<prompt> Human: Hey rpersonal finance, as you see from the title above, Im having a difficult time mentally preparing for this much of an increase in income. I come from a very poor family where we just made enough to get by. To put it into perspective, we would get 1 Christmas present every year, usually under 20. That kind of poor. Ive had a job since I was 14 and have found that 15 years later, I found myself repeating my parents financial lessons. Nonetheless, I always tried to advance myself. I went to college and tried the 9-5 and it wasnt for me. 3 years ago, I entered a job in sales and found that I was quite good at it. Like really good. Unfortunately, less than 1 year in, my very recent ex-boyfriend of 3 years died of a brain aneurysm. Six month after that, my big sister died from cancer. I couldnt work for 4 months. I spent the next 2 years getting back on my feet, emotionally, financially, mentally. PSA: Have an emergency fund.. Now, almost 2 years to the day he died, Im debt free and making more money than Ive ever made before. To be clear, Ive been following this subreddit for some time now and need to preface that I dont need advice on what to do with the money. I plan on a 50k emergency fund as well as paying off student loans, investing, etc. Im not worried about that right now. The struggle that Im having right now is that Im find myself easily slipping into my comfort zone of I dont need much more than what I need and holy shit I should spend all the money cuz more is coming in so why not. How can I push the boundaries of my limitations and be ready to be in this mindset of wealth and abundance? Would love any advice. Thank you in advance!  <response>: I didnt have as big of a jump as you, but I struggle with guilt when it comes to helping family. They are still low income and many dont understand the importance of savings and retirement funds and think I should choose helping them change their tires instead of pay into my retirement even though they are currently pricing stojne patios for their backyard. I still struggle with anxiety when I see some bills too. I live in an area with a much higher cost of living than where I grew up so the bills seem terrifying. I thankfully have a spouse that takes care of that. I dont really have any advice, but I have established boundaries for family mostly. I also try to be very grateful and I donate to respectable causes that are important to me. 