<prompt> Human: Title says it all --Ive fired up a job search and while I do make an effort to stay connected with my network - I have now had 2 jobs pop up where I know someone on the inside but have not spoken to said person in 3-5 years. Neither of these contacts were great friends or super close connections; more like we were down in the trenches together and had an ok relationship...then didnt speak until present day. That leaves me sending FB or LinkedIn messages instead of calling.Is it even going to help to reach out to someone like that asking for a reference? Is it better to beat around the bush before asking for help with work or just go straight to the point?Any insight or personal experiences would be appreciated. Both of the situations mentioned above left me feeling silly and desperate - like Id almost hurt my chances.  <response>: In general, people love to talk about themselves. Give them an opportunity:Ive been thinking about applying to X or Y. How do you like working for X company? 