<prompt> Human: The first issue is that it was a terrible thing to do. I work like a dog for my employer, work many hours of unpaid ot, and was told the amount of my bonus in October as usual. The bonus is standard in my industry. My job has very few perks. I was shocked, especially when I heard the cant afford it line. I have access to all the financials and this was our best year ever. My boss took a personal bonus of 50K later that day. I am the only one who knows this. Clearly I cant share this with anyone. Last week, after the news, my boss took us to lunch at a diner and spent the entire time arguing on the phone with their so about their new furniture. They purchased their so a Mercedes a few months ago. They are also taking a trip to Barcelona in March and have just completely renovated their home. Yes, my boss can do whatever they want with their money, but this is one of the shittiest things they have ever done. Ill let you count on your bonus for almost 3 months, tell you 15 minutes before you are supposed to get it that I cant afford it so too bad, walk right back into my office and cut myself a check for 50K, take you out for a 6.50 lunch and argue with my so about my new furniture the entire time and then bitch about how much harder I need you to work because I have a lot of things coming up. WTF? I need to say something. I do not want to let this slide. I worked hard for that bonus. I know I work for an asshole, but this is beyond the pale. I bought a house last year and dont want to walk. If I didnt have a mortgage, I would have got up and left, even after all these years. How do I handle this?Edited to add: I work for a law firm. Year end bonuses are standard. Unless your firm is going under and we are not it is basically unheard of to not give out bonuses. So yes, a bonus is expected. I also dont want to tell off my boss or burn bridges. I am an older female with nearly 40 years in the industry, not a teenager. I simply want what I was promised and am looking for a new way to approach this. I work for someone who is 1 in the state in a certain area of litigation and have been here a long time. Assistant: Can I ask why youre still working here when it sounds like your boss didnt pay you that well to begin with? Is it a very small industry? Like the others have said, get out. If this boss is spending like this, I can assure you that youre on a sinking ship. Human: I make well over six figures a year. I dont know if I made myself clear, but I work for a law firm, and year end bonuses are standard practice at a law firm and are based upon the firms performance. Our firm has performed very well. I am not on a sinking ship. Assistant: I am not on a sinking ship. With that kind of boss, you might be, over the next couple of years. People who treat their employees like that may find that for some weird reason the company isnt doing as well as they thought it would be. Employees not working as hard anymore, employees leaving as soon as they can, etc. Id try to find a way to leave, too.Human: The thing is, my boss has been that kind of boss since they opened the doors. Im not going to say who I work for, but our ship is not sinking. We have to turn down work. I worked 7 days a week for several months this year.  <response>: my boss has been that kind of boss since they opened the doors.There is nothing you can do then. Your boss is shitty and will never change. And you shouldnt be surprised. In some ways, you are an enabler by staying there. I think this is a post more suited to rrelationships.On the plus side, at least you make well over 6 figures. 