i try to do that myself ... .i see they are my family and my brain knows i can not win by attempting to change 100 years of proud church history ( my grand dad 's grand dad was a proud elder of the church ) so for the most part i try n keep quiet and let people be , then once in awhile something comes up that is so wacky to my brain i say/email/call/ things i ( should ) know will be taken the wrong way , and be twisted into something i never meant ... ... .like the gay teletubby thing .