<prompt> Human: I have a family member who cant seem to get on track financially due to a low income. Ive been helping him out occasionally with bills for several years, but I feel like I need to cut off this support to focus on my own financial goals.For those of you who were helping a family member, whether it was a brothersisterparent, and you finally cut off support to them, how did the story play out? Were they able to make it month-to-month without your support? How did your relationship change after you cut off your support to them?  <response>: I think youre asking this question without focusing on what you need to, the person youre assisting. Whatever percentage of time any other redditors dependents succeeded, will have very little bearing on how well or unwell your dependent will succeed without your support. So to turn this around a little bit: What kind of support are you providing? What was the origin of this decision? Was it intended to be a short-term or longterm goal? Has that goal been met? What would be required for your dependent to accomplish that goal on their own? Is that dependent making progress towards making that goal? If so, would you be able to work on a timeline with that dependent for this assistance to stop, or would you prefer it to end immediately even if you could do this progressively with fewer dollars sent each month? If you dependent is actively working to meet that goal, will your dependent be unable to acheive it without your assistance? How much does this matter to you? I could go on, but I think this is a good start. In my personal situation: I have my father in the Dominican Republic, and his entire new family. We have a pretty good relationship, but although they are quite poor, I send no money. I would prefer not to until I have reached a higher salary than my current, or until Ive gotten rid of all my loans over 5, which will take a 1.5 years roughly. My other reason is that I feel like once I start sending money, it will likely never end, so Id rather wait until I can focus on my building up a stable foundation first. Its been difficult, because they have many difficulties health-related, a car accident, not having a place to live. But their other family members have assisted them with a lot of it, and I would like to think that I will help, should a truly truly critical situation come up that no one else can help with. But in terms of continuing support, it would hinder my financial goals, and stability, for the time being. 