<prompt> Human: Hey, PF. This is a cross-post from rrelationships. Im curious if any other financially minded people have ever heard of this, done this, or what their thoughts are.My SO and I have been discussing wedding plans for some time, and are trying to figure out how we want to go about things. We have a combined household already, and dont really need the things traditionally associated with a wedding registry for presents. We dont plan on having a lavish wedding, and it will be pretty casual casual as inexpensive as possible.What we do need, though, is help with our student loan debt. Having our loans paid down would be infinitely more helpful to our future than getting new linens or a vacuum cleaner. Ive looked into some ways to do this that dont seem like Ummm puhlez just give us cah money!!. In several weddings Ive been to recently, the bride and groom asked guests to donate to a charity rather than pony up for a physical wedding registry.There are sites you can set up to directly deposit the funds into your loan balances, and make it more professionallegit.I suppose my question is, is this acceptable? As a relativeguest, would you be offended by something like this? Have any of you done this?tl;dr: We want to set up a fund for our student loan debt instead of a traditional wedding registry. Is this acceptable? Would it offend you?Edit: I am, in fact, a lady. Not a man, for reference. Also, I think something got lost in translation. We were thinking about a cute message included with the invitation, where there would normally be a registry card.  <response>: Miss Manners tells me mentioning money in lieu of gifts is bad manners. 