`` hey stephen , the past is behind us , we can never return ; all we have to encourage ourselves : look forward , give the best of ourselves , have mercy ; all of you are wrong , we are human , we are dominated by passions , pain , desires , do not always have good feelings ; believe me , i 've had time to reflect on what life and death will take us all to the end and this should not make us want to hurt the other , but their joy ; we must give the best of ourselves for the good of all . ''