<prompt> Human: So Im getting married in about 30 days and Im curious to hear any advice for how one should establish expectations on things like merging bank accounts, who pays for what, individual budgets, splitting big purchases... Consider the scenario wherein one person me is marrying a ortho surgeon resident, so my salary is much higher now, but I expect that to flip. Were both fairly conservative spenders, but I can see how its important to establishnegotiate baselines now rather than down the line...  <response>: Everyone does things differently, but imo its best to completely dispense with the idea of yours and theirs. Its all yours as a couple. Are you soul mates or just business partners?Now, that isnt to say that you wont each have equal allowances that you can spend without consulting the other. I dont really see what your individual income should have to do with how you or your partner is treated.I could see some cases where I would do things differently, but really only when one partner has made extreme financial choices e.g. I dont want to work anymore, without even having any kids at home. 