<prompt> Human: We both have jobs, but he makes more than twice what I do, so the majority of the budgeting needs to be around his salary. I feel like Im being nagging, annoying, or elbowing him out of his own earnings. Problem is he cant save at all, so I need to do it is it even my place to make that decision? I save my own money, and he wants to save his, so.... Whats the best way to do this? Should I be firm and just hold on to his credit card, or have him withdraw all non-bill money from his bank account and give it to me to hold every payday? Feels really weird. How do you do it in your house?Assistant: This shouldnt be a question about his money vs. your money, his savings vs. your savings. You are a joint household, with joint income, joint expenses, and joint financial goals. Successes are shared successes, and failures are shared failures.It sounds like you guys need to determine what your mutual financial priorities are, and establish a detailed, zero-based budget that reflects those priorities. You should plan for his and hers expenses for sure, but he shouldnt feel entitled to more spending because he makes more money. You guys are in this together.Beyond the financial aspect, you may also try to post something in rrelationships to get a better idea for how to best discuss this with your husband so that you can get on the same page.Human: Ive established the budget based on all the info I found here, its a pretty good one, definitely generous when it comes to personal spending and recreation with 20 savings and small debt paid off in 5 months hopefully. He thinks its great but I know Ill feel uncomfortable enforcing it after the first couple months.  <response>: Ill feel uncomfortable enforcing itThis. Work with him to create a way that you are not enforcing it. YMMV, but frequent check-ins means that you feel accountable to each other, and neither needs to be looking over the others shoulder to enforce anything 