<prompt> Human: Looking for advice on how to proceed. All our finances are an open book except this one aspect, and Id want it to stay that way until the marriage discussion. Im thinking sub 500month towards the home and split utilities. Taxes run about 7,700yr. Am I going about this the wrong way? Thanks for any advice.  <response>: I dont think that is a good way to start off. If you are serious about marrying this girl you should be completely open with her. If you even suspect it isnt going to work out then you probably shouldnt move in together. Im sure the prenup camp will disagree but if the benefits of the relationship isnt strong enough to outweigh the risk... dont walk away RUN!!! 