<prompt> Human: Just got engaged a few weeks ago to girlfriend of 10 years. We disagree on how much we should realistically budget for our wedding. We have been doing research online, talking with friends who are married, etc. and they are telling us to budget about 35k for the wedding. She wants to get married within a year and Im okay to wait. Not having a wedding is not an option. I make 105k a year and she makes 45k a year. The only debt we have is my truck 29k remaining at 2 interest and her student loan of about 17k at around 6 interest. We have about 5k in savings as we have been aggressively paying down debt paid about 30k in debt within the last year. We can save about 3,500 a month with our lifestyle so it will take 10 months to save 35k for the wedding. My question is: is it financially responsible for our situation to have a 35k wedding end of next year? Assistant: If my salary were double yours I would not spend that much. Mine was 10,000 roughly for about 100 people. We saved a little money by not choosing the most expensive food. We did flowers and centerpiece and stuff like that ourselves. Human: Think our wedding would be about 200 people so maybe we can get away with 20k  <response>: Honestly you need to do your research. There are a few things you want to make sure youre paying for quality photos, bar, food and the rest is shit nobody will remember and people go absolutely NUTS about while wedding planning. You can drop 10k on flowers or 1k and not one person will know the difference. You can have personalized center pieces and a 2000 cake or a 300 cake and nobody will ever know. Dont forget to keep things in perspective. So much will be small details you wont ever remember and t will seem so ridiculous to spend thousands on details that ultimately just get overlooked. Remember its a party so stick to what actually matters about a party and dont get too hung up on small things - thats where the money pits are Theres a whole ... rweddingplanning 