i worry if people are talking about me behind my back. i wonder if i should make my actions harder interpret and therefore my intentions harder to pinpoint. seems like something you'd advise doesn't it
no, i think if you make your actions and intentions shadier i think people will talk about you more. but if they are talking behind your back then you could simply turn around and they would be in front of you. if they are doing it in a far away location, then your best bet is to even the score by talking about them