was addicted to opiates. He barely drank, but did occasionally smoke weed and we took acid back in 2009 and 2010 on rare occasions. Looking back I can see the signs now, but at the time nothing tipped me off that something was wrong.Ive been married to him now over 7 years, together over 10. When I moved in with him before we were married I should have seen his manipulative behavior for what it was but, again, didnt see the signs at the time. I have no idea why I was so blind, but I let him convince me into overdrawing my accounts, maxing out cash advances on my credit cards, all so that he could have money for gas for work or cigarettes. I went months without proper clothing for work, shoes falling apart, unable to afford basic health and hygiene products. I watched as I maxed credit card after credit card out just so I could eat or have sanitary napkins pardon the TMI. During through the financial issues and the emotional manipulation and abuse, I met someone online here who was going through the same thing. She lived a few towns over from me, and her story was practically the same. She was worse off financially than me, and he was more abusive based on what she told me but I found some comfort in finding someone with a similar story. The reason why Im posing here today is because after she posted a ventupdate in rdivorce where both she and I lurked quite often, she ended up being practically torn apart for posting periodically for 4 years off and on and not just leaving her husband. Less than 24 hours later she deleted her account and took her own life. Shed been depressed for years, and I think this coupled with a few things that had happened that day just pushed her over the edge. She was 30.The reason why Im posting this is because Ive been terrified Ill end up doing what she did. Financially Im a mess. Ive been able to pay off a few credit cards, but the damage to my credit is going to take a long time to repair. I alone make just under 2k a month, my husband makes more than double that. Yet due to his drug habit and my bills, were scraping by paycheck to paycheck, and usually going into the red thanks to the overdraft protection on my account. I have, including my car loan, nearly 30k in debt. I have three cards maxed out and several others that Ive been able to refrain from touching so I can pay them down. Rent is 750 monthly, utilities a little over 200 monthly during winter and summer months due to heat and AC. I also have rental insurance for 40 a month, car insurance for 240 a month hes on my insurance. Internet is 89 monthly. Phone for both me and him is 150. I look at all these and when I add up everything, plus cc debt I would be in the red. I have been able to sneak some money away into a savings account to afford either A. a lawyer orand B. a down payment for a place of my own or 1st and last for an apartment. It will take me months and months to get anywhere significant with the savings but its money he cant touch. I could make a down payment on a prefabmobile home in a nice area in about a year, depending on my situation then. I apologize for the wall of text, but wanted to add some context to this. Ive got a basic outline of what I want to achieve in the next two years, but its slow going. Im a bit impatient since the STBX is getting worse as time goes on and I just want to be done. So, any advice would be appreciated.Assistant: Leave, declare bankruptcy, start over fresh and clean.Human: Leaving is definitely step one, and Ive squirreled away about 1k so far over the past three months had to skimp on just about everything else, which has been hard. I remember now why I dont eat Ramen everyday. I auto transfer 150 per paycheck both mine and his to the savings account before we can even touch the money. Its been a blessing.Im guessing that I should save up for either 1st and last first or down payment, the mobile home that I have my eye on would require a down payment of 8k at 10 down. Then have enough for lawyer to file for divorce and bankruptcy. I havent missed a payment on any cc, so paying them down during this might slow down a bit but would still be on going. I make slightly over the minimum payments or minimum payments only. My question here would be what the risks were if I were to get the mobile homeprefab home Im looking at and THEN declared bankruptcy? or the apartment and then declared?  <response>: Id be looking at the mobile home after you have settled. First Id be looking for another place to live ASAP. Then Id just disappear. Not a word to your husband. Definitely follow the advice to call the helpline and absolutely inform the police of your situation if you feel in danger. Once youre away some form of freedom will surely begin to show in your life and youll begin to see the light at the end of the tunnel really only needs your own conviction and hardwork to be reached. Its absolutely not your fault that youre in this situation but its in your power to get out of it.Its really sad that your 30 year old friend took that path. 30 is very young, with plenty of time to rebuild a happy life. You may not be able to see it right now but you eventually will.It may be too early to seek financial advice on bankruptcy and such. Find a new place, doesnt have to be perfect, just temporary. Get as many of your things as possible in your car while your husband is at work and disappear from his life. File for a restraining order and let your work be aware of it. 