<prompt> Human: Here is the situation:My boyfriend and I are both computer engineers. We live in a nice apartment, have good jobs, etc. No issues with money when it comes to supporting ourselves with a little room to splurge. About a year ago a really nice old couple moved in two doors down. They were just the sweetest people and we grew very close to them. The man has a lot of health problems and is considered disabled and doesnt work. The woman, makes pretty good money as an Executive Assistant and makes roughly 60K a year.As we grew closer to this older couple we began to learn more about their family. They have a 30 year old son that lives with them, has no desire to get a job, sleeps all day, doesnt help around the house...need I say more? The husband is constantly sick, always needing medical attention, basically sits in his recliner all day with his two dogs. The wife, works her ass off all day, comes home and cooks for these two men and tends to their every need, never complaining once. I began to see her as a saint. Well, recently last Friday her husband comes knocking on the door, crying, saying that she left him.For the past couple of weeks, the wife had been bringing belongings to work little by little and leaving them with a friend. Last Friday, she quit her job, took the car, and left the men an envelope with bills out the wazoo and a note saying i cant do this anymore and pretty much an instruction manual on what needs to be paid, where money is...pretty much everything she was doing on a daily basis.So. The man has come to us for help. I have taken the envelope full of bills and have been going through them and they are in an unreal amount of debt. They are paying way too much for necessities that they cannot afford and the two of them do not understand that because the wife did EVERYTHING. They dont even know the passwords to the online accounts. Now, she left her debit card and everything and even about a grand in her bank account for them but it is not even close enough to cover everything. Naturally, they are asking us for money.1. WTH has their 30 year old son been doing this whole time? If the older man is disabled and cant work, he needs to find a job asap. He says he is trying but it has been a week and hasnt even applied for one.2. The man is a disabled veteran and claims that he cannot receive any benefits. That is bullshit because you are automatically considered disabled at the age of 65 and the VA offers several benefits.3. The old man thinks that he can live off of two SS Income checks 1500 a month which barely covers their rent let alone everything else. 4. Now their car is not working and last night they called us during a tornado warning asking us to drive the son to Kroger to pick up his medication.Honestly, it is just a weird situation. I dont know where the wife is, or how to get ahold of her. They are so in debt with their car payments and cable bills that even my boyfriend and I wouldnt be able to comfortably pay them off so they dont take their only car. Which brings up the issue about the son not being able to get a job due to no transportation.We are in a mess. I have made several calls and have knocked their cable bill from 300 a month to 86.00 a month, I cannot do anything about the car payment debt because they want my name on the account to be able to speak with a rep. and I dont want my name anywhere on ANY of their stuff, I went to the local courthouse and asked about foodstamps and other options and they gave me some contact information. I have laid out a payment plan for them, offered every way possible that they can lower certain bills, however, they are still in major debt.I dont know what else to do, they keep asking us for help but I dont want to give them money that I will never see back or keep being expected to give to them. My boyfriend and I cannot even walk to our garages without being chased down by the man and told the latest situation. It is just a mess. If you have any suggestions please share.TL;DRDisabled vets wife left him, he needs medical care, food, etc. and he is in major debt.Son lives with them, no high school education, 30 years old and no jobHe has come to us for financial advice which I can offer, but now he is asking for money.The man is 65 years old, served 8 years, and hasnt even tried to receive benefits from the VA.Neither one of them have ANY idea how to pay about, what needs to be paid...I mean it is like they are just now getting in touch with reality. Please help.  <response>: I dont know what else to do, they keep asking us for help but I dont want to give them money that I will never see back or keep being expected to give to them. My boyfriend and I cannot even walk to our garages without being chased down by the man and told the latest situation. It is just a mess. If you have any suggestions please share.Time to be a hard ass. I already helped save you X dollars a month and I pointed you towards the people who can help. Call them. If they ask for money then Your son needs to get a job. should be the ONLY answer you give them. If you still sympathize with the old guy, you could walk him through getting VA benefits and then be done. The VA can probably take it from there.And NEVER help the son, ever. The son has had 30 years to learn how to mooch off of people and drove his own mother away. Do you think theres any low he wont stoop to with you two? Dont give him any access to your stuff, dont let him in your apartment, dont let him in your car, dont give him some change for the bus. Any of that is a food in the door and he will exploit it to the fullest. He will try his best to make you feel guilty because thats how he got his own way all his life. He wont know what to do if you dont budge.Realize that these people drove away their own wifemother. This is the sort of pressure she had every day to please them, and theyre going to turn it on you because youre assuming her role. You may end up having to move because of these people if they arent evicted first. 