<prompt> Human: Im 25 and have a decent job. I live alone rent and have managed to save a decent amount of money in the past year and a half. These funds are being pooled to go back to school for what Im interested in rather than the soul-killing, though well-paying, drudgery I do now.Now, my mom is always in rough shape financially. Shes just bad with money. She also refuses to spend money on regular upkeep of pretty much anything, and it costs her much more in the long run. Her current and most pressing issue is her teeth. Theyre rotting. Which is her fucking fault if Im being honest She wants to have them fixed and is looking at me because no one else is willing to give her money to do it. Shes worn everyone out on donations. I also gave her a few thousand dollars to make repairs to her house last year - several of which just didnt happen.Im looking at my options. Option one is to simply do nothing and let her deal with it. Option two is give her the money to fix her teeth and say fuck you to what I feel like Ive got to do for myself. Option three is to move back in with her and pay her rent that can mostly go towards her teeth. This would effectively retool my rent payment into helping her with her teeth while saving me the cost of utilities and should be a win-win. Option two sounds best.The problem: Shes a fucking slob. Her house could probably be on the hoarders tv shows. Boxes of useless junk everywhere. Dishes are always piled up. Trash all over the counters. Animal excrement on the floors though not usually in copious amounts. Still very bothersome . Roaches. General disrepair of much of her house well, mobile home.Ive talked with her and asked if she could keep up her end of the bargain if I were to move in by having the courtesy to clean after herself. Her response: I dont know.This makes me feel awful. I want to help her, but I cant address my own issues of fulfillment that Im working my ass off to attain and her issues. Im just not sure what to do. I would save money. An average of about 500 to 600 a month, which would add up fairly quickly. And it would help her out. Im just torn about the extreme drop in quality of life.TL;DR: Should I move in with my mom to help her and save more money for myself - at the expense of my sanity?  <response>: Okay, first off your Moms irresponsibility is not your responsibility. If you want to help, then thats good but dont put your own finances and future at risk. read this in a gentle voice - I dont mean it to be bitchy mean Find out what the very minimum amount of work she will need to get done whats the priority? and figure out if you can help with that part of it. Not everything needs to be done at once. Check out dentalplans.com and see if anything there might be able to help. You can also ask at the dentist to see if they have any help available. Now, on to other things...If your Mom knows you have money stashed away, she will ALWAYS find a need for it. Dont share any information about savingsraisesbonusesmoney with her. If she asks, just say that its locked away and you cant easily access it and drop it. Its none of her business. As far as shes concerned, everybody elses money is her money too and thats why no one will help her. But its my Mom! Its okay to set boundaries with her and to stick to them. Thats not saying dont help ever, but dont put yourself in debt because someone else is using all that youve worked hard for. Dont move in with her either...youll end up resenting the whole situation and her. 