the big fellows in peters congregation help daddy to his car by lifting him by the elbows and droppin him inside , and its then that mama breaks down crying bout how difficult it was , and how she was so shamed , and then all the church ladies come up to her and smother her with a fluttering of white-gloved hands prettying her up and pulling the grass off of her hair , and smoothing out her dress and generally telling her this wernt no doing of hers .