<prompt> Human: Im a 30 year old engineer and am starting wedding planning with my girlfriend. Neither of our parents have much money so paying for the wedding will be on us. We each do quite well for ourselves 90,000yr but definitely cannot afford a 20,000 Disney wedding that she has dreamt of since being a kid. I have 100k saved in investments and keep about 15k in my bank account, but I told myself I would not touch my IRAstocks. My question is, how do the people our age who have to pay for their own weddings actually afford it? Do people in our age groupdemographic typically have more money saved up? Or do the parents pay for it most of the time? If not, do the couples take out a loan to pay for the wedding? Through my research it seems that most weddings will cost 15-20,000 no matter where we go. Thank you all for the insight and I hope I didnt come off wrong.  <response>: Its a matter of priorities - if her Disney dream wedding is a deal-breaker, then establish what it will cost, budget the savings for it, and set the date accordingly. 