<prompt> Human: In the last 2 months Ive had an expensive weddinghoneymoon and found out our first baby in on the way. I knew it had to be done so I begrudgingly looked at my spending habits. I grew up in a wealthy family and stupidly have never worried about money and here I am at 30 years old. I was hesitant to post because A Im embarrassed about my spending and B i am worried it will come off as a thinly veiled brag. I looked at my last three month average spend and was sickened.The good:95in 401k475k in a portfolio my father is managing mostly funded from yearly gifts from my late grandfather in his last several years alive. He gave each of his grand kids 13k a year for the last 5 or 6 years he was alive... died on 12100k salaryThe Bad:Im doing theses numbers as if my wife and I were still splitting bills. She makes a similar amount.Rough net income: 5,330Housing: 1300Phone: 95Auto insurance: 90Cableinternet: 70Grocery store purchases: 550Eating out buying lunch everydayfrequent dinners: 600Tobacco dipsmokes: 450Alcoholdrugs: 875Random 7-12gas station: 240Sporting eventsentertainment ticketscrap bought there: 400Starbucksbreakfast: 240Other: 145Total 4955I apologize if this isnt a proper post for the sub as there isnt really a question, I just selfishly wanted to post it to publicly acknowledge my problem. Ive never considered myself a drunk or a druggie but these numbers slapped me across the face. I disguise it as oh I only do blow at bachelor partiesweddings or four beers after work is just a way to build closer relationships with coworkers. The reality is that Im spending a shitload of money that my future child deserves on selfish pleasure. Today I make the change.And if this actually does get read and people point to the fact that Im whining and should be grateful of the nest egg Ive been left, I get it. But theres odd feeling that since that money wasnt earned Im a coward for dipping into it. I should be able to provide for my family with what Ive earned. I took 10k out of the portfolio for a small portion of our wedding and I felt pathetic.If nothing else, I want to thank the regular posters of this forum for opening my eyes to the real world. Youve made me realize My drinking, tobacco and drug use is the reason Im not putting the correct foundation in place for my future children.Assistant: On the plus side, your core expenses look pretty good! Rent, auto insurance, phones, cableinternet, and grocery store expenses look fine for your income. The rest of the expenses are nuts but you know that, plus its all stuff you can cut back on and will be cutting back on, because baby. You also need your health - the drinkingtabaccodrugs have other costs. So give yourself a little kick in the tush, but also a little pat on the back for getting your head screwed on at the right time. Human: I appreciate the reassurance. I cant find a way to say it without sounding like a brat, but growing up wealthy Gabe me this sense of invincibility through my teens and earlymid twenties. Would tell myself boozetobaccodrugs are just a phase...would say Im not like those junkies I have a safety net. But in reality Ive just been digging myself into a bigger hole.  <response>: Even young people without money think theyre invincible, healthwise.Illegal drug use stops now -- you cant risk losing your job or savings due to legal issues. If youre addicted to nicotine, you can step down for your health as well as the cash youll save; get a vape rig to transition to something that wont foul your house, too. Of course you can go out for a few beers with work colleagues once in a while, or have an entertainment budget though...some of this moneys going to be going to daycare soon but pay yourself first with your savings plan for the house and then investments for retirement. You have a great start with the money that has been left to you. 