<prompt> Human: Been with fiance for 6 years and we are getting married in June. She is a nurse making annual salary of 75k and currently is 70k in debt 65k in private school loans and 5k in car loans. Car loan is at 6 and student loans are at 5 rates.A few years ago I worked like a madman to get rid of my own student loans 60k total, 48k paid off aggressively. I worked 40hr week main job and another 25-40 hrs a week doing side jobs and put all of my money towards the loans.Im prepared to do the same for her, but I have some hesitation. I love how much Im currently investing in retirement maxing out 401k and Roth IRA off a 75k salary myself and another 10k from side hustles. And I dont want to stop my investing. I know I dont have to stop investing to help, but could move much quicker towards erasing her load if I slowed my investing for a while.My second hesitation is again I will chasing the short dollar, working menial side hustles, instead of spending my free time investing in myself taking courses and really advancing my career. Plus I love the free time I have now for exercise and blogging.My biggest hesitation is the dedication of my fiance. She says she wants desperately to get out of debt but moans and gets defensive everytime I bring up budgeting and reducing spending. I dont want to resent her if I work harder to pay off her debt then her. Shes not a crazy spender btw just never says no to eating out with friends or getting nails done and has agreed to finally stick to a household budget and track spending, but it was like pulling teeth.Any advice on how I should proceed or what has worked for you to help with your spouses debt? Thank you.  <response>: She says she wants desperately to get out of debt but moans and gets defensive everytime I bring up budgeting and reducing spending.That doesnt bode well. Let her pay it off. 