<prompt> Human: Hey all, Basically my question is as above. I want to get married however I am really nervous about going too thin in the amount of money that we have on hand. Neither of our families are in very good financial situations and neither really have any money to give toward the wedding. Salary Combined is about 140,000 per year. I have made a budget and it looks like we would be saving approx. 1600 per month. We currently have 25,000 in savings. The place that we like for our wedding is 100 a head and we are planning on 150 people coming to the wedding.If you have any other questions please ask.Assistant: theknot.com has a great budget tool that my husband and I used heavily while planning our wedding. you plug in your total budget for discussion, lets say youre willing to spend 25k and total number of guests and it breaks down approximately how much of your budget should go to all the different costs. as you remove items, it will reallocate that money to other categories. as you manually put in what you actually spent or plan to spend, it will adjust other categories. for us, it was helpful to see a starting number and then shop around. this isnt something you do every day so its hard to know what a reasonable price is.planning a wedding can be great practice for many things you will face in your marriage - budgeting, compromising, planning, prioritizing etc. granted, you hope couples area already doing these things. but its sort of a final test and a excellent learning opportunity that can bring you closer.my blanket advice, which is probably not the popular opinion around here: do it right, how you want it to be. and if thats going to cost you a little more, then maybe you have to save a little longer. if you dont want a courthouse wedding, or a picnic in your backyard, then do not do it. you wont be happy.Human: Thanks for this. Everyone here is saying to do a cheap wedding. I get this but I just feel like neither of us would be happy. I am not sure how to say that...  <response>: there is some truth to what others are saying - you shouldnt have a wedding you cant afford. so you either find a way to afford what you want, or prioritize and compromise so you can still be happy within what you can afford. ultimately you have to live with what you choose, and this day is going to be a memory you and your spouse will share forever.I saw you said youre from NJ - where about? if I may ask. we got married in the Philly suburbs area. Id be happy to talk over PM about what things cost us and vendors we used if that will help you at all. we had about 100 guests and our total was I think around 18k if I remember correctly. 