<prompt> Human: Firstly, thank you for reading. Im getting desperate here.Hey all. Im married with 2 kids and I make 2.2kmo. after taxes working full time and having a side business and my wife is a stay at home mom. We have little debt 4k in student loans, payments are under controlOur expenses are usually 1.8k monthly, so every month, we should have about 400 to spare, but we are always so tight come months end and I hate that feeling of anxiety when bills cone due and I have to check my bank account every day to make sure everything is in order.On the other hand, weve tried budgeting a number of times to no avail. I dont want to blame my wife, Shes wonderful, but she cannot stick to a budget. I dont like budgeting either, but I can stick to one. She and I were raised with different views on money. I started a business to make more money, so we could become more financially free and I wouldnt have to stress every month because of bills. My dream is yo have no budget, spend a reasonable amount every month and still have some left enough, enough not to worry. Budgeting is causing me a lot of stress because Im constantly wondering if my wife is sticking to it and I feel very resentful when she goes out and spends money that isnt budgeted. Its stuff we need like a shovel in the winter when ours is kinda broken but could do without for a time longer. When we dont have a budget, its like free reign, so that causes me stress too because she is always asking if we have enough money to get something or do something and when we do, its hard for me to tell her no - I dont want to be a dictator I just want us to be on the same page. She gets sensitive about money. She thinks Im coming down on her when I disapprove of her spending when all I want is for us to be comfortable.Im just unhappy about our money situation. We make enough to get by, but dont save nearly what I want to and our spending gets a little out of hand sometimes buying pizza once a week 50mo we didnt need to spend for example. Budgeting is causing tension. Free spending is causing me stress. I just feel trapped.I feel like Ive been trying to control everything and the weight of the world is on me.. Im considering telling her No more budgets. I trust you. You know what reasonable spending is and so do I, so lets just spend within our means.. If we F it up, we will have to draw from savings to pay bills and if that happens, we will reevaluate our spending and adjust from there. I suppose it would be, in essence, an unspoke, loose budget.Anyone have any advice on how I can get this under control?  <response>: Ive been using the You Need A Budget software since March, and I cant even relay how much my budget has relieved my stress. Even if I have to adjust my budget every so often for something that happens to come up. Find a budget method that works and stick with it. The stress will go away once you start seeing your accounts growing.My wife is a bit better with money than me, so I kind of that going for me. I would suggest both of you sitting down to do the budget at the beginning of your next pay period. Maybe if she sees how the money is being added up, shell understand the budget a bit better. 