<prompt> Human: Hi, personalfinance! Im a long time lurker, first time poster. I recently got offered a new job that is a substantial step-up from my current employment in terms of pay 24k -- 80k. I want to enjoy the new money without going over the top, so Im looking for some good insight on how best to do this, given my current situation. I dont want to be frugal, but also dont want to be overindulgent. I have no idea where that line should be drawn because Ive never had an excess of money before. More details about me: Im 23, recently married, and have my bachelors degree. My wife is still in her under grad and will be finished next spring she is on scholarship so we arent paying anything towards that. She works as a waitress and brings in some extra cash that way. Honestly, were pretty financially-free other than the 4,000 in student loans I have. We dont owe anything on our cars or our house.We usually go out for food and drinks once or twice a week, along with going to the movies occasionally and taking a weekend getaway trip every few months. However, my wife is very much an extrovert and would go out 7-nights a week if she could, whereas I am more introverted an introverted engineer, who knew and am content staying home most nights. However, Im concerned that her and I will use the new influx of cash as an excuse to spend money much less responsibly than we have in the past.Any serious advice will be greatly appreciated, and I can provide other relevant details if need be. Sorry this post is so long. Thanks in advance for all your help!EDIT: 3x my current income, not 300 more than it.Assistant: Are you happy with your spending limits now? When I was at 65K, I had everything I needed and was happy. Now that Im at 180K, I still spend like I make 65K and save the rest. Not because Im ultra frugal or because I just love money, but because I still have everything I need and Im happy. Just because you have it doesnt mean you need to spend it, especially if you were happy before. Mo money mo problems only if you let it...Human: I am very happy right now : Im a minimalist though, so it doesnt take much. The wife, on the other hand...I aspire to be like you, good sir  <response>: Then my biggest advice for you is to sit down and create your budget together. When you have a relationship between a spender and a saver, often the saver spends a lot of time thinking about and planning budgets and savings because theyre the one whos really interested in that stuff. But if the spender isnt actively involved in that process and doesnt get input into the budget, it makes it even more difficult for them to really buy into the process and stick to the spending limits.So definitely make sure that your wife also reads at least some of the booksarticles that are recommended to you, and that you not only make the budget together but that you take her input into account and reach reasonable compromises. And make sure the budget includes a set amount of fun money a month for your wife and an equal amount for you -- then you wont be having little fights over you liking to buy coffee on the way to work or about how much she spends going out, because you can each make your own decisions about what things are priorities for your fun spending. 