<prompt> Human: A year ago I was recruited as Team LeadSr Dev for a company in another city and state. Although my fiancee and I recently had our first kid before I got the new job, I went for the opportunity because I thought we will move there- its been a year now and that hasnt happened partly because she got a job35k last minute which she loves. Thus, I commute and stay at my new job city for the weekday and comeback home during the weekendmondays.After 6months I figured she isnt going to be joining me anytime soon, so I started applying for jobs where I used to live- and I recently got an offer for a job thats less87k than what I currently make105k- and its a demotion- in terms of positionDevI would love to move back and be with my son and family, but I wonder if the paycut and demotion will serve me, my family and career ill in the long run.Weve also considered moving to the new city but we want to wait until my fiancee has a job lined up, since she has a higher chance of getting paid more in the new city.Should I just hold it out until fiancee finds a job in the new city or should I just cut my losses and take the new job?Has anyone been a similar situation, and what will you advice.Edit---She wants us to get married before we move to the new city. And honestly I want her to find a good job before we tie the knot officially because of her 100k student debt and wedding cost.  <response>: Youre only going to see your son grow up once. Money isnt everything, if 87k is a livable salary; put a ring on it and enjoy being a dad husband. 