what if the song sings you and then you're like 'my god, i'm actually a fucking terrible person' but you didn't realize it until you heard the song... should you stop singing or .. sing more and try to change the song?.. or just fully accept that you're a piece of shit and keep letting the song alert you to it knowing that you'll never be able to change because you're a piece of shit? asking for ur friend
sounds like you need to start some therapy sessions. you can give or receive the therapy, it doesn't matter