<prompt> Human: 28f here, husband is 35.My story: girl racks up debt, girl pulls herself together to pay back debt, girl is inspired to write about it :Its been four years since I went into saving hyper-drive. At first it was because of paying down debt, and after that it was because I wanted to build my savings. And I did, and Im proud of it, BUT. A year ago I met a great man. Six months later we moved in together. Two months after that we found out I was pregnant and we got married. We were going to anyway, it just happened a a few months sooner.My husband is not bad with money. Hes actually pretty reasonable. However, he doesnt freak out about money like I do. Maybe Ive become obsessed? Im not sure if its because of my history or because of my writing, researching and thinking about money every day. I want our finances to be in good shape. Hes generally on board with that and we agree on what our goals are. Its just that... hes not that great about exectuing. Hes not doing anything wreckless, but hes not doing it perfect, either.And thats my problem. I want us both to do our best so we can stabilize our finances as fast as possible. I have no problem with making do or doing without, but he feels different. He draws the line sooner than I would. But I think its ME whos in the wrong here, not him. For example, yesterday he was washing his hands for dinner and he used three squirts of liquid soap. I use half a squirt. And it bugged me so much! I wasnt going to say anything, and I didnt, but it kept bugging me. Even during dinner! Thats when I thought - okay, thats not right. I cant be this upset about three squirts of soap, can I? But I guess I could! And you know what, the same thing happens every time he does something less-than-perfect money-wise, no matter how small. The other day he bought two packs of peanuts because he didnt have a snack at home like I suggested. He leaves the water on when hes doing the dishes I know, its super sweet that he does the dishes!. When he blows his nose with toilet paper, he uses way more than he needs. Sometimes he cant get up on time to catch the bus to work and ends up going with the car. See? Im crazy!On some level, I realize that while hes not perfect with money, hes good enough. I realize Im sweating the small stuff... but I cant stop! Have I turned this into an obsession? I think I have : How do I get over this? When I bite my tongue, it makes me miserable, and when I speak up, I make us both miserable!Oh God Im an OCD freak!PS It also bugs me when someone at the office forgets to turn the lights off or wastes coffee... Im a monster.  <response>: You might want to talk to somebody. If my wife was acting like that long enough it would likely end my marriage. 