<prompt> Fingqa isihloko: Iqembu lababhali liphonsela inselele umbono wokuthi ukuba umzali kuyisihluthulelo sokuba nokuphila okwanelisayo nokujabulisayo encwadini entsha enesibindi yezindatshana, ehlaziya isinqumo somuntu ngamunye sokuyeka ukuba nezingane. Incwadi ethi Selfish, Shallow, and Self-Absorbed: Sixteen Writers on the Decision Not to Have Kids ihlelwe ngumbhali waseLos Angeles uMeghan Daum, 45, owahlela izihloko zabalobi abangu-16, kuhlanganise noLionel Shriver, uSigrid Nunez, uKate Christensen, u-Elliott Holt, uGeoff Dyer noTim Kreider, encwadini yakhe entsha, okuhloswe ukuthi ikhishwe ngoLwesibili. Kodwa i-anthology ayibahlaseli labo abaye banquma ukuba nezingane, kunalokho ibheka indlela abanye abaye bafinyelela ngayo esinqumweni sokuthi ukuba umzali akuyona into yabo esikweni elikhulekela ukuba umzali. Ukwethembeka: UMeghan Daum uhlele imibhalo yabalobi abangu-16 ngesinqumo sabo sokungabi nabantwana encwadini yakhe entsha ethi Selfish, Shallow, and Self-Absorbed: Sixteen Writers on the Decision Not to Have Kids. Thina nje sobabili: uNksz Daum, ongenazo izingane, waveza isithombe sakhe nomyeni wakhe. Lezi zindatshana zenza abantu abaningi bakhulume ngezindlela abahlobana ngazo nezingane, abazukulu noma izingane abazikhuthazayo, kusho uNksz Daum etshela iFlavorwire. Wanezela: Uke wezwa inkulumo ethi kudinga idolobhana, kodwa kunezindlela eziningi kakhulu zokuba umuntu wasemzaneni onomthwalo wemfanelo. Abalobi abafaka isandla kulencwadi bachaza ngokungagwegwesi ukuthi bafinyelela kanjani esinqumweni sokuphila ukuphila okungenazo izingane ngaphandle kokwahlulela - okuyinto eqabulayo ekukhetheni okuyimpikiswano ngokungadingekile okuvame ukubhekana nokudideka nokugxekwa. Encwadini yakhe, uNksz Daum wafuna umbono wabesilisa nabesifazane, yize iningi lemibhalo eqoqweni lingababhali besifazane. Ngicabanga ukuthi kufanele siqaphele ukucabanga ukuthi ukuba ngumzali kuwukuphela kwendlela yokuba umuntu omdala, kusho uNksz Daum, ephawula ukuthi akukho lutho olungavunyelwe ukuthi, Ngingumuntu ongeyena umuntu onengqondo kunokuthi lokhu akungifanele. Iqoqo elisha lezindatshana likaNks Daum...  <response>: Incwadi ethi Selfish, Shallow, and Self-Absorbed: Sixteen Writers on the Decision Not to Have Kids yahlelwa ngumbhali waseLos Angeles uMeghan Daum. 