<prompt> Human: EF, pay off debts, 401k, Roth, 401k is the guiding chant for personalfinance along with DONT SPEND MORE THAN YOU MAKE, DUMBASS. Although I try to follow that every time I get a paycheck, I honestly cant handle not giving myself guilty-pleasureleisure money, even if it puts me behind sometimes months behind! on one of the above goals. e.g. I could pay off my current student loan debt in six months, but because of my spending on nonessentials, itll take me about a year.by nonessentials, i mean everything that is not i need to pay this else people will knock down my door with a vengeanceSo major props to the frugal, but for those who cant constantly live like that: What nonessentials do you dish out for? Whats your justification? How do you decide how much to allow yourself to spend? Is there anyone here who was initially very strict with their spending ways and then went, NOPE, NEVERMIND, and let themselves be more flexible? How about the opposite: is there anyone who was somewhat chill with their money not in a SPEND ALL THE MONEYS but just a i like treating myself a lot but then went FUCKKK, NOPE and became stricter? and related, etc. etc. For example: I used to be super strict with my spending - 200month for foodtransportationpleasure, but now Im much looser because it sucked not being able to hang with friends because, hey, thats a little bit over my planned budget and I really didnt like that Im financially stretched feeling at the end of the month which, while survivable, felt incredibly unnecessary for me. Now, I eat out once a week because dammit, I like eating out. Ill take the bus instead of walking to work because dammit, my feet are tired. im single wo kids, live close to work, and dont have a large appetite, for anyone wondering how I survived on that.  <response>: My fiance and I go out to restaurants more than we need to - especially on the weekends. Someday well have kids and itll be way more expensive to eat out along with being a huge hassle - so for now, well let someone else do the dishes.Also, getting a soda with my meal. I hate paying 2.50 for something that costs the restaurant less than .05, but sometimes a great burger just isnt the same without a coke. 