<prompt> Human: So for some background before getting into my problem, Im 17 and almost finished with highschool Im finishing around April next year and Ive been working for a real estate agency for about two years now, my older sister got me in so Ive been fixing up the website and posting properties for two years now. My monthly salary varies depending on how much I worked each month but it never dips below 100 and I usually get around 300 a month. The thing is my parents arent as financially well off, I remember when my sister was my age she started working at a diner and soon afterwards all of her money went to buying groceries, paying the cable bill, and keeping the power on because my dad couldnt keep a job. My dad was horrible to my sister, I still remember him screaming and taking her phone away because she came home drunk once she was out with friends and they found some erotic novels, I was so mad at them because my sister worked really hard to be paying bills they couldnt so the least they couldve done is cut her slack and let her have fun with her friends. When she turned my age she ran away to her boyfriend and started a new successful life Studying to become a accountant right now!. She left about four years ago and for three years now I havent been able to even enjoy my own money. It started out with my dad being unemployed so I didnt mind, I helped him whenever I had money because he is my dad after all. Then he got a job and he got decent pay but eventually lost that job, losing that job forced us to move 6 hours away into a new town just so he could find work. Hes been working here for about 8 months, Im not sure how it started but he made a loan from the bank to just pay for my school fees and the move but as always he wasnt smart with the money and started struggling to pay back. The thing is my dad is an idiot when it comes to spending money wisely, he refuses to let me or my mom do the grocery shoppping but whenever he comes back he buys shit like soda, candy no one in my house except him even drinks soda since Im into fitness and my mom is always on a diet and ofcourse steaks because every Friday we have to eat steaks even if we can barely afford power. For the past four months hes been asking for money, usually around 200 Ive been saving up a little bit, I have no problem with giving him money since I know hes paying of a loan and hes atleast working but I cant enjoy my money, for example: Im going to my sisters for two weeks, I need to buy new clothing since I havent updated my wardrobe in months since I buy all my own clothing. I want to take 120 and use that for new clothing, Ill probably take around 60 for fun activities for my sister and the rest Im saving for when my friend comes from my old town in January ofcourse Im using my own funds for all of this which Im not even complaining about but today he wanted 100! I cant spend or enjoy my money because Im always worried hell ask for money afterwards and Ill have spent it on seeing a fucking friend or buying new clothing. I cant celebrate black friday since hell probably need my money til pay day and what if Im at my sisters and he suddenly needs money, then I have to pay over my money I worked hard to get just because he cant budget his salary or ask for a promotion. Also recently he hasnt even been telling my mom about him taking my money, his pride is too big for that even if he knows hes fucking up. Im moving next year and I dont want him part of my finances anymore, if they desperately need money Ill give them a set amount Im able to give without hurting myself and Ill be paid into my moms account. My moms even been looking for work now since he cant pay the bills. I just really need advice guys, do I keep lending him money til I move out, do I tell my mom hes been taking my money, Im not sure how to approach this situation without hurting anyone.  <response>: Sounds like he depends on you and previously your sister to finance the household while you two arewere minors. Thats really irresponsible of him since it has become a pattern, not just a single rough spot in life. You will likely have to move away to get away from supporting him, since hell probably pester you until you just give him the money to shut him up. Be careful when your parents become elderly, likely theyll have nothing saved for retirement and some states have laws requiring adult children to financially support their aging parents. 