<prompt> Human: please see the EDIT belowI have an enormous amount of debt and I feel like Ill never get rid of it. I honestly dont know what to do to make things manageable. Some day Id like to buy a house as well but right now everything seems out of reach.Im 34, married, with two young children and two much older stepchildren 19 and 21 and a baby coming soon. My wife stays at home with the kids. The 21-year old has moved out and its likely the 19 year old will move out in a year or so. We help them out financially on a limited basis - paying for a cellphone on a family plan and car insurance, so long as they are in school.Im a senior software engineer in the bay area and make around 165 base and around 30 in bonus each year. Take home pay is 8,400 a month plus around 5000quarter in bonus - that will go up a bit at the beginning of next year.Debts:Student Loan BS Comp. Science plus MBA - 145,022 - 812month minimum paymentIRS Back Taxes - 11,500 - 300month minimum paymentCredit Cards - 5,830Credit Union - - unknown. Several years old debt. Could be 20,000. Related to foreclosure. No one has contacted us about this.Doctor 1 - 500 100monthDoctor 2 - 1800 250ishmonthAssets:600 savings. always seem to pay debts over saving.600 checking.2 cars, 2006, 80K miles each. Paid off.House full of stuff.Other:I own an online business bringing in 3000month in revenue. Its growing steadily at around 10 per month. I could stop paying contractors and focus on having it make money for me to spend rather than focusing on growth but that would have an impact on its long-term survival. Currently I take 300 to 500 a month from the business.Main expenses according to mint from last month:Rent - 2,850 1 year lease - This is about as cheap as we can find. Yes, its insane. Current plan is to move back to Seattle in a year.Food and Dining - 1,826 - fucking hell thats a lot. It includes a lot of things like Diapers and dog food and toiletries etc. but still...ATT - 300 approxComcast - 230 Cutting the cord is not happening sadly. Almost anything else is negotiable but my wife insists on this one thing.Electricitygaswatergarbage - 500 major AC problems. Just got them fixed. Well see how much lower this goes. Home is 90 degrees without AC and wife is pregnant so cant turn it off.Life and car insurance - 350Gasoline - 200Shopping clothing, household good etc. - 650. Typically this is around 300.Other - 675 - mostly air travel to seattle so my wife can see her family and various subscriptions to things like netflix, Wow etc. Clearly able to cut here.Any remainder goes to debt.I guess what Im really looking for is advice on how to properly deal with the magnitude of the problem. I dont feel like Im making any progress and so I go gung-ho for a few months trying to live very frugally and then eventually stop when I see that I still own a shit-ton of money even though Ive been busting my ass.I think the main things I need to do are make my business into a cash-generator instead of something that keeps growing and to reduce the amount we spend on food and services.Any advice on how to deal with the enormity of it all?EDIT: thank you for all of the help, even the people telling me what a dumbass I am :Getting some outside perspective was incredibly valuable. Im going to do the following:1. Cut groceries down to 1300 including diapers, cleaning supplies etc. Thats for 3 adults and 2 soon 3 children in the bay area. Ill try to reduce further.2. Plan our meals. Buy veggies in bulk and freeze them. In general, stop getting takeout. I like cooking so this isnt a big deal - the planning part is the hard part.3. Get comcastinternet down to a more reasonable level. I want this bill down to the point that its no more than 130. This is still high but Im going to claim the internet as a business expense because it is. 4. Our contracts with ATT are mostly up. Ill move to t-mobile with our 100 owned devices in 4 months once we own the phones.5. Im going to stop growing my business for a few months and turn on cash-generation instead. Ill spend my time reducing costs so I can take out 2Kmonth from it, starting next month.6. Ill pay off all the small bills first. That means doctor, credit cards etc.7. Once that is done, well save 12,000 in an emergency fund. Im going to sell some things we dont need to boost this fund.8. Well clear off the IRS debt next, mostly using free income plus my bonuses.9. When were down to just having the student loans left, Im going to save 10,000 to move back to Seattle, reducing my gross income by 15 but saving 10 income taxes and around 25 in net cost of living. My wife will be happier too : The 10,000 is for deposits, truck rental etc..Ill look at reducing our other monthly bills as things progress. Everything is worth examination.  <response>: Stop Eating King Crab BRO 