<prompt> Human: Hi all. Sorry for the amount of reading, I just have nowhere else to turn right now.So, I have been on this sub for about a year and a half now, I always see the posts and read through the comments and advice given. Ive just never been able to put it to action in my own life. I am starting to feel helpless and like a failure for not being able to control something as simple as my money. I know the right things to do, keep a budget, keep track of every expense, start a savings, etc. and yet I am unable to get myself to follow through on all of it. Ill start a budget, and then I wont keep track of my expenses, rendering the budget useless so I give up. Ill start an online budget like with YNAB, but it was so confusing I never even set up my first budget correctly. I just feel lost and hopeless. Ive got a great gf who supports me and even helps me with saving money by going grocery shopping with me to keep me from getting stuff I dont need. It got so bad at one point I told her to hold on to my debit card so that any transactions I need to do I would have to go through her. That didnt work, because I eventually just took my card back giving some bs reason as to why. I just need the motivation and kick in the ass to get me started, I need something easy to use and fun to do that will keep me focused. I do have ADD, my prescription helps me stay focused at work and in school but it doesnt translate to other areas of my life. I am unable to stick with one plan or one things a lot of the time, so I give up hope right after I start.I have a good job, at 21 Im making a base salary of 34k per year with monthly commissions on top, anywhere from 0-1500. I dont have many expenses, and I think since I dont I delude myself into thinking I have more money than I actually do. I currently have 0 in savings and about 40 to last me until my next paycheck on the 15th, since this one went straight to bills and rent. I dont have debt maybe 300-400 from my last bank, which I am still disputing and my credit score keeps dropping because of my lack of history and no revolving credit. My sister might be moving to Missouri with her husband in September and theyll be taking the car if they go, so I need to figure that out as well. I am expecting a bonus next month for a few referrals at my work, it will be 7500 before taxes, after it will probably be 4800, and then I am going to give each of my referrals 500 for staying and being good employees, since I wouldnt have gotten the bonus without them. So looking at about 3300. This, I plan to put into savings, but Im not sure when it will actually be paid, I hear conflicting stories from coworkers who have had to do this saying 90 days from hire, or 2 months after the 90 period, etc. so I will be contacting HR about this today.Below is a breakdown of fixed monthly costs.Rent: 635Electricity: 100month a little more than normal, summer in AZ means more AC than normal.Car payment insurance: 250 my sisters car, I pay her 150 every paycheck and it covers her payment and the insurance. Phone: 100 with verizon, looking to end contract and switch to another carrier, like T-Mobile.And an estimation of variable costs:Gas: 160Foodgroceries: 160-240Cat food and litter: 50-80Anyhow, I would appreciate any feedback and advice. I know Ive been an idiot with my money, I spend a little here and there and it adds up, but I just cant get myself to follow a plan that I KNOW will help me and make me more financially secure. Assistant: Sounds like you just need self control. Theres no trick or anything to do. Its just something you need to do. Human: Is there something others have done to help with this? Im sure Im not the only subscriber who has issues with self-control haha so I guess Id just like some insight on how others have gone about conquering self-control to lead towards financial security.  <response>: Having a clear goal that I WANTHAVE to hit is what did it for me. I met a girl and want to buy a house in 7ish years. I have cut spending DRASTICALLY since we started talking about it. 