<prompt> Human: Im a housewife and he owns a modeling firm as in mathematical models, not skinny white women. We make about 260,000yr take home, but it varies from month to month.Our current spending habits are:Retirement Savings 8000month have 44,000 35,000 emergency fund - just started saving recentlyDebt 3000month 54,000 left avg interest of 3.383Mortgage 5000month 6years left valued at 1.2MMVarious clothes, household items, etc 500monthVarious bills internet, phone, etc 200monthVehicle expenses 300monthEntertainment 500monthMiscellaneous 1000monthDates Alcohol etc 400monthFood 1400monthAnd the remainder usually goes to extra debt. I just dont have it listed because, like I said, our income varies. This is not acceptable. He refuses to get rid of our car. He refuses to get rid of our smart phones for a dumb one. He refuses to quit drinking so much booze. But its clear what the biggest issue is: 1400month in food. Im trying to get us down to 200month. But the thing is, he refuses to do that. He takes one of his employees out to work almost every day. WTF? That shit isnt cheap.  <response>: rrelationships rrelationship_advice 