<prompt> Human: My job: i work in a tire shop. Not even been 90 days yet. I make 11.95 an hour and work about 7.5 hours a day. I can eventually move up and get raises. Offers benefits. But we cant afford them atmMy wifes job: works for a friend from her home about 10 minutes away. Makes 15 an hour no where to move up or get a raise no benefitsMy job is pretty tough on me im 300 pounds working on losing it and and getting very bad back and knee pains from being in a squatted position all day. There was an accident at my work were a tire popped on a vehicle after it left it was our fault we didnt tighten the valve stem enough and it piped on the freeway. No one hurt, but they are pissed my managers wont let me or the other new guys touch anything without supervision and recently cut my hours back to 7.5 from 9. I feel they see my pace being heavy and think I cant handle it. I have been progressively getting faster and better but i dont feel its enough. My wifes boss wants her to work long shifts 8am to 10pm she would be able to come home for lunch for an hour and I would take care of the kids. Its a long shift but shes more than happy to do it, she enjoys her work and she works in a very comfortable house with most of the time not alot going on. With us both working we take home about4100 a month We pay 1250 for rentutilities 200 irs 75 auto insurance 200 phone. 150 gas 600 foodsupplies 400 church 500 babysitter 250 car payment. Paying a little more to try to pay it down faster Also rebuilding our belongings we just got our own place again and need things like pots and pans and other stuff we pick up as needed. If she worked the long shifts we would bring home 3900 a month same bills but no baby sitter. I feel like I should stay at my job as long as possible its a great company lots of room to move up and great pay raises eventually. However I dont know how secure my position is and if her boss fills the morning shift our opportunity will pass and if i lose my job for any reason we can be back to homeless again. And have no where else to go. Sorry for the long post we live in northern utah.If i were to be stay at home dad i would work towards taking community classes nearby to help with a future job.  <response>: Living in northern Utah and paying 400 10 of your income, I can only assume youre LDS. Im ex-Mormon but my parents are very active still and in leadership positions in the stake - and their advice to people in similar situations has been to ensure your family has what it needs to sustain itself, first and foremost; if youre very concerned about tithing and temple recommend, you should be able to do service projects or other things that your bishop would accept in lieu. I hate to see people paying that much money when theyre struggling to make ends meet; been there, done that a long time ago. 