<prompt> Human: Hello Reddit. I would really appreciate any information you can provide to help me manage a difficult situation. Suffice it to say that my father is a really horrible person, has hurt everyone around him including me, and all I am trying to do is help him stay afloat while minimizing contact with him.x200B;BACKGROUND: this can be skipped but Im trying to explain what a crazyrecklesswillfuldestructive person this man is even at 71 years oldJust to give you a flavor so you understand how difficult it is to helpcontrol him, my husband and I bought a house for him and pay the property taxes. Hes been there 6 years. A few of the things hes done while there. 1 Cut out a window of the house because he wanted to enlarge it with a custom window. Then proceed to ask for what ended up being about 1000 for parts to build and add a new window. For 3 years there was a whole in the house he kept covered with a tarp during winters. Winters in the Poconos are pretty cold. 2 Although he has no money, he somehow accumulates massive amounts of junk wood he bought and then left to rot in the rain, old machinery he gets I dont know where, old clothing he gets I dont know where and then we have twice given him more than 500 for garbage removal in addition to paying for the normal weekly garbage services. When he asked a third time we refused. So basically he does all sorts of money intensive and property destroying things without asking us and despite numerous protestsrequests etc to just not freaking make house-altering actions. So this is to give you a flavor of how he doesnt listen but just shakes us down for money. We bought him the house and pay the property tax and otherwise try not to do anything except if he contacts in a dire emergency. This is because when we first started helping him out we did things like pay the electric which he abused running electric heat instead of using the wood burning stove despite us buying wood...which he left to rot, running the electric heat while leaving the door and window open to get some air, running an AC in the summer even though its only 70 degrees outside. We also initially gave him a credit card he abused this running up hundreds of dollars a month at Home Depot for no clear purpose and then some cash he kept doing home-destroying things so we stopped giving him money so as not to enable this. So we have tried any way we could to help him not have emergencies and it doesnt work. Oh we have also bought him 2 cars which he complains about as in theyre not good enough yadda yadda yadda.x200B;Bottom line: At 36 years old I have spent almost half my life contributing to this mans support and I have really had it emotionally and financially. I really want to have nothing to do with him and want to make sure he is getting as much as he can from the government. I pay lots of taxes and I feel totally strung out and like I cant do this anymore and like I have pulled more than my fair weight for this problem and now society should step it up a bit more. Want to see how to lessen contact even more and make sure he is accessing all government benefits possible.END BACKGROUND:x200B;Heres where hes at. He gets 660 a month in social security net I saw on the statement 50 is garnished to pay my mother back child support and 134 isSMI Premium - what is this?. I initially helped him apply for food stamps and home heating assistance with the help of a social worker. He claims these have been cut over the years, so I dont have details as to what he is receiving and whether he is doing all the applications he can for relevant benefits. He lives in a house we own and we pay the property tax so he has no costs associated with rent.x200B;He claims he has the following monthly expenses, but doesnt provide proof:147 auto insurance doesnt this seem high? my auto insurance is about 600year in NYC61 internet this also seems high to me...I wonder if he is buying more than the bare minimum40 cell phone ditto...seems like he could get by on a lower plan...and this is in addition to the free cell phone he got from the federal government via some program unless he doesnt have it anymore...but he certainly did in the past120 gas money this seems like a lot for gas each month. he cant work due to a criminal record...so there is nowhere he really has to go...and 120 seems like several hundred miles worth of driving each month...whereas he lives 6 miles from town so even to socialize he doesnt need to drive that far...200 food and pocket money as he describes he occasionally asks us to order pet food for him which we do because we dont want his numerous cats and 1 dog to starve...I know food is expensive but I definitely have gotten by on less than this per month just a few years ago when I was watching my own expenses so this also seems high relative to his income100 electric bill for the month of August. For reference all appliances run off electricity water, oven, etc, but to me this still seems high for a month with lots of daylight hours. Im just sort of like wtf is he doing to run up that kind of electric bill.133 month medicare supplement well its technically 514 per quarterx200B;x200B;So a few concrete questions:x200B;1 Does someone who only has around 660 monthly income at age 71 really have to purchase a 500quarter 2000year!?!?! medicare supplement when he is clearly living below the poverty line? My father is a classic narcissist so I can imagine he bought himself something fancy rather than take the government entitlement.2 Reality check for gas and electric monthly expenses in NE PA. Am I being too harsh or is he spending way too much relative to what is really necessary? I am not interested in telling him never to leave his house and to drive nowhere, but seems like even if he drove to town everyday theres no reason to be spending 120month on gas he has a regular V4 sedan, some Japanese car which should have reasonable gas mileage3 Auto insurance of 147month?!?! seriously?!?! what am I missing?4 Any advice on how to deal with this kind of intractable relative? How can I get the government more involved? I dont think the details of my abused childhood are interesting, but it takes an emotional toll on me that is really heavy every time I have to interact with him and I feel like I want to vomit every time I give him money. Id like to minimize this for my own well being. I feel I have done more than what I owe this person and yet when I get a midnight text that he will die and needs a certain medication or has run out of food etc and I need to act I cant quite bring myself to do nothing.5 What is the SMI Premium of 134month? I just dont get it. If my father is below the poverty line is it really necessary that he pay 134 12 500 2 3600 a year when his income not even counting net just total social security of 844 is only around 10,000 per year?!?! I know the US is shitty for benefits, but is it this shitty or is he choosing to make the situation worse? How is he not eligible for medicaid for example?!?! I know nothing about public assistance and need to know how to get educated about this.Thanks Reddit and I apologize if this is not the place to post. I will gladly editadd details if asked. Please give me any helpful advice you can!Assistant: My advice, and I know this will be tough to hear, is that youre doing way too much for him. Hes not your child. If he is actually a narcissist he doesnt even appreciate anything that youre doing for him now. Id sell the house and go no contact. Sorry youre going through this. Human: Dont think I wouldnt love to do that and the thought has crossed my mind. Heres what holds me back.x200B;1 Unclear I can evict a 71 year old even if I have the stomach to do this. Some places have protections for the elderly.2 Even if I can evict him, he may just start showing up on my doorstep pounding on the door in the middle of the night. He has harassed numerous relatives through the years.3 If I could just not hear from him, and just kick in a few thousand dollars a year I think the regret minimization is worth it. But he keeps pushing the boundaries.x200B;If I could tell my 18 year old self to go no contact I would, but I dont know if I can extricate myself now.  <response>: Oh you def can. It just may be tough. But seems to be the best option 