<prompt> Human: Me and my fiancee are planning a wedding. Her family is huge and she wants to invite a total of 75 to 100 people. We live in MD outside DC and have looked at several places in the area up to PA. The prices are ridiculous. So far all quotes are around 17k to 20k and thats with cutting out a lot of stuff. Both are families are poor and my fiancee doesnt make shit so Im paying for 100 of it. To make it worse we both have student loan debt and some credit card debt. Makes absolutely no sense to me to pay for this wedding while we have this other debt. My fiancee feels the same but still wants the wedding. How do people afford this? At the same time I know my fiancee has been looking forward to a wedding her whole life and I would feel horrible if I couldnt give her what she wanted. We arent doing anything fancy, very basic, and its still damn expensive and frustrating.  <response>: Finances are a major part of a marriage and you two should be able to come up with a compromise on the wedding. Starting a life together with 15k worth of debt for something that is frivolous is simply a bad idea. 