<prompt> Human: I was told to repost this in personal finance! Thanks for reading.I dont know if this is the right place to post something like this but Im hoping it is. I need a lot of advice in how to be an adult. Ill try to keep this short. Im eighteen and I have a part time job that Im trying to make full time. The pay is kinda shitty but I love the people there so I dont want to leave. Ive been trying to get a second job but Im not getting any calls back. The reason I need a second job is because my mom is taking my paychecks. She works a full time job, but after bills and stuff, she probably has ten dollars left for gas, food etc. My moms never been able to support me do i need to save up for things she cant do. I currently take a taxi to work because Im trying to save up for a car. side note, even when she got like 3,000 from taxes or something she refused to help me. Anyway, I have no idea how to drive either and I dont want to waste my time in a drivers ed class. I took it in high school but my mom didnt let me get my permit. Im in a huge financial mess and I have no idea what Im doing. I took a year off after high school to save for a car and for my education costs. Apart from working a full time job, my mom does nothing. Im constantly doing things to keep is going like cooking all the meals, taking care of my sick cat, doing laundry, going grocery shopping, cleaning, etc. I feel like if I do get a second job then I wont have time for any of that. To make all of this even more shitty, I have an older brother whos in his late twenties and dropped out of high school and has never worked a day in his life. thats acceptable to my mom because he has severe ocd and anxiety. He doesnt cook, clean, do laundry etc. He watches YouTube all day. I have severe anxiety and depression and have been looking into different heath insurance plans for myself but theyre all too expensive and I dont qualify for the free one. I also am selling some of my stuff on eBay and I posted an ad on craigstlist saying I can work, but all I got was horny men. Basically my question is, how the fuck do I adult, how do I get myself a car, how do I save up money if its all being taken, how do I learn to drive without a permit, how do I take care of my mental health and how do I just get my life started. I have no idea how to do anything and my mom wont help me. How do you get a credit card? How do you get good credit? How do you get a good car? I need serious advice in how to adult.Edit:I cook all my own food, never eat out, I buy clothes from the local thrift shop and from my current job 40 discount fuck yeah Im doing absolutely everything to save up my money but I cant because my mom needs my money. Any tips on how to get a second job or how to find jobs that arent for big companies example: cleaning someones house or baby sitting would be appreciated.I need a car, but the cheapest down payment I can find is 995 which is impossible to get to with all my money going to my mom. I have a lot of problems, and I need a lot of help! Thanks!  <response>: This is really more of a rrelationships question, so you may want to post there for those experts. Ill stick to the personalfinance concerns -First, your money is yours. Find a credit union with no fees and ask for help to open an account. If you dont like them find a new credit union to work with. Get the routing and account numbers from them and take that to your current employer and ask to change your direct deposit. Once your first paycheck hits there, be ready to have a firm discussion about your financial boundaries. It would be fair for your mom to expect you as an 18 year old to pay rent. Probably it would be fair to have you pay the same as your brother, so you could tell your mom that. Maybe your bro could get a job then - three adults earning income should be able to live quite well if each contribute. If your mom has issues with your proposal, tell her as an alternative you can pay X amount and will do a certain amount of cooking and cleaning. What youre offering is fair so stay calm about it and she may agree.Next, one part time job is not going to make a good life situation for you, but it is a great start. Spend some time thinking about what your goals are. If you want to work in a salon, youll need a certification so find out what the requirements are in the location youll be working. If youre not sure yet what you want, thats ok, but in that situation money helps - so find a second part time job or better yet a full time job. Bonus, if youre out of the house more then you wont be as annoyed by family concerns.Good luck, and I hope this advice is useful to you. 