i feel that the videos on your website take a longer time to load compared to videos on youtube
that's true, but the advantage is you only have to 'load them once, and then you can horse around with the playback much more readily (start/stop, back forward, etc). Or you can use youtube if you prefer, the advantage there is they will tell you what to watch next, and sometimes even what to buy, or who to vote for in the next election