As a drummer, do you think keeping a consistent beat is something that can be learned and developed, or is it an inborn trait?
i think it gets stronger the more music you listen to, especially if you are listening to music which has been recorded to click (that's almost all music nowadays). then, at show time, just remember that you are responsible for carrying the band and the audience. it's like carrying your children to safety. you won't do it perfectly, no one would, and no one wants to judge you or be mad at you for doing it wrong. they just need to be delivered to their destination safely. their life is in your hands. take care of them and own up to the responsibility. someone's gotta do it