<prompt> Human: Long time lurker, first time posting. As a little bit of background, I am a recent college graduate May 2012 making 61kyear living in Phoenix, AZ. I guess Im concerned that Im putting too much money right now into retirement savings, which is hurting my ability to live the kind of lifestyle that I have been living the past year or so. As it currently stands, Im putting 11 into my 401k with a 3 match 37.5 of up to 8 from my employer as well as maxing out my Roth IRA using bi-weekly installments into a Vanguard account. This equates to about 20 of my GROSS salary going directly into retirement vehicles. I also have an extra 377month going into a liquid savings account. I have an emergency fund of 10k already in another separate liquid savings account, which would cover about 8 months of just my bills, but that doesnt include foodgasetc, so I would say its about 6 months if worse came to worse.Now to my problem. I moved to Arizona from Virginia, where practically my entire family and friend base are still located. As a result, I have been flying back and forth to Virginia quite often, most of the time for things like holidays but also for weddings, going back to school for football games and to see friends, see family I cant see over holidays, etc. As a result I spent quite a bit of money last year just on travel, between flights average around 400-450 per round trip and foodactivitiesbars, to where I usually spend anywhere from 700-1000 per trip. All told I think I flew back 5 times last year, and probably 3 times the year before. I also found a group of people I hang out with much more locally in Phoenix, so that has meant going to happy hours, bars, sporting events, and movies much more often than I used to. I just seem to be tearing through my savings way too much I pull from the 1st savings account when I need extra money for travelextra purchases, and its no longer growing but instead shrinking. I dont plan on buying a house or anything in the near future, but it would be nice to start building that nest egg for when the time comes 3-5 years down the road.I just wanted to see what most opinions would say is the best course of action here and whether Im freaking out too much about not saving enough for retirement. I feel like I have a firm base with the 10k emergency fund, Im in no debt other than a car payment, and I pay off my credit card bills every month. One of my new years resolutions is to greatly pull back my monthly spending from going out to eat, going to the bars, and buying extra items like clothes and electronics, but I still foresee a lot of travelling this year between a couple of weddings and several holiday family gatherings. Is 20 directly into what I consider illiquid retirement accounts too much, could I stand to pull that back any? Thanks ahead for any adviceinput.  <response>: I think as you put down roots in Phoenix, youll naturally stop traveling to Virginia as much. After the trips you already have planned, do you really think youll be keeping up with friends enough to warrant more trips out there?I live across the country from my family and I see them once or twice a year. My current friends are where I live. If you want to maintain your friendships and see your family that often, I would seriously consider finding a way to move back to Virginia. 