<prompt> Human: Ill try to avoid going into too much detail about my current salary, budgets, etc. The short story is: my future in-laws have offered to give my fiancee and I an extra 3,000 for a nice wedding Im not really for a big expensive wedding, but hey, free is free. The problem is, this 3,000 seems like its becoming more of an ultimatum than a gift. There are a lot of have-tos with the wedding if we accept the money, which is somewhat understandable. Her logic is that if shes paying that much money, shes deciding where it is, who else comes, etc. I dont mind that much, but it is causing an immeasurable amount of stress on my future-wife, who is already busy enough with her everyday life. So, my question is: would it be stupid to say no thanks to the money that shes offering? I make a pretty good salary and could afford to pay that myself. Should we accept the money as a gift after the wedding, if she insists on giving it to us? Am I overthinking this? Thanks in advance for your help  <response>: Her logic is that if shes paying that much money, shes deciding where it is, who else comes, etc.Plan a wedding you want, not one the mother-in-law wants. 