throughout all this time i would ask people "how do i get out of this habit, how do i change?" and they said almost every time "...just do it? there's literally nothing stopping you." which seemed kind of asshole-ish. cuz it didn't really seem like advice. but lo and behold, last night i just "did it" and i can't explain how i "did it". i just did. the comping/voice leading was beautiful. it was honestly jus
 t a deci
 sion to do it.
actually for that issue, at least the one you first mentioned, i definitely have some tangible hints, althought it seems like you've already been through it, based on your experience with song books, etc