R.E: the 'ignore people being demanding/be nicer to well-intentioned people' -- I get that you're gonna be ignoring a lot of shit thrown your way in a calm fashion.  I guess what I was trying to say was stop worrying too much about what pushy people think, and not everyone who says 'don't overwork yourself' is demanding you change your work ethic -- they probably mean well and just want you to be happy, even if they're coming from a place of ignorance. I was trying to be useful and supportive, but I think it may have backfired.
the support is wonderful and i appreciate it. it still feels insane to receive so many conflicting messages. but i am used to it. did i mention i also receive conflicting messages from myself