<prompt> Human: So, I am posting this on behalf of my SO because he is in a very tough situation and I am not in a position where I can help him much at all. I really need help on advice to give him to help him through this situation. This will be a long and detailed post and if you take the time to read it, Ill be truly grateful. We are both 19. I am fully financially dependent on my parents. I am an only child to fairly well off parents we are comfortable. They pay for my college tuition at a private university and really everything else I need to survive. I am aware that I am very, very lucky that I have such supportive parents who do not require me to work my way through school. They love me and support me and this whole situation has just madd me appreciate that so much more. My SO and I have been together for 5 years. We met freshman year of high school and we just clicked. We make each other very happy and he is my best friend. Now, ever since we first started dating, Ive always joked that my SO has the worst luck of anybody Ive ever known. When he got his license, he went through 3 cars in about 3 years. The first one died on him, the second one was totalled in a wreck that he got the blame for... His parents payed for all of his tickets and fees for the accident, and got him a used car that was very cheap, on a whim, and it died on him also. He worked his tail off trying to make money paying back his parents but after several months of being a delivery boy in his 3rd car with no AC in 100 degrees, his 3rd car gave up and hes been mostly unable to work since then. Hes had a few jobs alongside some of his friends so that he had a ride but they didnt last too long. This all happened before we graduated high school. Eventually I moved to college and we were in a long distance relationship. My SO tried and tried to find work but without a car there were not many options for him what so ever. I also want to mention that his family owns an extra car that they very seldom drive but they will NOT allow him to use it to look for jobs. They tell him that he needs to just figure something out with one of his friends or something. He had a couple small jobs but they only lasted a couple of months. Without going into too great detail, my SO was arrested last summer. It was just a misdemeanor and his parents payed his bail, his court fees, and his ticket. He got off alright but had to pay his parents back all of the money about 4000 for everything. He was now jobless, carless, and in debt. My SO began to lose hope and became discouraged. He didnt look so intently for jobs and spent a lot of time with his friends. A poor decision, but we all get discouraged, and although it wasnt ideal, he was comfortable at home with his parents. Time progressed and I moved into an apartment with a few friends. For the first several months of living in my apartment, my SO didnt visit much. Mostly because it was easier for me to just visit him and my family at home I would have to pick him up and bring him to my collegetown otherwise. Eventually though, after almost a year of living in my apartment, my SO began to spend a lot more time at my apartment with me. Hed come up for a week or two and wed hang out and have a good time. We had lots of fun staying in my apartment and things felt good for us. There was no need, to our love-blind selves at the time, to rock the boat for any reason and have my SO find a job. We were happy with the way things were. Unfortunately, my SO was arrested again not too long ago. It was another misdemeanor, but it was still within a year of his first offense and things are looking a little rough. This time, his parents refused to bail him out or help him. I bailed him out by cosigning on his bail bond with my own money. The circumstances of the arrest could have landed me in trouble too I got off with nothing so I felt obligated to help him in any way that I could. After I bailed him out he ended up staying at my apartment for about a month. He didnt want to face his parents anger and disappointment. Deep down, we both knew it was a bad idea for him to just stay with me and avoid his responsibilities. The length of time he spent in my apartment angered my roommates and they were threatening to no longer live with me next semester and things. We resolved the situation and moved on. He finally returned home and saw his parents this weekend. Things felt calm, almost pleasant when he got there, no excessive yelling or anger like I expected. But tonight, my SOs parents informed him that they want him out by the end of the month. My SO has no car, no current job, and because of how my roommates reacted to his extended stay last time, he wont be able to stay with me, at least not for more than about a week, and I am so scared for him and sick to my stomach thinking of what hes going through. He now also has court fees and likely a fine in his future. I just have no idea what to say to him or how to help him. My parents have given me everything in life, I have NO experience with this. The only current thing I know he has going for him is that he still has his 3rd car it doesnt run and is planning on selling it for parts or on craigslist which will hopefully make him at least a grand. Hes also already started applying for jobs intently again and is doing his best with what little resources he has. I just want to be able to help him and offer him useful advice. Thank you for reading if you got this far. Any and all help is GREATLY appreciated. TL;DR: SO has no car, no job, and is about to be kicked out. Is also facing a court date for a second offense misdemeanor. I want to be able to help him. EDIT: First of all, thank you all so much for responding to my very long post. I logged in this morning to lots of your responses so I think it will be easier to just make a little note here, hopefully you see it. Id like to say that my intentions are not to leave my boyfriend. It honestly warms my heart a bit to hear all of you telling me that I have so much going for me and that I have a great life ahead of me without my SO. As easy as it seems it would be for me to just wash my hands of the situation and let him go, I cant and wont. Firstly, I cosigned on his bail bond. That means if he messes up in any way with that, its going to fall back on not only him, but also me. Even if I was considering leaving him, Id stick around long enough to make sure that he went to court and my ass was safe. Anyway, like I previously stated, we have been in a relationship for 5 years. My parents are fully aware of our relationship and while theyve had their problems with him in the past everything has been happy and peaceful for a long time and they know he makes me very happy. Ive watched him grow and learned every little thing about him. Hes an imperfect person, like everyone else, everyone who commented on this post. Hes made dumb ass teenage decisions that have gotten him where he is. Im fully aware of that, and unfortunately, have contributed to some of those decisions. As a clingy and naive teenage girl at the time, my boyfriend not having a job just meant he could spend more time with me. Now that I have grown up and become independent within my relationship, I dont feel that way anymore and wish I would have let him do what he needed to do in the past. I suppose, he should have known better, we both should have, but you cant change the past. That also leads into his arrests. I really wanted to just leave this out of the conversation but I suppose its going to help if I just talk about them. Yes, as one person commented and guessed correctly, they are possession charges. Both he and I smoke and have for a long time. I really dont know why its illegal for me to indulge in a glass of wine and a small amount of marijuana in my personal time in my home. Its something Ive done for years and I dont have a problem with it. Hes being charged for something that is legal across state borders. I think it is completely ridiculous that he has to go through legal trouble for something so silly and harmless as weed. Also, both times hes been arrested, he was in a car that wasnt his own, and the driver was pulled over for something unrelated to weed. First time, it was his friends car for a taillight that went out. Second time, it was my car for speeding. And I got off scott free, not even a speeding ticket, and he took all the blame for the very small amount we had in my car. Even though it was his second offense. So I do feel a bit obligated, through my own guilt, to help him out however I can. Agreeing with what some of you said though, I think its an activity that he doesnt presently have the luxury to afford. There are more important things for him to be doing and spending his small amounts of money on. BUT, I do NOT want to make this a conversation about marijuana and how people feel about it. I realize this is not rtrees and that is why I wanted to leave it out of the post in the first place. As someone else said, this is personal finance, and Im looking for financial options for him, not for relationship advice or drug counseling, although I do appreciate all of your responses and they are all helpful. A lot of you have mentioned the military. I think this is a great idea. Especially since during the month my SO spent at my apartment, he actually came out and said to me that he was thinking about joining the Navy. All throughout high school his passion was cooking, he is an excellent chef, but his parents were NOT going to pay for culinary school and thats basically where his downward trend started. I feel like a Navy Chef would be an absolutely excellent option for him and I hope I can try to steer him in that direction, especially since he came up with it himself. I am planning on sending him a long text sometime this week or having a sit down conversation with him during my spring break next week about all of this. I care about him very much but I cant do anymore for him and I dont think he realizes how dire of a situation he is in. He could end up homeless, completely homeless, and I wont be able to help and its so terrifying. He told me last night that his parents told him that he has to move out and I immediately felt worried and nervous for him. He seemed simply irritated when I called him, like he didnt care. I posted this on a throwaway because he uses reddit occasionally, but not very often. Im posting on his behalf because I feel like I also need help with what to do in this situation, not just him. But he also, like I said, rarely uses reddit so I doubt he even knows about this wonderful resource of intelligent people like yourselves who have ever so kindly decided to give helpful suggestions. I really do mean it when I say I greatly appreciate your responses. I will keep reading what you all have to say and try to respond a little bit and I will maybe try to post an update after I talk to him or something like that.  <response>: I get that he is your best friend and you are totally in love. But you need to pay attention to a few very important things. He has been arrested now multiple times. That is not likely to stop. What does your future look like to you? Does it look like being a single mom with a lover in jail? Because that is where you are headed. He is unlucky in holding down a job, and has been for the full five years you have known him. That, too, is unlikely to change. Nobody is that unlucky. They are, however, that unemployable. So even if you arent stuck on your own with an incarcerated SO, you will be supporting him for the rest of your life. If thats what you want, then fine. Being unemployable, he will probably turn to selling minor drugs like pot, so he can take care of you. When he gets busted for that, will you blame yourself then, as well as for this most recent time?Dude is a class A loser who has bled his parents dry. If you want to stay with him, nobody can stop you but there is no advice I can give that will fix him. 