<prompt> Human: Last Tuesday, I did something irresponsible for the sake of my mental health and quit a job where I was miserable, without another job lined up. As the sole income provider this was a huge gamble, but I had an interview on Friday that I was feeling really confident about. I should pause here to note two things: 1 Im a codependent, and avoid conflict like the plague. 2 I am this way because of my childhood, being raised by my narcissistic mother. My former boss was exactly like her, hence why I left. So, I killed the interview on Friday. Met the two attorneys I would be working for. They are amazing and offered me a job at the end, but said that they would need the senior partners approval first, so to wait for his call. I got the call this morning. We went back and forth a little bit. My starting point was X, he wanted to offer X-7k. He noted that health insurance is 100 employer-contributed, and not only was I getting 2 more weeks of PTO than my last employer, but I would get PTO on my bday this is actually an awesome perk because mine almost always falls around a federal holiday, which means the potential for a paid 4-day weekend.I said meet me at X-5k, so he said hed do X-7 but cut me a personal check each month for gas allowance. When I incorporated that in, I was almost sold. My husband told me to ask for an additional 50. Whats the worst he can say, No?Well, codependent me was terrified to ruffle the feathers. But I thought, although beggars cant be choosers, Id potentially miss out on an extra 600 a year for the sake of not hurting someones feelings. So I asked. And he actually said that he was taken aback, and felt like I was nickel and diming him! But you know what? I stuck with it. I said, Yes, well, I am very eager to start, so if you can meet me there, I can start tomorrow. He said he had to get back to me.And wouldnt you know, he did. I got that extra allowance. I stuck to my guns. I put conflict aside to make sure he knew right off the bat that I know what I am worth. And it felt amazing.You miss 100 of the shots you dont take. And let me also just add that it feels really good knowing youre earning a salary you can support a family on, and that you made it happen by being assertive. Its just a huge weight off my shoulders, that I wont have to worry about whether I can pay all the bills on time.ETA: thanks for the gold! :Assistant: The amount youre getting paid is low enough that he needs to understand that isnt nickel and dime for you. 600 a year for him is nothing, so if it isnt nothing for you then that is great.Get in there. Work your butt off and do a great job. When the time comes that youre a bit more friends you can talk about it again and make it clear that 50month has greater utility to someone earning your salary than someone earning his.Google diminishing marginal utility of income... There is a ton of documentation about this. Its why there are progressive tax rates.Congrats OPHuman: I told my husband that I wish I had said, Yes, well to my family, every nickel and dime counts, but that could have costed me the job.Thanks. :  <response>: But you kind of did say it. Negotiation is as much about implication rather than what you actually say.They wanted you, he had a little pusback on the nickel and diming, had a think about it and realised that it does mean a lot to you and its affordable for them.Good on you! 