<prompt> Human: Little backstoryI am a husband with two kids, a wife, and a mother in law living with me. One son is perfectly healthy this far. My other son has autism, ADHD, mental retardation, and an unknown seizure disorder. His treatment and meds are pretty expensive. My wife and mother in law have elher danlos syndrome, my wife has the second worst type as well as entromesiosissp? and her pain level is at an 8 to 10 at almost all times. After a day of work she is in tears and some days she cant even get out of bed. My mother in law fell from a 12 story balcony when it collapsed and landed on concrete making it so she cannot live on her own and is also at high risk for strokes. Her medicines are also pretty expensive.The SituationFinances are almost impossible. My wife has a job at kwik trip and we are currently on welfare as I am a stay at home. She was a stay at home for 3 years prior but then my job relocated last month so she decided she would get a job. Our youngest is two and we figured we would save on childcare. Well working at kwik trip seems to be making it worse for her disease and our doctor told us she should not be working. She claims if she keeps working my wife will be in a wheel chair and her pain will continue to get worse. My wife claims the pain from working is almost unbearable and we were considering her being a stay at home mom and get SSI for her and Isaiah and me work full time. I could get a job at a factory for 35K a year.My mother told us she knows a high up person at SSI and that we would not be allowed to get SSI for my autistic son nor for my genetically disabled wife. She also claims the reason my wife doesnt want to work is because she is a lazy bum and that she knows people with EDS that work just fine for 40 years. A third claim is that SSI is only what you pay into it and since Ive only been working 9 years of my life it would be a huge waste of time. Dont know what to do. Im a 27 year old thats just trying to provide for my mostly disabled family and feel like financially Im not able to make it.  <response>: Ignore you wifes mom. Get documentation from the doctors and apply for SSDI not SSI, SSDI. Youll likely end up needing a lawyer to help get it approved, but maybe not. Go get a job at the factory and let your wife stop working per the doctors orders and get that in writing!. 