<prompt> Human: So... my boyfriend is planning to move in with me but we have not settled on how to split expenses yet. Just some background, I own the apartment. The expenses for the apartment that Id like him to share with me is help out in paying the property taxes, apartment assessment fees and utility. I was thinking that the share could be more proportional to our pay ratio, something like 60-40. I did have a roommate before, and we would do 50-50 split as our salaries were more close. However, he was expecting that we would have the 50-50 split. Bear in mind that if we do the 60 -40 split, his monthly expense for staying with me would still be lower than the average rent per person in the same area, so its not like Im asking him for an exorbitant amount. The cost of staying with me for him is also much much lower than if he continued living by himself. I guess he doesnt really share the feeling that since he gets paid 2x more than me, that he should contribute more in expenses. He says that the pay shouldnt have anything to do with splitting expenses which I dont agree. When we go out for food maybe once or twice a week, like fast food, he does pick up the check a bit more which is nice of him. But he said thats the extent of his contribution. He is pretty well off. He owns a few apartments himself which he rents out. Granted he has mortage payments and other expenses, I think his financial situation is much better than me. If our financial situation is about the same, then Id be perfectly fine with the 50-50 split for apartment expenses, but that is not the case. I tried explaining how I would prefer if we took in consideration of our financial situation, he just thinks Im being unreasonable.The other thing is hes encouraging me to renovate the apartment. The renovation would cost between 35k-40k. He says if the apt is renovated, then hed be willing to pay a little more in the rent. I just feel kind of put off by that...I really dont like having the finance talk with my boyfriend. It just gets so unappealing but I know that we would have to settle on an amount before he moves in. Am I being unreasonable? How do I approach splitting the expenses? Please help!just to clarify, the split i referred to is on the dollar amount, not of income.  <response>: His income verse your income has nothing to do with how much he should contribute. You may not like the idea but you will be his landlord when he moves in, if you want him to pay 60 then just give him a monthly number and stick to it. As for the renovation I would inform him that you are not ready financially to renovate the place. Sadly money is a huge issue for many relationships and beating around the bush will not help in the future. 