the center of controversy is a maid-for-you mixer which symbolizes a boring , routine suburban life with no second chancesthen along comes insight in the form of tula rae , a sixty-something salsa dancing , dalai lama quoting , four time widow in spandex and a gray braid who gives them a different perspective on life , love , do-overs and the real reason a man buys his woman a maid-for-you mixer , ( which she says is all about s-e-x . )