<prompt> Human: Short back story: My wife and I have been living together and making ends meet for about five years now. Two years ago I entered the workforce, and last year we opened a joint savings account and bought a house.Ive always been pretty financially conscious, trying to track my every dollar outdollar in. She seemingly just tries to keep a non-zero balance in her checking account has told me that having more than a 300 balance is a ton of money while never contributing to savings only made one deposit to any savings account in the last two years.I recently subscribed to PF and read a bit about budgeting. Having tracked my expenses so closely for the last few years, I sat down and used those numbers to develop a budget for us. I asked her if she would be open to tracking her spending and working with a budget, and she begrudgingly said yes. We will start tracking every purchaseexpensedeposit to savings together on 1 March.When I presented the budget to her, she instantly recoiled. Shes a spender, while Im a saver, and so actually seeing a number on paper for different expenses has instantly brought tension between us. While she covers a few of our bills, I cover the mortgage, my car, utilities, half of the groceries, and our recently significantly increased medical costs, in addition to placinginvesting the following amounts of my gross pay: 15 savings accounts; 8 stock; and 6 401K company is matching up to 5 and throws in an additional age-dependent base contribution.Ive had several discussions with her about the budget. I make about 2x-3x as much as her, so putting money in savings is much easier for me. Ive just asked her to put 15 of her income into savings and to record her expenses with me. The budget will be adjusted according to what isisnt feasible, but she just doesnt want to hear it. Shes also afraid that I will harshly judge her when I see everything she spends money on, and will make her feel guilty about it. Ive acknowledged that I have done that in the past, but have promised to do my absolute best to change, and to help her feel more comfortablesecure sharing our spending with one another.Additionally, we have agreed wed like to take a vacation to London this year, and shes using that vacation as motivation to stick to the budget and to save. HOWEVER, she told me that as soon as were back from the vacation, she does not plan to continue working with me on the budget, and says she needs more freedom. Can I approach this situation from a different angle in hopes of getting more amicable results?TL;DR: How have you approached your spouse and gotten them to work within a budget?Edit time:Thank you for your responses. Its an eye-opening experience to get so many different perspectives. I especially appreciate the responses that personally feel most critical, since they likely are more aligned to her feelings and perspectives.In short, as soon as I get home, Ill sit down with her and well come up with a new plan together. I really appreciate the insight!  <response>: TL;DR: How have you approached your spouse and gotten them to work within a budget?Within A budget?Or within YOUR budget?My vote: Scrap whatever budget you created, sit down with her, and create a brand new budget with her.Also: rrelationships rrelationship_advice 