<prompt> Human: As the title says my aunt passed away unexpectedly and, without my knowledge, five years ago put her house into a life estate with me as the residual beneficiary. This is causing conflict with my brother who, around the same time, received a call from my aunt asking if he wanted her house and he outright refused to have that conversation with her which is when she put my name on the life estate I assume. Throughout the years my aunt always told me that the house would one day be mine and things to the similar effect but I never expected that she would structure her estate in the way she did by making the remainder so lopsided in my benefit. I assumed she would either even it out with other assets or that would be mine meant 12 mine. Something tells me to make the easy decision to split it with him anyway, but then it feels like saving the relationship literally cost me 150,000 and the only one Im hurting by doing that is me. Especially after the years and years of our relationship being fairly one sided. Im not sure I have a specific question, but more of a vent about how this is causing a rift between my brother and I. Assistant: This probably belongs in rrelationships. Put simply it all depends on how much you value your relationship with your brother, and the type of people you guys are, and what the rest of your respective financial situations are. Me and my brother are very close, and both very secure in our financial situation. I would sell it and split everything 5050 and it wouldnt really change either of our lives at all. Just a little more money into retirement savings. Other people, 150k would be life saving. More money than they will earn in 8 years. Let them get out of a wicked debt hole, etc. So its just between you, your bro, and your conscious. Human: This probably belongs in rrelationshipsyoure right it probably does, but I felt like the mindset here might be better for it. Ill probably close this down soon anyway. The remainder of the assets are being split 5050 so he is ending up with a fair sum of money as well, but Im struggling with the fact that if the situation was reversed Im not sure I would be mad or feel slighted. Him and I are obviously different people and it is just hard for me to wrap my head around that mentality of deserved and to what extreme it is going to affect him.  <response>: He doesnt deserve to 50 of it. Neither do you. You deserve what she left you. 