<prompt> Human: Last August, my husband and I hit a HUGE financial decision; to combine our finances or not after 5 years of marriage keeping it separate. We did a bit both. All the bills are my responsibility, so 90 of his paycheck comes to me, the rest goes to him and savings he never saved before, this was my rule, I needed a small amount of his check into savings.Before I go off rattling, I must thank rpersonalfinance! Shortly after we made that choice to combine, I was crying..nightly. I was overwhelmed by the responsibilities of EVERYTHING that revolved around the house, and felt like it was no longer shared, and I was breaking apart. Things we used to do together, I was doing alone, or doing alone with small children jumping in the middle. One day, I read a thread about YNAB being on sale through Steam. Mind you, Ive never heard of YNAB or even Mint before that thread. Through reading everyones reviews of the two systems, I bought it. I figured, the 20 spent here isnt going to hurt anything. And buying something so on a whim like that was hard for me!Months go by, I use it, I enjoy it, take a few webinars and am really starting to see the difference even though Im slower than the others, thank you America for high medical bills. Today, I realize weve hit several milestones. I have a car payment that I saved a third of the cost for and forgot I did, bill comes up, and Im panicking that I cant pay extra. Then, I notice my YNAB numbers, and I can still pay extra! Then there was a moment of weakness and couldnt seem to get my YNAB numbers and bank statement to match up, it wasnt balancing and I was pulling my hair out trying to figure it all out. I was afraid I was losing that small nest egg Im trying to build in the checking account so we dont have to live paycheck to paycheck anymore. But, I let it go. Today, it balanced!I cashed in some change my husband has been tossing into a jar. Gave him an extra 30 and the first words out of his mouth were Im just going to put it into savings, I have no use for it. Hes never said that! He never does that!Sorry for the wall, but I needed to share with someone how amazing youve all been for us. What I thought was going to dissolve our marriage because of the stress that was piled onto me, turned out to be the best choice Id ever made.Thank you, so much for your support and wonderful suggestions! Im so proud to say my husband is finally starting to save hes never saved before and Im slowly starting to give us a lifestyle we deserve that I never thought we would ever see!  <response>: joyous wall of text, well done! 