he gave me the ring in hopes that i will come around and agree to marry him , but in the meantime he thought that by my wearing it and our telling people that we were getting married that it would protect my reputation with the project i spoke of , you see , im pregnant and the physician that i spoke of would use this to hurt my reputation with the board and convince them that with the responsibilities of raising a child , i couldnt be there for the project when it was most crucial and it will never go forward and he will secure all the funding for his wing .