<prompt> Human: Hello pfers, Im coming to you with a somewhat sad story, and asking for some advice on how to approach it. My mom is 62 years old and is within a couple of months of facing a forced eviction due to foreclosure on her home. Shes dealt with a lot of mental illness issues throughout her life and is currently suffering from some pretty heavy duty depression and anxiety. No doubt exacerbated by the foreclosure situation. We have plans in place to have her move across the country and much closer to us, her 2 children and 2 brothers, our uncles in the coming months prior to the expected eviction.Heres the problem, when I visited the house recently to help clean things up for a potential short-sale and get things ready for moving day, I noticed that mom has purchased a lot of trinkets or impulse buys. Im certain these are partially a result of her depression, but this is also something that has been a lifelong issue for her. She just cant seem to stop herself from buying stupid st that inflates her sense of self-esteem.Examples include aesthetic modifications to her car, feng-shui mirrors above the entrances to her home, multiple Rokus, and some serious hardware upgrades to her 2008 macbook pro.To my point, Im very concerned that by getting her closer to us and potentially subsidizing her living costs even more I stopped long ago but shes sucking my sister dry, shes simply going to take this as an opportunity to spend more to make her feel wealthy again she once had a lot of money, but burned it all in really poor choices.I proposed to my sister that as a condition of our continuing support, that we require her to hook Mint.com to her bank account and allow us unfettered access. I DONT want to monitor her choices daily, or even on any kind of regular basis. I just want it in place so that mom knows that others can see her choices, and that its a matter of public record. Maybe shell think twice next time she sees something shiny on the internet.My sister didnt agree, but I dont know how else to institute accountability for my mom who essentially has none left. Am I fascist in wanting this? Are there better options? I dont want the last years of my moms life to be lived out like a victim. I know shes capable of empowering herself if she were in the right conditions.Sorry for the wall of text, its a messy life.TL;DR: Moms made a life full of poor financial decisions. Facing foreclosure, sister and I must move her out and subsidize her movenew home Dad, long divorced, very likely to help as well. I want to require Mint.com hook-in to her bank account, but have no desire to monitor regularly. Thoughts? Criticisms? Alternatives?EDIT: Shes been in therapy for a while 4 years and I definitely want her to continue with that after the move. So please consider that when providing any advice or suggestions.  <response>: Expecting her to change is just setting yourself up for failure. I would just find a cheap place for her to stay, pay the rent directly to the landlord and stock her fridge with groceries once a week. If she wants a different arrangement you just tell her that the above is what you are willing to provide and its not subject to negotiation.What you cant do is give her any sort of open ended support, shell just manipulate you into dumping more money down the black hole. When you choose the place and the groceries, you limit how expensive it can be. You can discuss it with siblings and possibly split the cost. Then you dont worry about the rest. If she runs up a huge credit card bill, her creditors have a problem, not you. If she doesnt pay the light bill, shell have to sit in the dark. 