how to enjoy smalltalk when I most likely dont have a lot in common with the person talking and/or not a slightest hint of what might be interesting to both of us. When you kind of feel (or maybe its just me) like you can't really open up about what you enjoy thinking/talking about for fear of being judged. How to care less about the impression I give people when my me-ness can sometimes be offputting if I do open up myself to people?
think more about them than about you. ask questions