<prompt> Fingqa isihloko: Njengoba ubuhlobo bobulili obufanayo buya bamukeleka ngokwengeziwe, buyabonakala ngokwengeziwe futhi singafunda okwengeziwe ngabo. Noma ingabe kufanele ngithi funda kubo, njengoba ucwaningo oluningi olukhona ngobudlelwane bobungqingili lusikisela ukuthi bangafundisa thina bantu abangqingili okungaphezu nje kokunye noma okubili! Akulula ukuba ngowesilisa nowesifazane futhi ube ohlukile emphakathini. Kodwa kuvela ukuthi kunomvuzo omkhulu wokulwela ilungelo lokuthanda noma ubani ofuna ukumthanda ngaphandle kokumehlulela. Ubudlelwano bobungqingili bubonakala busebenza kangcono kunobobobobungqingili ngezindlela eziningi ezibalulekile. UTracey Cox uthi ubuhlobo bobungqingili busebenza kangcono kunobobobobungqingili ngezindlela eziningi ezibalulekile. Nakhu esingakufunda emibhangqwaneni yobulili obufanayo: 1. Izinkomo Abaxhomekile emibonweni evamile yamadoda noma yabesifazane yokuthi ubani okufanele enze okuthile ebuhlotsheni. Imibhangqwana ebudlelwaneni bobulili obufanayo ayigcini nje ngokwenza lokho okulindelekile. Bahlukanisa imisebenzi nezindima ebuhlotsheni babo ngokuthi ubani ongcono kunabo, kunokuba bathi umsebenzi wendoda noma umsebenzi wowesifazane. Umphumela uba ukuthi basebenza kangcono njengeqembu - futhi akukho ukucasuka okuncane ngenxa yezinto eziwubuwula, zobungqingili ezinjengokucabanga ngasese ukuthi Kufanele athole imali eningi kunami noma Kufanele kube nguye okhipha umshini wokuwasha izitsha. 2. Izingelosi Balwa ngokungenzeleli. UJohn Gottman, ongomunye wochwepheshe bezobudlelwano abavelele emhlabeni, uthi imibhangqwana yobulili obufanayo inomusa kakhulu komunye nomunye phakathi nezimpikiswano kunabantu abangashadile. Abahlaselani mathupha, banomoya omuhle, ababushi futhi abanamagqubu. Imibhangqwana yobulili obufanayo nayo iyahleka kakhulu lapho kuqhubeka ingxabano - okuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokukhumbuza nobabili ukuthi empeleni niyathandana, ngisho noma ningakuthandi lokho omunye wenu akwenzile noma angakwenzanga! UGottman wathola ukuthi abesilisa nabesifazane abangongqingili babenothando ngokwengeziwe, belalela kakhudlwana futhi bengavikeleki kangako lapho bexabana. Isazi sezocansi sithi akulula ukuba umuntu ongqingili futhi ohlukile, kodwa ukuthi kunomvuzo omkhulu wokulwela ilungelo lokuthanda noma ubani ofuna ukumthanda ngaphandle kokugxeka. Kungani bekwenza kangcono kakhulu kunabobulili obuhlukile? Esinye isizathu siwukuthi...  <response>: Ucwaningo luthi imibhangqwana engashadile ingazuza ngokubheka ubudlelwane bobungqingili. Isazi sezocansi uTracey Cox sisikisela ukuthi kunezifundo eziyisithupha ezibalulekile okufanele zifundwe. Uthi kunomvuzo omkhulu wokulwela ilungelo lokuthanda noma ubani omthandayo. 