<prompt> Human: I think a lot of you are like-minded and can help me out. We are looking for a new house so that we can move my mother in with us. Based on schools and preferences, we have a narrow search pool. Ideally I want a 3500 sqft house with a basement but Ive been looking for awhile and not much available.There is a giant house 5000 sqft available that is actually a good deal. High-end constructionfixtures - all brick, SIP, MIL suite already complete, lifetime roof warranty etc. It was overpriced originally and sat and is now down 100k. Realistically, factoring in cost of MIL suite, this house winds up being 50k more for 1000 sqft and ridiculous finishes.My problem is this is a rich persons house or wow house. It is double the current size of our house. We have always lived under our means, but especially within the last 3 years we have had significant income increases while paying off loans, and now save over 50 of our income. We can afford this house, I currently pay this much on our house extra principal payment and it is well under 3X our salaries. I think that this will have greater appreciation then a lot of other homes in the area, but not sure of return factoring in taxes and maintenance. Honestly my biggest concern is being ostentatious and being seen as rich. Our neighborhood has homes from 200k to 1.5M so we wouldnt be anywhere close to the most expensive home in the neighborhood. General thoughts on purchasing such a ridiculously large house? Would you buy a larger house that was a better deal? Anyone come out as having more money then everyone thinks based on lifestyle? Is this a poor investment right now?  <response>: Why do you care what others think of your lifestyle? If the house meets your needs functionally then it doesnt matter whether it looks better than the other homes around you or not.You are overthinkkng this. Nobody is going to care. If it fits in your budget and meets your needs there is no reason to not proceed with buying the bigger home. With your mother in the house all the time youll probably appreciate the extra room. 