<prompt> Human: One of my friends is getting married. The wedding is out of state, he encouraged us to rent a hotel for the night, and of course the wedding gift. I want to continue saving for an apartment. I want to keep my goal of paying off my credit card debt. I dont want to go to this wedding. How would you reconcile this, PFers?  <response>: Just say Im so sorry I cant make it, but I hope you have a wonderful wedding day! and then send a cardgift just after the wedding.Dont feel guilty about it. They know that not everyone who is invited will come.edit: I was out of town for one of my friends weddings, and then I didnt send her a card and check until a few months later although I did call when I got back into the country and left a voicemail. Were still friends! : 