<prompt> Fingqa isihloko: Umama omyeni wakhe wadutshula wabulala izingane zabo ezimbili ezisencane ngaphambi kokuba azibulale wembule ukuthi indodana nendodakazi yakhe bayaqhubeka beza kuye emibonweni ngemva kweminyaka emine. Ekhuluma ngokokuqala ngqa selokhu kwenzeka le nhlekelele, uZoey Mendoza, oneminyaka engu-41 ubudala, wabelane ngombiko wakhe odabukisayo ngezikhathi zakhe zokugcina noJada oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala noJordan oneminyaka emithathu ubudala, ababulawa umyeni wakhe uKurtis Birth eRingwood, eNew Jersey ngo-Okthoba 2010. Waphinde wembula ukuthi ngemva kwamasonto amathathu befile, wafunda incwadi ethi, Lessons from the Light kaGeorge Anderson, ekhuluma ngendlela izingane eziqhubeka ngayo nokuba nemikhaya yazo ngemva kokufa kwazo. Kungazelelwe ngezwa izingane zami zihleka, etshela i-Yahoo Parenting. Ngangihleli ngibheke phezulu embhedeni futhi igumbi lami lalicwebezela. Kwakunjengokungathi ilanga lalikhanya ngamafasitela, kodwa kwakusebusuku. I-Missed: UZoey Mendoza ukhulume ngokudabuka kokulahlekelwa yizingane zakhe ezimbili, uJada oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala, kwesobunxele, noJordan oneminyaka emithathu ubudala, kwesokudla, ababulawa uyise eNew Jersey ngo-Okthoba 2010. Kwakunezitebhisi ezimhlophe eduze kombhede wami futhi izingane zami zazimi phezulu, zimomotheka. Ngokushesha nje lapho amehlo ethu ehlangana, abalekela kimi. Bangibamba futhi bahleka. Bangenza ngazi ukuthi bayangithanda futhi bayoba nami ngaso sonke isikhathi. UMendoza wathi indodana nendodakazi yakhe bayaqhubeka befika kuye emibonweni, okuyinto emnika induduzo njengoba eqhubeka nokulwa nobuhlungu bokulahlekelwa yibo. Okhathazekile: UKurtis Birth, 38, wabulala izingane zakhe naye njengoba lo mbhangqwana wawudlula ekuhlukaneni. Ekhumbula amasonto aholela ekubulaweni, wathi wayetshele umyeni wakhe ayesehlale naye iminyaka engu - 12 ukuthi wayefuna ukuhlukana kodwa ukuthi kwakuyinto yena ayengayifuni. Njengoba ayezama ukubhekana nokuhlukana okwakusondela, wazama ukuzibulala futhi wabekwa esibhedlela sabagula ngengqondo futhi bavuma ukuthi bazoya emihlanganweni yokwelashwa ndawonye, wakhumbula. Wathi wayezothembisa ukuthi uzothatha imithi yokwelapha ukucindezeleka - nakuba kamuva athola ukuthi wayengenayo - futhi baqhubeka benakekela izingane ndawonye ngaphansi kophahla olulodwa. Njengomama, umkami...  <response>: Indodakazi kaZoey Mendoza eneminyaka emihlanu ubudala uJada nendodana yakhe eneminyaka emithathu ubudala uJordan badutshulwa babulawa umyeni wakhe uKurtis Birth eNew Jersey ngo-2010. Ngaphambi kokushona kwabo, babekhuluma ngokuhlukana kanti uBirth wayezamile ukumbulala - kodwa akazange acabange ukuthi kudingeka avikele izingane zakhe kuye. Engxoxweni yakhe yokuqala ngemva kwale nhlekelele, uveze ukwethuka kwakhe lapho ethola ukuthi izingane zakhe zilahlekile kanye nobuhlungu bakhe lapho ezwa ngokufa kwazo. Emasontweni amathathu kamuva, izingane zakhuluma naye embonweni futhi ziyaqhubeka nokumvakashela, kusho yena. Manje uMendoza useshadile futhi unezingane ezintathu zokutholwa. 