<prompt> Human: My husband and I have been together for 7 years, married for 5. We have a GREAT relationship. The only problem is me. We used to both have really great paying jobs making 54K each before bonuses. I was able to pay all my bills, afford anything I wanted, and still had money left over. We both no longer work at those jobs and relocated out of state. We both found jobs that pay way less than what we used to make. He makes an average of 2400 a month and I make about 1800 on average a month. We barely live paycheck to paycheck and I know its because of my poor decisions. I am a social person and like to go out and have fun. My husband and I dont have same days off and hardly see each other so I get lonely, call a friend, and go out somewhere. I know this is a poor excuse, but I really want to do better and make him proud instead of disappointed because I overdrafted my account again. Please help, this sucks. Update I talked to my husband last night and he was really cool about everything. I told him that the key word that sparked a change in my mind is that I realized I was being incredibly selfish. Not in a malicious way, mind you, just in an absent minded way. My husband says that he understands that Im a social butterfly and that its my personality. He just asked that I limit my going out to twice a month and stick to a 2 drink maximum. I tend to get all party mode and start ordering shots for my group, etc.I told him that I will make it happen this time. I want us to be free from debt, start contributing to an IRA, etc. I think that any time Im stir crazy from being in the house, I will take your suggestions and go for a bike ride or exercise instead. Im making ALOT of changes right now with my health I have Crohns Disease, trying to lose 50 pounds, curb my spending. Just be an all around better, healthier person. Sometimes it gets overwhelming and I slip into my old ways, but I know I can do it. I have the best husband in the world and I dont want to jeopardize that with my stupid habits. I sincerely thank you all for your suggestions and help. Update2 I just heard from my boss and they raised me 1.50 more an hour!Assistant: Rather than going out, start having people come to your home to hang out. Buy a 5 bottle of wine, make a frozen pizza and watch netflix.Human: I do that too. I get so bored around the house when its a beautiful day outside. And everything costs money!!  <response>: Could you go on walks instead? There are probably forest preserves or parks where you can get your exercise in, socialize pack a picnic?, and not spend money. 