<prompt> Human: I work in fairly competitive industry and have been head hunted and offered about 30k more elsewhere. The thing is, my job now is super interesting and Im good at it. Love my boss. I also have a one year old and right now I basically dont work more then 35 hours a week. However, I asked for a raise and promotion in January and got a yes...and then now silence, even though I have inquired about it twice since the ask. I want to go to my boss w this offer, but Im afraid there is a tiny chance he wont come up with a counteroffer and then Ill be sort of screwed and have to take a job where I work a ton on boring stuff. What are my options in this scenario? Has anyone gone to the mat in this way and stayed at the job they had?  <response>: 5 months later and still no raise or promotion what else more do you need to know? You are proving the employer right as they KNOW employees fear change and will stay around for the abuse as its human nature. Even if they come thru NOW, you will face the same indifference in a year and face the same dilemna again. 