<prompt> Fingqa isihloko: Owesifazane owakhuliswa abalingani ababili bobulili obufanayo uye wabangela impikiswano ngemva kokumemezela obala ukuthi umelene nemishado yabantu bobulili obufanayo ngoba uthi akazange abe nobaba wakhe lapho ekhula. UHeather Barwick, umama wezingane ezine oneminyaka engu-31 ubudala waseNingizimu Carolina, uthi unina wamshiya uyise lapho eneminyaka emibili noma emithathu ukuze ayohlala nowesifazane ayemthanda. Umphakathi ongqingili, ngiyindodakazi yenu. Umama wangikhulisa nomngane wakhe wobulili obufanayo emuva ngawo-1980 nawo-1990, kubhala uBarwick ephephandabeni elivikela ezombusazwe iThe Federalist. UHeather Barwick, umama wezingane ezine oneminyaka engu-31 ubudala waseNingizimu Carolina, uthi uphikisana nemishado yabantu bobulili obufanayo ngoba akazange abe noyise lapho ekhula. Nginibhalela ngoba ngizikhipha obala: Angiwusekeli umshado wobungqingili. Kodwa kungase kungabi ngenxa yezizathu ozicabangayo. Akukhona ukuthi ungungqingili. Ngiyakuthanda, kakhulu. Kungenxa yemvelo yobuhlobo bobulili obufanayo uqobo. UBarwick ukhumbula ekhula edolobhaneni elivulekile futhi elivulekile elizungezwe umphakathi ohlangene wabangane abayizitabane nabobulili obufanayo futhi uthi umlingani kamama wakhe wangiphatha njengokungathi ngiyindodakazi yakhe. Futhi uyavuma ukuthi uyise wakhe ongokwemvelo wayengeyena umuntu omuhle, futhi wayengasazikhathazi ngokuza. Naphezu kokuba ummeli womshado wobungqingili eseneminyaka engaphezu kwengu-20, uBarwick manje uthi uye washintsha umqondo. Umshado wobulili obufanayo nokukhulisa izingane kuvimbela umama noma ubaba ukuba abe nengane kuyilapho emtshela ukuthi akunandaba. Ukuthi konke kuyafana. Kodwa akunjalo, uyabhala. Abaningi bethu, abaningi babantwana bakho, bayalimala. Ukungabikho kukababa kwangenza ngaba nomuzwa wokungabi nalutho, futhi ngangilulangazelela usuku ngalunye ukuba nobaba. Ngangimthanda umngane kamama, kodwa omunye umama wayengeke athathe indawo kababa engangimlahlekele. U-Abigail Garner, umfundisi wamalungelo omndeni we-LGBT nombhali wencwadi ethi Families Like Mine: Children Of Gay Parents Tell It Like It Is, owakhuliswa obaba ababili, watshela i-Yahoo Parenting ukuthi ukucabanga kukaBarwick kwakungasho lutho. Njengoba ngidabukela...  <response>: UHeather Barwick uthi umelene nemishado yabantu bobulili obufanayo ngoba akazange abe nobaba wakhe lapho ekhula. Umama oneminyaka engu-31 ubudala onezingane ezine uyavuma ukuthi umngane kamama wakhe wangiphatha njengokungathi ngiyindodakazi yakhe siqu Futhi uthi uyise wakhe ongokwemvelo wayengeyena umuntu omuhle, futhi wayengasazikhathazi ngokuza Naphezu kokuba ummeli womshado wobungqingili eseneminyaka engu-20 ubudala, uBarwick manje uthi ushintshe umqondo. Ukungabikho kukababa kwakha umgodi omkhulu, futhi ngangizwa ubuhlungu nsuku zonke. Ngangimthanda umlingani kamama, kodwa wayengeke athathe indawo kababa engangimlahlekele 