<prompt> Human: Hi there, me and my mother are in a bit of a bind regarding my grandad. To give a bit of a better understand of the situation I think I need to give some backstory first:My grandad is mentally ill. He has vascular dementia, he cant walk unaided, he cannot drive, but he has not yet been classified as completely lost mental capacity. He has whats known as a fluctuating mental capacity, but we believe he is losing capacity to handle his finances. A few weeks ago, the care company that my grandad is using contacted my mother and told her that he had no food in the house, and he was overdrawn with no money in the bank. My mum went to his place about 2 hours away to bail him out and get him some food. She settled the overdraft, but he is now once again overdrawn. He is paying an average of 2000 a month for care. My grandad is a lonely man, my grandma passed away in January this year and since then things have gone further downhill for him. He has no friends, and he is essentially using these carers as a substitute for friends. He cannot go out alone, either the carers need to drive him or he is paying for taxis. He is taking them out to pub lunches constantly and he is also spending an inordinate amount of money at garden centres - a bit odd as he can no longer mobilise himself to do any gardening.My grandad has a history of engaging solicitors to try and get his will changed. In the last 6 months, he has engaged 6 solicitors separately in order to get his will changed. Part of his dementia is channeling some anger within him and he is trying to revoke my grandmothers will because she left half of the house in trust to her children my mother and my uncle. Presumably, he isnt being successful as the solicitors are probably figuring that someone who has dementia cannot change their will.We have tried over and over again to get him into sheltered accommodation. We tried respite care following grandmas passing but he refused this initially. He is now on the waiting list. Recently, my mother went to the house again and managed to procure a set of bank statements dating back to June 2015. It is since reviewing these together that we have become deeply concerned and shocked at the level of his spending. Given his physical and mental capacity, to us, it seems impossible that he is spending this amount of money with nothing to show for it.Currently, my grandad has 1600 a month coming into his account. From the date of 16th of June 2015 his outstanding balance was 28,389.61. Shortly after the passing of my grandma in February 2016 this number has dropped to 16,437.16. However, then it gets significantly scarier. By the 30th of April his balance was sat at 9000, with 6431 being spent in this month alone, and then just 10 days after on the 10th of May 2016 he was -126 overdrawn. On the 27th of June he was 1536 overdrawn. Since then the spending has slowed down. It was in August that we received the call from the care company to say that his bank was totally drained and they had frozen his card and that the carer had had to go down to the food bank in order to feed him. This is where we stepped in and had a look at his affairs. My mother has power of attorney over his finances so we are within our legal rights to be looking at this information.Looking at the month to month spending we are noticing significant trends. He is withdrawing regular amounts of 250 cash from the same location at 3-4 day intervals for the entire month. He is visiting the same pubs and restaurants, sometimes three different pubs and restaurants in a single day. On one occasion he had spent nearly 600 in pubs and garden centres in one day. To us this seems entirely impossible, if it is just himself and his carer, theres just categorically no way to spend this much money at these establishments. He has spent thousands at garden centres since January, but when you visit the house, there are no new flowers, no plants, no new furnishings, absolutely nothing to show for it.Weve had reason to believe in the past he has developed an inappropriate relationship with the carer that we have tried to shut down. On the day of my grandmas passing, my sister found this carer going through my granddads private financial papers and documents. We asked her to kindly leave, and we put in place a safeguarding report with social services. Shes been investigated a couple of times with the relationship with my grandad but because of my granddads dementia and the fact that he believes she is his friend, he protects her on every account and there is nothing further that we can do to separate the two of them. To this day, she is still a carer for him. Our next idea was to try and get a copy of the care book and see if we could make any links between what is being logged in the care diary against the spending records, but if we remove this document from his house, hell know weve taken it and it will cause some big problems.He has been hospitalised 22 times this year, and the doctors are now saying that he doesnt have the mental capacity to make the decision from himself to go home. He is still currently in hospital.We are absolutely stumped at what to do next. Clearly there is some foul play going on and we feel that we have substantial evidence to support a claim that my grandad is being stolen from, but we dont know what to do next or who to turn to. We arent sure if this is a matter we can turn to the police to or if there is a regulatory body that can offer support guidance and advice, but most importantly, we just want to protect him and stop this from happening any further. Please advise. We are struggling.  <response>: In the US, but have some advice. He really needs to be declared incompetent to care for himself and have a family member or guardian care for his financial accounts. It does sound like his caregivers are stealing from him, and you should report that to proper authorities. In fact, if you know the location of where he has spent monies you may want to go there and ask employees if they remember your grandpa. Theres a good chance that theyre going to remember him if hes spending that much. Use this as an opportunity to see who is stealing from him, since hes not really competent to spend that money. The people to contact are the licensing authorities and companies that these aids are working for. In the US, if you are caught doing something like this you lose your license and cannot work in a services profession with the elderly again. Additionally, they do in many cases have to reimburse the victim. Speak with your local police department as well, they will direct you to whatever social services agency is appropriate.Men with dementia often get violent and have a lot of anger that can be directed at their family, so please try to always have someone there when you visit as things can escalate quickly. Keeping that in mind, its essential that you get him into a care facility quickly before he declines even more. There will come a day when his aids wont want to care for someone they cant steal from anymore. 