<prompt> Human: In other words, your 1 is also her 1I find this weird sometimes. If I have shown interest to something say an expensive drone but never bought it, and SO buys it for me, it triggers 2 feelings:1. Its nice that SO cares about me, notice my interest, and is willing to buy me expensive stuff2. I didnt buy it because I believe its a waste of , and I dont like it enough to justify buying it even at half price. But now it is purchased, with our , so I feel like I have wasted .How do people handle gifting when you dont have separated money?EDIT: Thanks for the comments, but yea, I was more confused about 2, not how to manage accounts between couples. Like, on one hand I want to feel Its a waste of our money, it could have been saved towards a housekidsomething, on the other hand But she is not spending money on herself... its for meSo I internally feel weird but cannot tell her  <response>: My wife and I have very clear discussions leading up to birthdays and holidays about setting a budget for each other. Once you reach a certain point in life, buying and receiving gifts either is an exercise of going-through-the-motions or finding the absolutely perfect gift. In the latter case, sometimes money doesnt even come into the equation. Example: My wife and I went to city hall to get legally married a few months before our wedding date. We wanted it to just be about us, and to this day none of our family knows. For our first anniversary, which is the paper anniversary, I went to city hall to get a copy of the vows they have exchanged, I formatted and printed them on a good paper stock, then framed. Total cost: 20. Other times, the gifts are things I know she wanted but simply didnt get around to buying. Weve agreed this Christmas that our gifts to each other will be planning a trip to Spring Training in February. Thats it. 