<prompt> Human: I know Ive probably fucked up, so although I appreciate people who like to make sure I know that, I would prefer you keep comments like that to yourself. Thats why Im here, to fix a fuck up. Dont make fun of fat kids in the gym.US - IllinoisIm hoping you guys can help me or give me some adviceinformation that I need to go through this awful situation Ive managed to get myself in.Let me start with the paycheck situation, and hopefully it will segway into the rent issue without being too confusing...When I got my job it was through a temporary staffing agency, who did not do direct deposit since normally the assignment is only 2-3 months long and we are typically hired into the company we are assigned to after that period of time. Because of this, I began using my bank account strictly to pay for bills rent, electric, cableinternet and insurance and have a small amount of back-up funds and I used cash for the rest of my weekly transactions easier for me to be careful with my money as cash as opposed to a debit card.I was recently hired on full-time to my company. While I was considering whether or not I wanted to set up direct deposit, I noticed that when the checks were mailed out I would get them late, so I began the direct deposit process last week. I should have 1 or 2 checks mailed to me before the deposit is ready for use.The only issue now, is that I dont think my employer remembered to cut my check before the holiday.I was supposed to receive my check, at latest, on Monday or Tuesday. As of Thursday, I have not received it. Im crossing my fingers and hoping it will be in my mailbox today, but then I still run into another issue.Since I have my payments made automatically minus rent, which is paid by check, I admittedly dont check my available balance as often as I should. Oh boy, PF. This is where I fucked up.My SO and I have the same bank.My SO and I have the same debit card.My SO used my card instead of his for a large purchase.Now this is where my apartments come in...I wrote the November rent check in the very beginning of the month. They have had it since 112. I stupidly assumed they had cashed it and, of course, me being even more stupid I still neglected to check my available balance. They didnt cash it, my SO made the large purchase which we had of course discussed beforehand and I was fine with on my card on accident. The bills went through. My second November check was delayed, now over a week late. I wasnt able to put any more money in my account before the landlords finally cashed the check... on 123.My account is now -620. My check, whenever it arrives, will be 790.My employer claims that my paycheck was cut and mailed on the Monday before Thanksgiving, so 1124. 10 days later, no check. My boss texted me and asked me if I had it, because another coworker said his hadnt arrived yet either. After I determined it was indeed not in my mailbox, she claimed they sent the cancellation request and will cut me a new check...On Monday.PF, I dont even know where to go from here. Im insanely stressed out and pushing my mental limits with things that are not financially related, and now this is happening. Im getting the feeling that they plainly forgot to mail our checks or they were insanely delayed getting them out--how else could two people, living in different areas of town, getting a check from the same place, still NOT have the check?My SO has some money left but it is not enough to cover rent or get my account out of the negative. Even if he were to transfer the rest of his remaining balance to me, Id still be deep in the red and we wouldnt have any money for gas or groceries for the rest of the week until we get paid again.Our financial situations before this were, and still are, pretty much a mess, Ill admit. Maybe one day if I need more help than my general knowledge Ill indulge PF a little more; so far Ive been able to work my way out of the hard times but I just cant do it now. Im at a loss for how my apartments and my employer could both fail me so miserably at the same time.Right now I want to know what I need to do to avoid getting this piled up and past the point of no return. Since my apartments failed to cash a check that they had in November, am I legally obligated to pay for November and December now? I know the answer is probably yes but if there are any details that I need to know please tell me. If necessary I can get info from my lease agreement.Are there any steps that I can take with my employer, legal or otherwise, about compensation for all the lateoverdraft fees Im sure to get now? It kind of pisses me off that Im the one paying the penalties when other parties have also neglected to do things correctly, and are now fucking with my life.Also, with the way my bank operates Im sure others have this too since the check was cashed without the available funds in it, not only did they charge me a fee for it but they returned the check and will likely try charging for it again in a few days--which, of course, will mean if I dont have the money in the bank Ill have another returned check fee. They are 35 each. I will probably be able to get one waived without issue, as my bank is really into a positive banking experience, but I really dont want to push it past one.It would be possible for me to pay for rent the two times it is owed when my checks come in this week, but now Ill also have bills coming through again so Ill need to be insanely frugal. My SO works in a factory and he will not be working for the next 2 weeks for their annual shut-down. That will help with gas, but nothing else. All other bills will likely go up since he will be staying home, and well be relying on my check alone. He will have 4 days paid to him vacation and holiday but that is going to give us jack squat because he pays child support, too, and of course that will be deducted first.TL;DR Employers mailed check is late, landlords cashed November rent in December and now Im -620, need help with the legal side of what is going on and what I cancannot do.I feel like this post is a big huge mess, probably bigger than what Im in now. If you need clarification on something please let me know. Im having difficulties even wrapping my head around what Im going to do today with a nearly empty gas tank and just enough groceries to last my SO and I the weekend. Ill answer everyone that I can as soon as possible.  <response>: Calling bullshit on your SOs behavior simply because if it was an accident as you claim he would be able to write you a check immediately. Why are you allowing your SO access to your financial accounts when you are not married?Post this to rrelationships for advice on how to deal with the SO. 