<prompt> Human: Hi,I know PF tends to be split on whether or not to go to your current employer with a job offer. Ive decided to go to mine with an offer i received.Parameters: 24 years old, work at a very large insurance company, job offer is at another very large insurance company. Job is for a similar position and would be my first career move.Currently Making 58K, 3.5K bonus. Offer is for 68K, no bonus first year, eligible for a bonus after that, but not guaranteed. Job is a 18 raise in base salary for me.Ive spoken with a couple people who have told me theyve gone to their managers with job offers theyve received and have received counter offers. And if I dont receive a counter offer, it probably means they dont value me as an employee and I should probably leave anyway. I would prefer to stay, and Id like to use this coversation as a means to get an outlined career plan 1-2 years, as well as a bump in salary.How do I approach this? How do I start the conversation, hint at a counter offer, etc? Do I negotiate the job offer before going to my manager I believe I can get them up to at least 70-74k, or is that in bad taste?I appreciate the advice in advance! Thanks again!  <response>: dont mean to be rude, but Adult up.Dont hint at an offer, Talk to himher.Boss, I just had an offer at XYZ for 68 future bonus, Personally I would like to continue to work here, but I am sure you would not be able to turn down a 20 increase. Is there anything we can do?Few items:1. Make sure this offer is real - in writing, signed. Verbal and email cool discussion, not offer. 2. Negotiate the offerBad taste... maybe. only you will know. Getting top pay is not always the best in the door decision, you can spoil the milk before you have landed. know the market, know the benefit packages of both companies, be realistic of your value.3. Be ready to be walked out of the office at the moment you approach your boss. You will be kind and honest and empathetic, so likely boss will listen. It is the egotistical, and better than you employes who are walked out or those whos boss does not like to be challenged - you never who which boss is which --- BTW this is why you guarantee point 1 first.4. Be ready to Prefer to work here if your boss matches the offer, you better be ready to continue to work there. In the long run remember your network is worth more than your current job. Your word is the only thing that your network values. You can still leave and burn the bridge - your choice.5. DONT lie or exaggerate your offer. Likely your boss knows someone at XYZ and can validateconfirm or at least evaluate the truth of your statement. See point 4... 