Whenever I go out,like to a bar, I tend to cut myself off from what's happening instead of fully engaging myself with what's happening. Like I want to be with a nice woman, but when the opportunity arises, I become apathetic and I fail to have the "oomph" to put myself out there and get people invested in me.  How can I combat/change this? And what can you say is the cause of this apathy?
i have no idea how to meet people in a social environment. i only know how to meet people when doing business