but maybe he stopped writing you as a secret admirer because hes a decent guy that doesnt want this to be like those creepy guys on the internet that approach you online ( red flag # 1 ) and have all of these nice things to say to you , all of these romantic things ( red flag # 2 ) and then they convince you that meeting them face to face is a safe idea even though their main goal is to eventually get you totally alone with them leading you away from any public place so no one else sees what they are about to do to you ( red flag # 3 ) since they ultimately turn out to be violent criminals that kidnap you , rape or kill you .