<prompt> Human: Hi everyone, First of all, this is a topic that I have been avoiding discussing for a very long time and I really want everyones advice. I live in a family some of whom are redditors so Im going to be as vague as possible including details here that I feel like control me. This includes to controlling how Im spending and who Im spending it on as well as who Im spending my time with. Now, I dont go crazy or go to parties where Im doing lots of drugs or sleeping with men. The last guy I kissed was about 6 months ago. I havent had much of a love life since then. My mother passed away and I live in a household where my father is an alcoholic and where anything and I mean literally anything is critiqued and watched to finite detail. I can not live like this. Im currently working in SF and commute about an hour and a half each way that is when there are no delays and its taking a toll on my mental and physical health. I go home and if my father is not drunk and fighting with me or making comments, then its another one of my family members. And sometimes, I want to catch up on the work that I didnt get to that day and do it from home. The house is a mess and cleanliness is at an all time low. Even I stopped caring about my own room and spaces because I spend so much time taking care of everything else. I have traffic fines and bills and have poor credit and I intend on going to grad school but first need to take post-bac classes to get there which is another cost. My entire life is a mess and I need to so get desperately out of here. I cry every night thinking Im trapped because these people make me believe I cant afford living away from them. They want me to pay for a mortgage even though on the regular, my dad threatens to kick me out and tell me Im a terrible person. I make 54k, I am paid bi-monthly. I have traffic fines totaling 500 dollars from when I was an intern, a credit card debt of 434.00 and a payment of 1200 from a student account from my time in college and another payment of 1200 for my first loan statement. I have to pay for maintenance for my car, totaling 3000 transmission fluid, new tires, something about an engine?.How do I get out???  <response>: Hello, I am not too financially inclined but I did notice your comment about your car and that is one area I can help you with!If you could, let me know the make and model of your car. Very often, tires can be bought much cheaper online and mounted onto your car for about 30 a wheel. The trans fluid flush shouldnt be more than about 200 but the thing about your engine could be absolutely anything and shop probably knows you wouldnt know what it is.Let me know if I can help you in any way clear up your car expenses. Shops often assume that people know very little to nothing about their own cars and can unfortunately take advantage of that. 