<prompt> Human: I 24F currently gross 35k and share an apartment near Portland, OR with my husband 25M, who makes 70k. Ive been offered a position in Brooklyn, NY for 90k. The benefits are roughly equivalent between jobs. Mediocre 401k match, decent health coverage, same vacation.I work in academia but have no room for growth without a PhD; I would be moving to industry. My husband would have to stay behind in Portland for a few years, until he is eligible to transfer to NY or NJ. Until then, we would rent separate units with roommates. Given that it will really suck to live apart for several years, Im trying to figure out if its worth it financially to take the new job.---Current Income Expenses- Net Income - 6000 Rent - 1500 Utilities - 150 Phone Wifi - 110 Gym - 150 Entertainment - 120 Food Personal Items - 600 Gas Insurance - 250 Student Loans - 500 10k left 4 Car Payment - 500 4k left 3.5Total Expenses - 3900Net Savings - 2100---Potential Income Expenses- Net Income - 8000 Rent - 1800 Utilities - 250 Phone Wifi - 170 Entertainment - 200 Food Personal Items - 700 Gas Insurance - 400 Student Loans - 500 10k left 4 Car Payment - 500 4k left 3.5 Second Car or Other Transportation - 150? Cross-Country Flight - 500Total Expenses - 5200Net Savings - 2800---Does that look right? I have no idea how accurate my estimates are, but based on these numbers the new job would net us an extra 700month in savings. Obviously we are not living frugally, and there is a lot of room to slash our budget in either scenario. But do the increases in expenses seem right given that well be living separately in HCOL areas?Im assuming we both move into two bedroom apartments with a roommate, and that I fly back to see my husband once a month. Currently I take public transit paid for by my employer. I would definitely have to pay for transit in NY, and may have to buy a second car.Would 700month be worth it for you to live across the country from your spouse? Of course thats not the only consideration, because Im currently in a dead-end position and the new job has potential for advancement. But in theory I could find a 35k job in Portland with potential for advancement, just outside of the sciences and with a lower starting salary than the NY job.Thank you!!EDIT: Formatting  <response>: No that would not be worth it... unless he is willing to relocate with you and find a job near there 