<prompt> Human: Just over a year ago, my girlfriend lent her mum 1000 as she was struggling with money for rent, food etc. She told my girlfriend shed pay her back as soon as she got the money.Fast forward a year, her mum has her disability benefit cut and loses her car. My partner has a new car on finance which she lent to her mum as she was told her mum would pay the finance and insurance which is around 200 a month. My girlfriend is now in a situation where shes owed over 2000 for the finance, insurance and the original 1000 loan. Every time she asks for the money back it ends in an argument and therefore, nothing gets resolved. Is there anything my partner can do in order to get her money back as nothing seems to be working?Assistant: Never lend money to family. Probably not unless her mom gets money at some point and pays her back. At the same time, that could take a while, and if shes still in a tough spot then your girlfriend asking for the money back might just insult her.Human: She knows that she shouldnt have lent the money but her mum was in a bad place and she wanted to help her. Also my girlfriends car has a mileage allowance which her mum has gone massively over. Assistant: That is rough. I probably would have done the same thing, to be honest. They raise you so you kind of feel obligated to help when needed. It sounds like shes abusing her help though! That adds to the payment when the miles are exceeded, right? Im sure she could file something with the court system, like small claims court. That might be enough to prompt her to pay it back, but it also could cause more of a rift. Human: Weve spoke about looking at court solutions but shes scared her mum will just push her away even more which is the last thing she wants. Unfortunately simply asking for the money that her mum promised shed pay her is not enough.  <response>: shes scared her mum will just push her away even more which is the last thing she wants.Your girlfriend can either choose to stick up for herself and risk damaging or losing her relationship with her mother or she can be a doormat and avoid any risk to the relationship. It kills me when people come in here saying family member has stolen my identityborrowed money and wont pay it backcaused some other financial issue, how do I fix it without damaging our relationship? You dont. The family member has already shown that they dont care enough about you to even consider whether their behavior will damage your relationship. They have already shown that they fully expect you to comply with whatever they want and if you dont, you are the bad guy. Fixing the issue and keeping the relationship are pretty much mutually exclusive things. 