<prompt> Human: My wife and I are 30, we have two kids. Her parents are 6570. They strongly want to share a plot of land, houseapartment, or big house with us so that we can provide end-of-life care when that time comes.Where do I begin? I need your help with: Two families owning a shared property Minimizing perpetual in-law stress and keeping my marriage through it Helping them get their papers in order Understanding what this all really means. What will be expected of me?I dont think they know how big a load it is theyre pushing on us; and we feel obligated to acquiesce... how can we deny them this when they raised my wife from birth?They claim to have enough money, but I need to know waaay more about what will be required and help them sort through everything... if we move forward with this, Im pretty much accepting financial responsibility for when their funds fall short. side note: theyre not especially thorough, fiscally.  <response>: I have seen how my parents are handling my grandparents and my grandfather currently still alive and some of the problems they ran into. There are a lot of things to consider.Jealously: How are you wifes siblings going to handle the news that you are taking care of the parents? This gets complicated once finances are involved, such as them buying a piece of property for you to live on. Why didnt mom and dad buy my family a house? type of arguments. Also, how will your parents handle this situation? Why dont you want to take care of us?Stress: Taking care of them will most likely become a full time job. It may not be anytime soon, but are you prepared to handle this when it comes? Or will you or they be financially secure enough to hire someone to do this? Living arrangements: Living with them will be stressful. If they are forcing this on you now what else will they force on you once you are living with them? Who exactly will be the head of the household? Will your wife go crazy living with her parents again? What happens when they stop driving but want to continue doing their normal activities such as shopping. What area of the country will you live in? Does anyone have to move for this change? Are you settled enough in your career that you wont be uprooting them from the area you live in?Other financial considerations: What happens when they pass. Who gets control of their part of the houseor the whole house if they own it. Your wifes siblings? Does that mean you have an unexpected amount to buy them out or do you get another set of landlords?What if they outlive their life expectations. Will you be able to support 6 people in the family if their finances run out? Will you be getting any outside aid? A father in laws pention plan? Support from the wifes family? Limited government support?I think 65-70 is a bit too young to be considering moving in with the children. However my grandparents are stubborn and have refused almost all attempts at help and they are approaching 85 fairly quickly. My other grandfather is 92 and is even more stubborn and is still living on his on barley. So maybe them not being stubborn is a good thing. Just remember this is your time to enjoy your family and time with your wife. Not that they cant be a part of it, but just a lot of things to consider. 