And don't worry, i'm not expecting a direct answer, both because you're not a very direct person in your responses most of the time, and more so because all great teachers of philosophy and introspective thought never just tell people what they are trying to get them to understand.
ah, that's true. i think showing can be more effective than telling. even better than showing is if you can get them to actually do it ... or, for a twist, realize they already have done it