<prompt> Pfupisa nyaya yacho: Sezvo ukama hwevatano imwe chete hunova hunogamuchirika zvikuru, hunova hunooneka zvikuru uye tinogona kudzidza zvakawanda pamusoro pahwo. Kana kuti ndinofanira kutaura kuti dzidzai kwavari, sezvo kunzvera kuzhinjisa kuri kubuda pamusoro poukama hwevatano hunofadza kunoratidzira kuti vanogona kutidzidzisa takatwasuka zvinopfuura chinhu chimwe kana kuti zviviri! Hazvisi nyore kuva ngochani uye kuva akasiyana nomuzvarirwo. Asi kunobuda kuti pane mubayiro mukuru wokurwira kodzero yokuda waunoda pasina kutonga. Ukama hweungochani hunoratidzika kuva hunoshanda zviri nani kupfuura ukama hwakanaka munzira dzakawanda dzinokosha. Ukama hwevanhu vanoita zveungochani hunoshanda zviri nani pane hukama hwevanhu vasina kuita zveungochani munzira dzakawanda dzinokosha, anodaro Tracey Cox. Hezvino zvatinogona kudzidza kubva kune vakaroorana vane mitezo mimwe cheteyo yevatano: 1. Zvinhu zvose. Havana kubatwa nemirangariro yechirume kana kuti yechikadzi yokuti ndiani anofanira kuita chii muukama. Vakaroorana vari muukama hwepabonde rimwe chete havangowirirani nezvinotarisirwa. Vanogovanisa mabasa uye mabasa muukama hwavo pane kuti iro ibasa romurume kana kuti ibasa romukadzi. Mugumisiro wacho ndewokuti vanoshanda zviri nani seboka - uye havanyanyi kutsamwira zvinhu zvoupenzi, zvokusarura vanhukadzi zvakadai sokufunga muchivande kuti Anofanira kuwana mari yakawanda kundipfuura kana kuti Iye ndiye anofanira kugeza ndiro. 2. Kuziva Mwari. Vanorwisana zvakanaka. Nyanzvi yokurukurirano dzeUS John Gottman, mumwe wenyanzvi dzomunyika dzose mukurukurirano dzechigarire, anotaura kuti vakaroorana vane mitezo mimwe cheteyo yevatano vane mutsa zvikuru uye vakanaka zvikuru kune mumwe nomumwe mukati mokukakavadzana kupfuura zvinoita vanhu vasina kuroorana. Havarwisani somunhu oga oga, vanoita zvakanaka zvikuru, havadzvinyiriri uye havadi kurwa. Vakaroorana vane bonde rimwe chete vanonyanya kuseka pavanenge vachipopotedzana - ndiyo nzira yakanakisisa yokuyeuchidza mose kuti munonyatsodanana, kunyange kana musingafariri zvaitwa kana kuti zvisina kuitwa nomumwe wenyu! Gottman akawana kuti varume nevakadzi vanoita zveungochani vaivawo vane rudo zvikuru, vaiteerera zvikuru uye vakanga vasinganyanyi kuzvidzivirira mukukakavadzana. Nyanzvi yezvepabonde inoti hazvisi nyore kuti munhu ave ngochani uye kuti ave akasiyana nevamwe, asi kuti pane mubayiro mukuru wokurwira kodzero yokuda waunoda pasina kutonga. Neiko vari nani zvikuru kwazvo pairi kupfuura vanhu vane mitezo mimwe cheteyo yevatano? Chimwe chikonzero ndechokuti...  <response>: Kutsvakurudza kunoti vakaroorana vakasiyana vanogona kubetserwa nokucherechedza ukama hweungochani. Nyanzvi yezvepabonde Tracey Cox anoti pane zvidzidzo zvitanhatu zvinokosha zvatinofanira kudzidza. Anoti muripo mukuru wokurwira kodzero yokuda waunoda. 