<prompt> Human: Weve been together for four years now, Im 30, shes 26, and were both fairly traditionalreligious so wed like to be married in the future. I honestly couldnt see myself with anyone else. This is the first relationship Ive been in where we were head over heels in love when we first met, everyone told us it was just the honeymoon stage, and the honeymoon stage just never ended. Every day is a new adventure. When she told me she wanted me to propose at some point this year I was ecstatic. Im posting here mostly because I know most of our friends who have gotten married in the past five years have not gone over finance information beforehand, and either received fantastic or awful surprises down the road. I make around 40k right now in a contract position but realistically I can expect around 35-37k going forward. She probably makes somewhere around 4-6k per year selling crafts on the internet. I also do some entrepreneurial stuff on the side but that probably shouldnt count as part of my income because its so sporadic. I started a Roth IRA this past year and have 7k in it so far. Like me, she didnt have any financial education. My credit score is firmly in good shape not excellent, probably around 700 according to CreditKarma. She has never borrowed money and does not have a credit score as she went directly from living with her parents to living with me. Edit because this is probably relevant info: She is disabled and this is the main reason shes not working. She cannot stand up for more than maybe 20 minutes at a time and cant walk more than half a block by herself. She also cannot drive. Shes had several odd jobs in retail related positions and usually the cost of having her either uber to work or having me drive her doesnt offset what shes actually bringing in. End edit.I grew up in a very strange environment and I try to limit contact with my family because of it. Essentially several people in my family believed I was mentally retarded and raised me as if this were the case, most of the people who believed this 25 years ago still do today. Theyre not bad people, theyre just kind of eccentric. When I was in college I had a full battery of tests run on me to see what I actually have and it turns out I dont have anything, not even one of the common ones like ADD or depression. This is relevant because I have no idea what assets I actually own, and what would become hers in the event of a marriage. Every time I see my family I ask lots of questions and they answer them in ways that are condescending and dont actually answer what Ive asked. My family has always been financially illiterate and Im no exception to that, I just know they have a personal finance guy and a tax guy that they send things to every year and get advice. Both of these people are trustworthy and the companies they represent have been aiding my family for more than 120 years now. Like me, my girlfriend has no idea if she has any assets because her family just doesnt know, and doesnt know who they could even contact to figure that out. Ive been considering asking personal finance guy what the full scoop is but I really dont want him to let it slip that were planning on getting married because to my family, my girlfriend and I are still mentally children and I dont want to deal with condescending attitude until we can limit contact to phone calls; right now we live in the same neighborhood as my folks. I know I have some mineral rights in my name, I know I have some property, and I know I have some money anywhere between 50k and 500k, they wont get more specific than that in a generation skipping trust my grandparents set up. What exactly do we need to get squared away on the legal side before we can make our dream a reality?  <response>: This is not a situation people on Reddit can help you with. You are planning to become the sole supporter for another adult on 37k a year. Now if your question were how to budget to make that more feasible, or to provide suggestions for your fiance to bring in a second income with a disability, we could help you. But if your sole interest is to claim unknown assets, the only course of action you can take is to hire an attorney. 