<prompt> Human: My husband and I married 9 months ago and we have worked together a lot on our finances. He is a spendthrift and Im a tightwad- in some ways we balance each other, but sometimes its a struggle.We agreed that our top priority was to pay off all debt no CC debt- its student loans car loan. In the last 7 months we have reduced our debt by 42 but have nearly 18,000 left to go.He really wants to take a vacation. We discussed going to Seattle, staying with friends, grocery shopping and flying on miles to cut costs but I am still not too happy taking a trip when we still owe this much and are not on target for retirement saving- he seems to think his Illinois state pension is a sure thing but Im not so confident.I should also acknowledge that hes done a great job living on a budget and curbing his impulse spending- I know these things are not easy. I have also learned that telling him NO to everything he wants makes him feel angry and deprived and that will lead to no good in the end- as in hell buy something expensive and ridiculous.So, spouses and others in LT relationships, how much do you just suck it up when your SO wants to spend, and when do you put your foot down? This whole vacation thing is really bothering me- I initially agreed to it but am having second thoughts wanting to offer a compromise like a local vacation or setting a spending limit to see how creative we can be to find fun stuff on the cheap.What do you think?  <response>: Are you budgeting for the vacation? That seems like the obvious compromise. 