<prompt> Fingqa isihloko: Owesifazane osomabhizinisi okhohlisayo ushiywe nesikweletu esingama-100,000 ngenxa yokukhohlisa umyeni wakhe ukuba akholelwe ukuthi unguyise wendodana yabo eyazalwa ngemva kokwelashwa nge-IVF. Emizuzwini embalwa ngemva kwesinqumo, isisulu salokhu kuhlukunyezwa sakhala izinyembezi njengoba sasifunda isitatimende lapho sasichaza khona izenzo zomkayo wangaphambili ngokuthi ziyesabeka ngokuphelele futhi samncenga ukuba aqhubeke eyingxenye yokuphila komfana. Ngiphila ngethemba lokuthi uma eseneminyaka engu-18 ubudala uzongifuna... futhi abe yingxenye yokuphila kwami futhi, esho. Uphuthelwa ngempela. Uprofesa owathi unkosikazi wakhe wangaphambili wamkhohlisa ngokuthi indodana yakhe eyazalwa nge-IVF ngeyakhe, unqobe u-100,000 ngemva kokuba inkantolo izwile ukuthi umfana, manje oneminyaka engu-9 ubudala, wakhulelwa ngesidoda somunye umuntu. Le ndoda - umfundisi oneminyaka engaphezu kwamashumi ayisithupha ongabizwa ngegama ngenxa yezizathu ezingokomthetho - yacabanga ukuthi umfana ngowayo ngemva kokuba lo mbhangqwana uvakashele umtholampilo wokuzala. Kodwa lona wesifazane, osevile eminyakeni engu-50, wayebuyile ezinyangeni ezimbalwa kamuva nesoka lakhe langaphambili futhi wakhulelwa ngesidoda sakhe. Ngangifuna ukuba umkami wangaphambili, nesoka lakhe langaphambili, baqaphele imiphumela yezenzo zabo zokukhohlisa abazenza cishe iminyaka eyisithupha. Lokhu kuye kwangithinta kakhulu mina nomkhaya wami, kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu indodana yabo nendodana yami yangaphambili, okuyinto esabekayo ngempela. Le mpikiswano yeminyaka emine iye yaba nzima kakhulu futhi yangicindezela futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngiye ngazizwa: Ngicabanga ukuthi ngisefilimini elingalungile. Akukhona nje ukuthi umkami wangaphambili wenza inkohliso kodwa futhi wadukisa nendodana yakhe. Angikwazi ukucabanga ukuthi indodana yami ngaleso sikhathi yayizizwa kanjani lapho uyise onothando ethathelwa indawo enye indoda. Yena nayo beyolala kanjani ebusuku? Babengisebenzisa ukuze... ngimondle ngokwezomnotho kuyilapho begcina ukuphila komkhaya okuyimfihlo okuncane ngemuva kwami. Ngiphila ngethemba lokuthi lapho eseneminyaka engu-18 uzongifuna, futhi mina nomkhaya wakithi sizokwazi ukumbonisa ukuthi simthanda kangakanani nokuthi angaphinde abe yingxenye yezimpilo zethu. Uphuthelwa ngempela. Ukukhohlisa kwakhe kwembulwa kuphela lapho, ngemva kwesehlukaniso sabo, lendoda ifuna ukuxhumana ngokwengeziwe nomfana. INkantolo Yesifunda saseLondon Ephakathi yezwa ukuthi lo mbhangqwana washada ngo-2002 futhi eminyakeni emibili kamuva...  <response>: Inkantolo yezwa indoda nowesifazane, ababenenkinga emshadweni, benza i-IVF ngo-2004. Babexabene, ngakho owesifazane wabuyela emtholampilo nowayengumlingani wakhe ngo-2005. Yingaleso sikhathi lapho akhulelwa khona indodana yabo esebenzisa isidoda salowo owayengumngane wakhe. Kodwa umyeni wathi akazange atshelwe ngalokhu kwaze kwaba yilapho ingane ineminyaka emihlanu ubudala. Namuhla unikezwe ama-40,000 ngomonakalo eNkantolo Yesifunda yaseLondon. Ijaji futhi layalela umkakhe ukuba akhokhe izindleko zakhe zomthetho, okukholelwa ukuthi zingama-60,000. Le ndoda ilahlekelwe ukuxhumana nomfana, kodwa inethemba lokuthi indodana iyongithola lapho ineminyaka engu-18 ubudala. 