<prompt> Human: Little background. 25, married, 2 very young children. My wife is a stay at home mom, and no I do not want her to have to get a job. She takes care of our two year old and our newborn and I make the money. Also, we have no debt and only 4 months in an emergency fund, but Id build it up to 8 months before I did anything life changing.I work full time and I started a side gig about a year and a half ago and it has been going well. So well that its starting to take up a ton of time. Ive been waking up at 5 and working till 5 between both jobs, then add in household responsibilities and Im completely spent by 7 oclock. I barely see my kids and when I do Im tired and cranky. My job is hard on my feet; I walk about 15 miles per day.The pickle: my job doesnt pay much 1600mo but has benefits. My side gig pays at least 2kmo, but I could take more. Problem is our bare bones expenses are 2kmo. So I cant just drop the side gig. Plus, I want to be self employed. But the thought of independent insurances, paying all my own taxes and the uncertainty of it all makes me so discouraged, like Ill never accomplish it. The thing is, my side gig only takes about 20 hours per week, so I could work for another 10 hours per week making extra money clickworker, freelance writing, things like that and still only work 30 hours per week, as opposed to the 60 hours Ive been pulling lately.Working both jobs is killing me both mentally and physically. We have a lot of money now with both jobs, which is good because a year ago we lived paycheck to paycheck. But is it worth it? Is it worth it to have money and security, but never see my family? I feel stuck working, but I know I need to drop one. I could get a higher paying job - trust me Ive been looking, but my dream is to work from home. Ive proven I can do it, but I really doubt myself.PF, what the hell do I do?Assistant: Ive always been confused by arrangements like this where one parent has 2 jobs and doesnt get to see the kids and the other parent is then responsible for them 247, and surely gets burnt out from that as well. Wouldnt it make more sense for your wife to pick up something part time with nightweekend hours than for you to never see the kids? She might even appreciate the adult time. Or couldnt she get more involved with the side gig?Human: Exactly. Single parent households rarely work any more financially unless you have a breadwinner with a very nice salary.OP can work 20 hours a week and make 2k. His spouse should get a job and work another 20 hours. Even a no-education job like working at a grocery store or Starbucks usually pays 10hr. That leaves them with 2800month. More if as OP says, he can pick up 10 hours more a week from home. Enough to get by, and they can split the workload with the kids.The solution is simple, the wife needs to get a job.Assistant: Where do you live that grocery workers get 10hr? Ive worked retail for almost 6 years, and nearly everywhere starts you out at minimum.Human: Ive been with the company 8 years and Im capped out at 12 pretax  <response>: What sort of company? 