<prompt> Human: Hey again, helpful folks of PF. I looked around in the subs history for pertinent advice but most seemed to be related to saving for a ring instead of the buying process, so I decided to go ahead and throw this out there.So, its that time to seal the deal with my girlfriend and Im totally stoked about it! Yesterday, we visited a Kay Jewelers to look at styles she likes. We spent some time with the salespeople and they were pretty helpful, and they mentioned another big quarterly sale they were having tomorrow today. Now, one thing to know about me upfront is that Im insanely non-confrontational, AKA its very hard for me to tell people no. In short, it can sometimes feel like Im a walking target for salespeople.So I went alone today to see what they had that was new and I reconnected with the same saleswomen my girlfriend and I spoke with yesterday. Somehow, in the span of 45 minutes they have me signing on the dotted line for something 600 over the ceiling of my verbally established budget. But, thank God, I wasnt approved for the same-day take home because both my local address and new bank account are only three months old. Initially I was planning to pay cash for the whole thing at once, but the ring they talked me into wouldve had me paying a third of it now and then the rest later. Long story short, to get me approved for financing wouldve taken longer than the hour that was left in the workday for whoever approves it, so I was able to walk out of the store with my money and about half of my pride.In the future, how the heck can I just freaking look for a ring in the store without being manhandled by clever salespeople? I might have some questions, but I probably just want to look in silence, leave, and keep what I saw in the back of my mind. They were nice and just doing their job of course, but that job just so happens to be parting customers with just a little bit more money than they want to spend.I am a naturally picky person and of course Im probably going to be extra picky about the engagement ring that I buy for my soon-to-be wife. On the other hand, I can be so picky that giving me the option for customization probably does more harm than good, as I will take exponentially longer, so Im thinking of just buying from inventory as opposed to sitting down with a custom designer, etc. That will necessitate visiting at least a handful of local shops, and Id really love some advice before I set foot into another place. Am I just asking too much and I should expect to have to do a lot of talking with salespeople, or am I doing something wrong in my approach? Thank you guys in advance!  <response>: I might have some questions, but I probably just want to look in silence, leave, and keep what I saw in the back of my mind.Do your research online. Try Brilliant Earth, Ritani, Blue Nile, etc. Try Etsy for more unique and creative ideas. They have far better selection online than in any jewelry store and there are a lot of photos as well. By the time I entered a jewelry store I had a pretty good idea of what I already wanted and what it should cost. It takes a lot of pressure out of having to decide on the spot. Bring a friend or family member along with you who is comfortable acting as the bad cop. Its their job to make up something like, I think you need to talk about this with girlfriends sister before you can make the decision. Im sorry salesperson, youve been super helpful, but he cant buy, or else he might have to return the ring!! It makes it a lot easier when you can be nice and someone else is the voice of reason. If you have to go by yourself, dont bring your wallet or any ID or payment method in with you. That way you cannot complete the transaction that day and have to come back. I would close with pushy salespeople by saying, Actually, I am not ready to buy today, but I greatly appreciate your help. Can I get your card in case I decide Id like to purchase? That way its not like OK bye but its leaving it open for a future purchase. 