<prompt> Human: Hi! This is my first time submitting here. I didnt know where else to go to ask help regarding the matter.So heres the situation: my parents separated nearly three years ago. My mom now has her own property, while my siblings and I have also moved out of my fathers house he was physically abusive towards my mother and has intoxication issues. My mother was the breadwinner of our family, and my father never bothered to have a job the whole time we were together around 18 years, and so depended on her. Apparently, my mother failed to pay the mortgage on the house during the last year we were staying with our father. Her income is on a commission basis and prioritized on spending it on the education of her kids.My dad has been receiving warnings on the loaning company taking back the house, but hasnt really done anything. Hes tried looking for jobs but has only gotten very low paying ones around 1day because he didnt finish college and his intoxication problems. His salary is only enough for his basic needs. He is currently unemployed and relies on my aunt for meals.To keep the house, we have to pay 2 million Philippine pesos, which is around 40,000. This is a problem since I only have one sibling who is working and is earning 160month. Once my working sibling gets off of her trial period in work, she earns 560. I and my younger sibling are still in school. I am in my fourth year of college and I still have another year to go. My college expenses are costly, around 1,200 for a whole school year. My younger sister also goes to a private school that is 660school year. We cant send my younger sister to a public school as majority of public school students have delinquent tendencies, and my sister is very rebellious. I am currently working on freelance writing jobs to help fund my education, but I dont know what to do when my dad gets evicted or where the household items will go. My paternal aunt and uncles arent doing so well as their husbandwives are the ones that have higher paychecks.Hoping to get some advice on what to do. Thank you. Update: Ive been recently informed that theres a way to get around the payments. Before my dad gets kicked out this July, we have to pay 200,000 Philippine pesos which is approximately 4,000. After the payment, we have to pay 140month for the next thirteen years.Assistant: This may be a better post for rrelationships...From a financial perspective, you do nothing. uOctobrew, it is not your financial responsibility to take care of your abusive, alcoholic father. 40,000 is a lot for anyone, for a college student in the Philippines, its insurmountable. What you do is this:You focus on your education, personal growth, and earning potential. Your father has a substance abuse issue. He will not get better because you want him to. You, your siblings, your aunt, will always be taking care of him. This is called enabling. It will suck your dry both financially and mentally. It is why your mother left him, she finally had the courage to leave him. Allow him hit rock bottom, it will be hard for him, and it will be hard for you to see it happen. Only when he decides to help himself get clean should you ever offer your assistance within your limits while always keeping yourself first.Theres a phrase you need to repeat to yourself, Dont light yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.Human: it is not your financial responsibility to take care of your abusive, alcoholic father.This is an american centric POV, as an FYI. There are countriescultures where not taking care of your parents would be completely unacceptable, or even illegal.Assistant: It is very American centric, and therefore Id recommend OP taking this with a grain of salt.That being said, my father, a Vietnamese dude, would recommend that you try your best to get the father up, but if hes still not picking things up, or change, you shouldcan let him go. The degree of trying can only go so far, but you have to try.Human: Hey, uquantit01! Glad to see another Asian perspective. My dad has sobered up in a way. Hes been kinder to me and my siblings and has stopped smokingdrinkingall that bad stuff. He lost his last job due to a mix of corrupt supervisors and a bad attitude. :Hes looking for a new job now, though. Ive helped him make his resume and I hope its a good one. He usually doesnt go past the interview phase because hes lost almost all of his teeth due to meth mouth. Im currently saving a portion of my earnings to buy him a couple of false teeth. Its tough but at least hes finally realized some things.  <response>: Then I would definitely say that you should give effort to pick him up. As long as he shows the trying effort genuinely. Good on you for sticking out to him. 