<prompt> Human: First off, I work in Finance and as the title states, Im in a conundrum as I have 2 offers and I expect a counter-offer from my current employer first thing Monday morning. And both external offers expire on Monday EOD and this would be a lateral move.Let me first say that I truly love my current employer software company and the people I work with. They are part of the reason I drive 21 miles each way to work every day not my favorite part of the day. The commute is taxing, but its worth it to work in such a positive environment 90 of the time. Ive learned a lot in my role, but the Bay Area commute has been wearing on me and Ive only recently realized I can earn better compensation close to home at equally great companies based on research and talking to the interviewers. Prior to this, I have not had discussions on resetting my compensation with my current employer.Current Employer: 97K base, 10 bonus, 18K RSU, 4K 401K match 128.7K all in and 42 miles roundtrip. Benefits rank 2 of this group.So for some background...On Friday morning 8am, I received a formal offer letter from Company A, a well-established public tech company in Silicon Valley that Ive been engaging with since early February. The job itself aligns very well with what Im looking for in terms of my role and responsibilities and the comp, benefits, growthdevelopment potential, and peopleenvironment all seem to align very well. The only downside is the hiring manager doesnt have a traditional Finance background, so Im not sure how this would play out in our day-to-day since he comes from management consulting and business operations. The commute and benefits package are a dream come true, but the fact that my hiring manager and I have very different backgrounds and ways of thinking about Finance as it relates to the business does concern me. Very smart guy though. Company A: 118K base, 10 bonus, 20K RSU, 9K 401K match 158.8K all in and 4 miles roundtrip. The best benefits of the 3 e.g. free lunches, healthcare, etc. are all top notch.Fast forward to 9am and Im interviewing for Company B, a late stage pre-IPO tech company that I first contacted 2 weeks ago today. By 12pm, Im done with the face-to-face interviews and while debriefing with the recruiter, shes already mentioned shes hearing positive feedback. By 3pm, I have a verbal offer, which will be in writing Monday as they seek approvals, etc. as we speak. Ive always wanted to work for a pre-IPO company to see the effort it takes to help bring a company public. Im sure Ill learn a ton and broaden my skill set substantially. And, obviously, the stock options seem attractive on the surface. The CEO also has a successful exit record and the company has big name investors.Company B: 115K base, 10 bonus, 10,000 option shares, 0K 401K match 126.5K UNKNOWN i.e. equity component. I would appreciate if anyone has any idea how to CALCULATE the value of these 10,000 option shares? I do know the strike price is 3.80share, but without knowing the latest valuation, of shares, or potential offering price, Im not able to determine what the value of this is. I have a feeling it is substantial, but I cant back it up. And the benefits are very average and understandably so being pre-IPO.At 4pm, I call my boss since he was WFH, I know it sucks and not OK and I tell him as soon as I can because Im leaving for vacation from 418-430 planned back in January and both offers have a 51 state date. Essentially I put in my 2 weeks. He definitely didnt see this coming and asks what it would take to make me stay. He didnt promise he could make it happen, but asked for an email with details. I didnt plan for this, but I sent him my ask as follows. What It Would Take To Stay: 120K base, 10 bonus, 25K RSU, 4K 401K 161K all in as well as a title bump and more responsibilityautonomy in my current role.In evaluating these 3 very different scenarios, Im putting emphasis on: compensation, benefits, commute, jobrole, and growthdevelopment in no particular order.I know Im in a good place, but this is still a very difficult decision thats been on my mind all weekend and Id appreciate any feedback from the community. Thanks in advance.TLDR: By Monday EOD, I need to decide between 2 outstanding job offers and a counter from my current employer. Each has its benefits and drawbacks.  <response>: This. In their minds you are no longer a loyal employee. Its also a bad sign that they only open their wallet when you threaten to leave. They shouldve been keeping you current with the market. Offer A is 30k moreOffer B is 0k more but you have the stock options. 1. What will position you better for the next step in your career?2. Which one will offer you a better lifestyle? Commute? Work life balance?3. Do you need the extra money now? Debts, mortgage, etc4. Does the IPO excite you as a product? Would you invest 30k in it? 