<prompt> Human: Hey all, thanks for helping. I am freaking out right now.So I currently am employed at a large IT firm in upstate NY. Cost of living is relatively cheap. I make 65,000 and I am 26 to be 27 next month years old. I am on a great team of 3 people and my boss is located in California. My company has great benefits and is extremely lenient working from home, start time in the morning, free cell phone, and food everyday. I love working here, however, there is uncertainty with the future of the company as we are about to be sold, and no one knows if there will be layoffs or job loss.So an old friend reached out and offered me a developer position at a financial firm in Texas same cost of living area, outside of Dallas for 85,000 salary. Same health and vacation benefits, no cell phone, no food. Very strict start time, no working from home, have to wear nice clothes. Oh, I also have NO CLUE How to do the position. He said they would train me and not expect me to know everything right off the bat and I seem smart enough to learn how to do it...What do I do? Its a 20,000 pay increase, but no relocation fees, I own a home in NY with all furnishings in it. I am single but my parents live in Buffalo. I have no clue what to do or say.I tried to negotiate with my boss about getting a raise to stay, but I received a 15 raise in October and a 9 raise in March and 11,000 in stocks as a bonus so Payroll shut him down trying to get me a 14 raise. He did say that he wants me to stay, I am top of my team and top 10 of the company where I have great relationships with multiple VPs ad CIO and he asked if starting all over is something I want to do Ive been with my current company for 4 years. He said if it has to do with my job, lets sit down and make a goal or new track sheet for stuff I want to do; he essentially said what can I do to get you to stay besides money. Do I want to be a supervisor, do I want to get more technical, do I want more vacation, etc. Like, I know ultimately only I can make this decision, but I have no clue what to do. I know Dallas has way more IT positions and NY doesnt, but is 20,000 enough to move? How much really is 20,000 more a year? I think I did the math correctly ad after taxes it breaks down to 600 a paycheck after taxes.Can someone help me please. I ask my friends and they tell me to move because they suck and I dont really have close friends and they only see money. I ask my parents and they say stay on the grounds they dont want me to move. EDIT: It should be noted that I have never been to Texas to see this company, that they said I did so well in the interview that they wanted to make me an offer sight0unseen based off of the friends recommendation and my interviews. Ive had 3-4 interviews over the past 3 weeks but they made the offer Thursday night and said I have 3 business days to respond. Do I ask for more money from them? I didnt even respond when they called sent the email with the offer.  <response>: do not accept a job offer without meeting the people you would be working with. 